I don't have a problem with putting down a deposit for an appointment.  But, I recently had an experience with a local provider who wanted 30% down.  She is very low volume and has limited days per week.  I was anxious to get on for a specific date, and I only had 25% so I sent it with a note that the remainder would be sent ASAP.   I sent it to her, and she returned it with a slightly miffed message.  I apologized and then sent her the full amount of the deposit plus $125 to show good faith.  It's been a few days and I haven't received any replies back from her.  I guess I learned an etiquette lesson.

is your appointment?   If you dont hear anything, yes you learned a hard lesson.   The lesson you can teach is to share the name so that everyone can be on notice of who she is.

I made the appointment based on the dates of her availability listed on her site.  She had several dates in July listed.
I will give her a little more time before I out her.  The only thing I can think of is that she is pissed that I sent her $300 for deposit instead of $375.  I was anxious to get that appointment.

I hope it works out.  Although, my intuition is screaming that you may have learned a very hard lesson.

Her last TER review was July of 2024. All great reviews, but I should have seen that as a red flag.

Sorry, but I would not send deposits to any provider who is not reputable here on TER. To be eligible for TER’s top 100 list of reviews you need to be active by having a current review within the last 3 months.  

She requested 30% deposit, which comes out to $375.  I was anxious to get in on what appeared to be specific and limited days.  I only had $300, so I sent it with a message that I would send the other $75 ASAP.  I just wanted the date secured.  She responded with displeasure and returned the $300, minus the Cash App service charge.  I then sent her $500 for the deposit which included an extra $125 for the trouble.  That was on June 21 and no response back yet.  I think 4 days is more than enough time.  Her name is Adora (Adora Diamond).

This is the scoundrel.  Adora (Diamond)  Link below.

The math does not add up. She is $1000 for one hour or $1500 for 2 hours. In either case, the deposit would be either $300 or $400. What am I missing? Hope this works out for OP

I apologize, I meant to say she wanted 25% deposit=$375.  I first sent her $300.  Then after she returned it, I sent her $500 on the 21st.  I then sent 2 short follow up messages with no response.

Sorry, she initially requested 25% not 30

Based on the fact that she refunded the first deposit.  And, the effort that has been put into her web site, I'd guess that she's legit enough.

This scenario sounds troubling. The overwhelming majority of companions who require a deposit will have a policy along the lines of "[Deposits are not refundable unless I cancel.]"

Yes Adora is on P411.  I sent my appointment request to her from her P411 page.  She responded quickly and seemed fine until I sent the partial deposit.  

Unless things have drastically changed and I missed the memo, they should be able to intervene. Companions have a section on our Preferred 411 profile where we can detail our deposit or cancelation policies. In fact P411 is very thorough to the point where they require updates to those policies to be reviewed by them before the change can be reflected on a companion's profile.  

Thanks for the info.   I will try to see what P411 can do here.

I just finished filling out a complaint form on P411 for Adora (Diamond) Adora (P100728).   It's been a week since I sent her a deposit for an appointment and haven't heard back from her since.  i followed up with her with 2 more emails and I gave her plenty of time and opportunity to get back to me, but she completely ghosted me after I sent the money.

Yeah, I remember her from back in the day.  She retired awhile back and came back.   The guy she "fell in love with" (from the hobby I think) was a deadbeat, lived in Minnesota,  and she supported him financially.    She had a lot of financial problems, came back to the hobby more than doubled her rate.   Attitude changed too - she is now on my Do Not See List which is getting longer these days.

I have never given a deposit and I don't intend to. Definitely not appropriate for this type of business. If everyone would work this way then they would simply stop asking. I am surprised this keeps coming up.

There are some long standing providers with great reputations who request a deposit.  If you see a provider for the 2nd time and you both got along, they don't ask for it.  Some don't ask for one ever.  Adora is no longer on P411 because of this.  

I guess I've been lucky in that I haven't been "burned" by sending deposits, regardless of the lady having reviews here or elsewhere.  I tend not to look for those before I reach out to someone.

That's unfortunate, hopefully you hear back from her. I was scheduled to see her while she was supposed to be touring last year but she couldn't make it. She sent back the deposit since she was the one canceling.

Yeah I don’t believe in deposits.  Never .
What’s wrong with trust and do the right thing if need to cancel ?

I agree with this.