You don't deserve that kind of tight squeeze, unless, of course the dude were to have shown up.
Bottom line - major lack of sensitivity about your time constraints, or lack thereof. Hey, you missed out on other clients and friendship time. He should pony up for your wasted time, energy, and disappointment.
I am not sure if its "tire kickers" or people who just forget to be polite, but here is the scenario.
You are chatting with a guy via email. He gives you prescreening. You discuss a time, with emails back and forth, and you agree and reply back "are we confirmed?". Meanwhile, someone else asks for that time frame and you turn that down. A friend invites you to lunch. You turn that down. Then you sit there and hear nothing back... That day... The next day... A week later....
Technically not a NC/NS as, while he asked about a specific time, he did not send a final confirmation.
So, gents what do you think? In my mind, this was rude behavior and an apology that day or the next is warranted. Not only did he cost me an appointment, but he downright inconsiderate.
We understand that things come up. Had he been called into a meeting, had he been called home or to school about a family emergency, we would have to empathize. Hearing nothing, however, makes us wonder if he was kicking tires or playing games.
You would think they would move on.... Don't get me wrong,99.9% of the Chicago gents are decent, nice guys. Wonder if the holidays bring out the not-so-nice ones. Its not just me. Have heard the same from other ladies.
Unless I know someone, I insist on being contacted and emailed using my contact page on my site. I only allow up to 3 emails total. His reply to me to confirm his scheduled appointment, and his reply back with one last email to me to provide information I need or to ask me a question in which he might need to have answered . If someone does not answer me when I ask them what time , I move on. I really hate emails and texts and I let them know this one way or another and I tell them I would rather call him. If no answer I have no time for time wasters.
I always get a contact # and call them the day before to confirm or uncomfirm any possible appointments and book the sure thing over a might be.....I have learned you can only count on yourself so I live my life and if they finally do call and I am busy their loss
Its because he gets off on the communication itself, and it costs him nothing. When it comes to plunking down the 300-500/hr, he just doesn't want to do it.
this happens quite often. Last week I was waiting for someone to respond and I wasn't at my incall (was an hour away). Was getting closer and closer to the time we were supppose to get together and I still hadn't heard from. Decided to start heading to my incall. 'After' our scheduled time he called me and apologized. Fortunately he said he would reschedule and reimburse me for some of my drive time (two hoursound trip). This is actually unusual this happened this way, usually I never hear back from the person. At least this getnleman was kind enough to get back to me and offer to reimburse me a bit for my drive time.
I usually don't head to my incall but thought I'd take a chance, will never do that again. Keep in mind, this guy did not say he might be able to get together...he said he could and gave and exact time as to when he could get together.
You don't deserve that kind of tight squeeze, unless, of course the dude were to have shown up.
Bottom line - major lack of sensitivity about your time constraints, or lack thereof. Hey, you missed out on other clients and friendship time. He should pony up for your wasted time, energy, and disappointment.
Something very serious may have happened to the guy. The list of what could have happened is long. Maybe not serious at all....maybe his computer crashed and still has no way to email you back. I know, it's a stretch, but possible. He could be laid up in a hospital bead. Until you really know the reason, we can all only guess. Worst case; he could be living in his car because his wife found out and access to a computer may be the last thing on his mind.
Serious issue or not, one day he at least owes you an explanation based on the emails and planning that was set up.
Unfortunately, if he was kicking tires, you'll most likely will never hear from him again.
What I don't get, you can kick allot of tires in this sport, you can talk to a girl, email a girl, but no reason to inconvenience or deceive a girl.
If you NEVER hear from him again, he's dead or a tire-kicker.
The unneeded stress and worry, the disappointment at having to tell other gentlemen "no," the feelings of resentment that can damage an otherwise lovely friendship when your unconfirmed friend finally says he isn't going to be able to make it (assuming you know him and he actually follows up eventually at some point). These feelings were dragging me down, sucking away at my energy and thus affecting my ability to excel both as a companion and at my personal life. Sometime in the early part of this year, I finally said "to hell with it" and stopped chasing my tail.
There will of course be a handful of gentlemen out there who due to their hectic schedules simply cannot commit until last minute. And, that being the case, if a day they requested some days or weeks ago is still available, then I am more than happy to connect with them. However, I have ceased placing myself in the position of stressing over "will he or won't he" by choosing his maybe over another man's confirmation, should a confirmed request for the same day come up. This way the "maybe" folks are free to operate in teh way that works for them, and it does not impede upon my time or emotional well being.
We cannot change others, but we can change our own behaviors to solve just about any issue!
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