This is a question I have been muddling over for a while. Send my some opinions.
Escorts are service providers but so many hobbiests just love to make us cum. This is a kind gesture and is often pleasurable if a hobbiest really knows his way around, however I have in the past had folks that did not. I would redirect them in order to set up for a wild orgasim on my end. I know my own body very well and love to cum time and time again but I notice some guys think that they know best, ignore my ques and stick to doing what they are doing because it's more exciting for them ...
If me cumming creates a boring situation for you should I still chase the cum if it's what a hobbiest originally said he wanted to facilitate ....?
Is the authenticity of actually cumming (though it may be a little boring) or "the fantasy" of making a sexy provider cum what you go for?
Thoughts?
Since I was a teenage boy when I didnt know shit about pleasuring a woman to now when I know just a lil bit more than shit about it... I guess I am a giver and nothing makes me hotter than DATY and getting a woman off... practice practice practice over 30+ years and not thinking I know it all seems to work the best for me. When I realized all women were different back in my mid 20's it opened a huge door. In my 30's I climbed inside my own mind thinking of what I liked while receiving oral, then one day in that mindset, with a gal I was dating, I took the approach that I was going to give her a blow job. Seriously I was literally treating her pussy and clit the same ways I had been blown by different women over the years and that opened up an even bigger door. Even now when a woman blows me a different way than the rest or a woman guides me to what gets her off, I put that shit all in my memory for the next time I get to try it on some unlucky woman 
I am always trying to find that next revelation in my mind when some new ideas about eating pussy just click in my head. To me DATY is my favorite thing (with the right cookie of course) even more than penetration. So my answer has to be that her authenticity is what I crave the most and absolutely would sacrifice my pleasure for it, except that generally that is my pleasure, not a sacrifice. Even to the point of a sore neck, shoulders, tongue and puddle of my precum on the bed or floor etc.
if you know it's not going to happen for you today then I prefer you tell me and we move on to you pleasuring me. If it might happen, I very much appreciate your instructions and I will endeavor to follow them.
I'm sure I've been with a few ladies that fooled me but it's usually quite easy to tell. If it's not going to be real for you then let's spend the rest of our time making it real for me. I don't view a failed attempt as boring but more a waste of time.
Good feedback!
I think that what will actually happen and what some guys want to happen is in conflict. I try to be real about it. Ill never say I came if I did not. I also know how to make myself cumm on someones dick but ill have to be in charge, which in some cases is offensive for people.
I honestly believe that escorts rarely, if ever, climax during mycsessions. I'm in my mid-50's, and can't imagine why a girl in her 20's would find me physically attractive enough to climax...,especially considering the amount of sex she is having. Therefore, if I want to physically pleasure my companion, I give her a back rub. But in the end, it's not a balanced relationship...it's a transaction: I get a climax, and she gets an envelope...and everyone is satisfied. So I would be unhappy if my HIRED companion decided that her own physical pleasure took precedent over mine.
I both agree and disagree with you. Yes, we're providing a service. I find that most of the time, clients come to me in good spirits, love to enjoy a woman's body and initiated our meeting with the objective to have a great time. I consider myself to be a pleaser... it gets me off to get my clients off........ Many of us do see multiple men in one day and you cannot expect every provider you see to cum every time you visit them. It's not realistic. I have to admit that I also enter each session with the j tent to enjoy myself and I genuinely try to orgasm... even if I'm trying in vain because the guy thinks using his teeth to rake my vagina will bring me pleasure. It wasn't until a recent session with a client that I was sort of "put in my place" because he told me my hitachi was distracting to him and to put it away. I was super disappointed. He cared nothing about my pleasure. It's rare to find a balance to the the giving and receiving of pleasure. Some clients are honestly there to try to make you cum your face off while others might as well fuck an expressionless cold doll.
I find something in most guys that I find attractive. I can cum most of the time...other times your right it wont happen.
Keep those envelopes and backrubs coming you know what we like!
I need her to fun, and I need that to be authentic. If I think she faked it, then I'd probably not be interested in seeing her again. It's about the connection between us. It's about understanding and having a degree of control over her pleasure. But it has to be a mutual thing for me. She's also gotta be good with my pleasure. Ultimately the goal is for both of us to experience the pleasure of pleasing the other.
Feeling a woman cum during intercourse is so hott. Feeling her friction loosen around me as she squeezes her lips around my shaft to milk out as much intensity is mind blowing. I once had a provider that wanted me to DFK when she came like that sdo I'd know I'd given her an intense O.
The fact the I know what she likes and I know how to make her cuz and I know she enjoys it is what will keep me wanting her.
Thanks! This is interesting....What if her coming required her just riding your cock for a super long time? It would not get boring for you?
No.
I think the ladies I've seen would tell you I'm respectful and I do get off on their getting off. I love being giving but honestly I'm the one paying for the good time. It's perfectly okay to lie to me. We have such a limited time together and honestly the civvie women I've known have mostly been pretty selfish. I don't want to feel bad if I don't meet your needs. I appreciate that you would never even look at me at my age if not for the money and that's fine. That's why I love you girls. Because I get to be with you in spite of everything. So lie to me. Please. And show me a good time.
It's pretty narrow-minded to believe that all pleasure is derived solely from orgasming; it's also one hell of an expectation that really puts a lot of pressure on both parties. There's nothing worse than being with some one and hearing those 4 dreaded words- "did you come yet?" Nothing shuts down an orgasm faster than the pressure to have one, and that's for both parties involved.
What if the most pleasure I derive from a session is seeing the intense pleasure my client is experiencing? What if my pleasure is derived from making someone feel comfortable enough to explore more taboo areas of their sexuality? I'm way more interested in that than I am in having a forced or fake orgasm.
If I just so happen to orgasm during a session (oh, it certainly does happen, don't get me wrong), it's normally during extended time together, and normally with someone I've spent time with in the past. It's a lot of hurried work to make sure two people orgasm in an hour's worth of time! However, my orgasm isn't my priority, and nor should it be my client's. I'm there to fulfill their needs. They aren't responsible for mine- I am.
"What if the most pleasure I derive from a session is seeing the intense pleasure my client is experiencing? What if my pleasure is derived from making someone feel comfortable enough to explore more taboo areas of their sexuality? I'm way more interested in that than I am in having a forced or fake orgasm."
^^^ WORD. There are so many things I like in sessions besides orgasms, or even "sex" ( I like these things too ) ... intimacy and pleasure can surly be derived from multiple places in a session/with a client. It's just so funny when they walk through the door and say "I am gonna DATY and YOU gonna CUMMM TOOODAYYYY." in a weird lil monster voice.
I personally had seen a girl three times and the first two times I did not get to orgasm though I was not in least bit disappointed the third time wow. I am a giver and when I book a date I prefer 4 to 5 hours because I look at is as a we or us. There are so many other things than can be accomplished to have it be an successful date. It is just my opinion. I only had the issue once. Though when I go see a girl I keep an open mind that we have fun with each other.
I am not shy to let a man know what I like and how I like it. As much as I am inclined to give a stellar performance, I expect a little reciprocation on his behalf as well.
Chemistry is also integral in this too. You either have it or you don't.
