So I've had a really hard time finding what I'm looking for here. I like a woman who will engage in sensual bondage and tease & denial. Someone who really understands how to make the whole experience sexy and (for a while) frustrating. Not interested in the S&M part, and the D&S (in terms of roleplaying) isn't important. The catch is, in Chicago, at the end of the session dommes generally expect the client "to put the finishing touches on matters." It hasn't been like this in any other city I've been in.

Not looking for FS or BJ...just a female provider, who after an hour of arousing me beyond belief and sensually teasing me to the edge then backing off (preferably several times), will then while I'm still bound take matters into her own hands, as it were, to end the play part of the session.

For some reason in Chicago, domme seems to equal no release. Though I'm curious about why that is, the more pressing question (for me) is where to find someone who doesn't share that mindset.

An actual domme would be preferable, as their selection of equipment is better as well as (generally speaking) their creativity and understanding of male response. But so far, for the most part, my experience has been either with a massage girl with a few toys and no understanding of how to make a scene like that work, or with someone who delivers a great experience except for the last minute.

I know I've talked a lot, so let me just ask the question: does anyone have any suggestions? I would be very grateful!

Last I checked, I'm one of three certified practitioners in Chicago. Imagine something blending bondage, massage, sensory play, tease and denial, and sensory deprivation, and you might get a general idea of what Bondassage is. I've been playing in the BDSM scene for over 10 years in my personal life (for clarification-as a part of my sexuality, not the sum total of it), and for something that some heavy players might consider on the light side, I've not encountered much else that sends my partners into such an incredibly deep space. The response after a session is usually pretty incredible.

Hi ElGarbanzo,
I love the direction of your tastes. I have an insatiable penchant for toys, restraints and more importantly, teasing. My style is very "tactile" You should check out my site FetishCourtesan.com or send me a PM. I'm interested in chatting with you about your limits and our chances.

Tight and tighter...
RK

Being a massage enthusiast (both therapeutic and sensual), I've been wanting to try Bondassage for a while.  Both you and Bondassage  are on my bucket list for this year, so it will allow me to check off two at once.  Although my jaunts into the city are rare occasions, hopefully I'll have opportunity sometime soon.

...when I was in Chicago a few days ago?

I'm a fetish companion who specializes in tease and denial. It's my passion as a domme, in fact, and I would be nothing less than delighted to spend an hour or so driving you absolutely, hip-archingly, toe-curlingly crazy only to culminate in me taking control of the release you once thought of as yours, since your hands will be nowhere near accessible.

I'll actually be back in Chicago on the 13th for my "other" job and think it would be fun to take a break to explore our mutual interest. PMing you.