This question is directed toward the guys. When you meet an ASP for the first time what qualities and characteristics of the appointment makes you want to go back for more? Is it an awesome attitude? Is a great sex that makes you want to go back? Is it one specific act that the lady does that curl your toes? Is it a genuine connection? What makes you want to go back for more and more and more and more of the same lady?

Her Attitude, Performance, Affordable Price and Overall Experience is what keeps me seeing her. Been seeing her for well over a year. I haven't seen any other Girl. When I want to play she's the only one I see. At this point she considers me a Friend.

an awesome attitude( meaning over the top enthusiasm) rather, a lack of apathy. It's possible a specific act or position can bring me back. I still have vivid memories of two ladies and specific positions that were unforgettable. I don't believe a genuine connection is possible. Even though encounters with some ladies feel more relaxed than others I know we would never be involved in "real" life so...I don't go there but you can breed the benefits of familiarity with one another. Which leads to the great sex possibility. I've never had great sex on a first visit. Coming back for more gives us a chance to see if that will happen.To me, this is the best part of seeing providers. The problem is I never know if she feels the same. That is, is she TRYING to get to better sex as time goes by or just fufilling her GFE duties. Now, I know WHY this happens but that is what I'm trying to find in a provider.If I can determine if it's going in the right direction I will continue to see her in an effort to get there.

I'm curious. How often?

She's so amazing but you won't review her or identify her, and you have posted repeatedly about paying her less than her published rate.  With friends like you, who needs enemies?

You mentioned an awesome attitude.   That is perhaps the single biggest factor.   I suppose that falls into the same category as "enthusiasm" for the session.   I love for a woman to be playful as well as open and honest.   If she happens to tell me her real name on a subsequent date, it tends to make  a bit of a connection and establish trust.   I also really enjoy if she opens up and talks about her sexual experiences.   It is such a turn on, as I am very attracted to sexually active women.  Also builds trust.  As for physical acts, great DFK is such a wonderful thing and tends to make the entire date better.   Personally, I really like for cim to be available, even if we don't do it.   I have a few friends that let me take pictures of them.  That always keeps me coming back.   I usually delete nearly all of them anyway, but starting a date off with a red hot photo session is mind blowing and always makes for a terrific date.   If she should happen to send me a sexy picture of herself unsolicited that usually ends up in me contacting her and arranging a date.   I also enjoy "speaking erotica", I guess also known as dirty talk, but mine is more fantasy related rather than F me, F me.   Falls back into the playfulness attraction.  Lastly, and I hate to bring this up but I want to answer the question honestly - if her time is a good value.   I have a couple of friends that offer me special rates/frequent flyer discounts (their idea, not mine, so please don't flame me).   It is appreciated and I keep going back.    Great question - thanks Tara.

But especially when there's a connection.  Whether it's real or not is not my concern...if it feels real to me in the moment it intensifies the sex, makes for a mind blowing session and pretty much ensures my return.  The edge of the even the sharpest knife dulls eventually but I ride those rare connections for as long as I can.

Because you really know how to make shit up.

1. We get along well
2. The quality of service doesn't decline. In other words, she doesn't start taking things for granted and get lazy with the service because we know each other.

tastes great and less filling..

I think I am like most guys and I enjoy the variety of the Hobby. I had one provider that I saw repeatedly over the years until she retired. I would see her every time she visited Chicago, usually twice a month... we had a great connection, great sex, definitely considered ourselves friends but I will be honest, what kept me coming back was the "Special" rate she gave me as a repeat customer. It was good for her because I think she knew she could always count on seeing me and I am sure she had a few other friends she had the same arrangement with... She first suggested the arrangement herself and it worked out well for both of us.

Lol

The first time is mostly based on looks, body, and reviews (the text description, NOT the scores, I don't trust the scores anymore). The first session usually makes or breaks it. Great sex is important, a nice bod and a good looking woman are also important. But far more important is personality and attitude. Those who I see again and again have great personalities, beautiful smiles, they love to laugh and joke around and sexy time is not only hot but fun and a few laughs make it all the more fun. Providers who don't take themselves too seriously make my day

I agree. When I am visiting with a new hobbyist for the first time it usually is based on looks and reviews. When I meet with someone I like to get to know them personally before all the fun begins. I am not a clock watcher (but don't let anyone take advantage of that fact).
You need to be able to share some time together, have fun and enjoy everything involved!!!
Then you can have your ATF or special fun friend to build on. You can change your rates just for that person, you can go out and spend special time with him/her that you don't usually, etc. Attitude is everything (after you meet!)
Love
Zana

Posted By: Polish_Pirate

The first time is mostly based on looks, body, and reviews (the text description, NOT the scores, I don't trust the scores anymore). The first session usually makes or breaks it. Great sex is important, a nice bod and a good looking woman are also important. But far more important is personality and attitude. Those who I see again and again have great personalities, beautiful smiles, they love to laugh and joke around and sexy time is not only hot but fun and a few laughs make it all the more fun. Providers who don't take themselves too seriously make my day  
   
 There's no bigger turn-off than to meet a hot sexy woman with a piss-poor attitude or zero personality. I've experienced very few of these types over the years and those few were generally agency girls who I couldn't do a lot of screening on ahead of time (no communication).

+1.

You get it - I've gotten that sense from you all along

I am in my late 60s.  I love the enthusiasm and conversation of a lady as well as their desire to satisfy me.  While it is difficult for me to climax, I have found only a couple of ladies whose oral talents bring me satisfaction

It just makes sense to me as a provider and a woman that we should just have fun (and yes b4 everyone says anything there are other things involved with each person) but for myself. I like to get to know that person. Talk, have a drink (water or something else ~vodka, red bull my fav)... then you can build something that you can share for more than one time. This is the benefit of having fun with a "friend" that you already know and he/she knows you (to a point of course)... either way... we are all pleased.
Love
Zana

Posted By: Polish_Pirate

You get it - I've gotten that sense from you all along  
   
 There are many on this and other boards who treat this strictly as a business and nothing more. That works for some but for me, I have to like someone as a person and enjoy spending time with them. The few providers I still see are good to me, they treat me very well and I really appreciate them for it. They're fun to be around, have great senses of humor, we joke and laugh (even when it'd be better if we weren't if you get my drift, lol) but this makes it FUN. They're fun, I can't wait to see them and I leave feeling good about them. It took years to get to this point but I like where I'm at right now. Heck, the current ATF is the nicest girl I've met in this hobby but the others are nice as well.  
   
 To the OP... we come back when we feel good about spending time with you and you satisfy our needs. It's not just about great sex, that's the icing on the cake but we like the cake too

I repeat if there is a general connection which can consists of quite a few things. A sense of humor ranks high on my list "lets have some fun"! There needs to be something in common we both have a passion for. Looks are in the eye of the beholder who doesn't like a woman that can carry herself in a sensual way! Being a mature woman not just in age but in mind as well or worldly. I have to say if I can push some buttons there is nothing better than the sound of a woman being pleasured. The sex should be mind blowing for both of us isn't that why we are here?

Her face, her smile, her eyes, her hair, her body.  I prefer a a blonde, 5'6' or less, natural breasts on the smaller side, a waist to hold and nice butt.  A never ending visceral attraction.    

I agree with everything posted here.  As with Mr. Flintstone, I am past my early 50's and appreciate when a provider does not look at me like a cliche.  "The dirty old man who  just wants a lay from a young chic like me".  Oh yes, I have had that experience on a couple of occasions.

act like I am the greatest lover in the world because we all know I am not... but.

For me-

Hey I'm sorry if you guys are Jealous. Every time I respond to a posting somehow it turns into "Who's The Provider I'm Seeing" Discussion.

Hashanah!

Which is why you were looking for a provider while out in Vegas, as pointed out by Jack in this SAME thread!  You really need to get your story straight.