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It depends on the provider, at the end of the day. I personally do not mind if somebody asks me about these things in a tactful manner, as there are certain things that I need some advance notice for or may have a different rate (greek or pegging sessions for instance).  

If you're looking for something specific rather than just "gfe" I really prefer to know it. It's obvious when someone has no intention of booking and is just messaging for free spank bank material... Just be respectful in your approach so you don't come off as a timewaster, i.e. "I had some questions in what you offer in regards to kink.... Is it ok if I ask that here?"  would be fine, and then keep the questions short and succinct. If she doesn't want to see you after asking that, I'd just chalk it up to incompatibility and move on.  

This  is just my opinion, like I said. I know it can vary from person to person.

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What is the best way to ask a provider about a specific interest, like a specific kink or activity? I know we both want to make sure we're a good match, but when first communicating I want to be discreet and respectful, and don't want to be too graphic. Is that the sort of thing to discuss in person only? If asking in a text, email, or phone call, is there a tactful way to bring up specific things you're looking for? This advice would be a great help to us socially awkward guys.

If you do, odds are there will never be a first meeting

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It depends on the provider, at the end of the day. I personally do not mind if somebody asks me about these things in a tactful manner, as there are certain things that I need some advance notice for or may have a different rate (greek or pegging sessions for instance).  

If you're looking for something specific rather than just "gfe" I really prefer to know it. It's obvious when someone has no intention of booking and is just messaging for free spank bank material... Just be respectful in your approach so you don't come off as a timewaster, i.e. "I had some questions in what you offer in regards to kink.... Is it ok if I ask that here?"  would be fine, and then keep the questions short and succinct. If she doesn't want to see you after asking that, I'd just chalk it up to incompatibility and move on.  

This  is just my opinion, like I said. I know it can vary from person to person.

Thank you! This is super-helpful :)

I'd suggest just asking if it is okay to discuss services, just do it in a round about way. For example, "I was hoping to indulge in a particular fantasy, would you be open to discussing it beforehand?" This way you're not mentioning any specific activities and you leave it up to the provider to decide if she's willing to discuss them. It might not work with all providers, but if you are dead set on asking put the ball in her court and ask her if it is okay to discuss it with her.

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