You would think that a beautiful girl would merit a repeat return from a gentleman.

I think for me at least, there has to be a very good connection. You know, less mechanical and really sincere in her service provided. I guess good acting comes into play, sometimes. But most of us guys know when a lady is putting on her best acting skills.

For me at least, yes the girl has to be attractive to me, but also we have to have things in common. Maybe she has a niche that I can’t get from someone else. Whether it be the way she smells, her BBBJ skills, or just the way she makes me feel while I’m with her. Everyone is different.

With so much variety out there, as a hobbyist, it is always very tempting to try something new.

I don't post a lot but love to be entertained by the banter i read back and forth. Many times you have helped me not to chastise an employee because i was put in a better mood. Everyone keep it up please lol. Here's my quick take. A few different thoughts here. You have girls who treat an appt. as strictly a job and girls who are genuine and i don't mean acting unless you're really good at it. That being said i'm sure many girls will go above and beyond if they like a guy (his looks, characteristics,etc) and want to make sure he stays within her stable so they will offer next time discounts or do things not on their list and say don't write that in your review if you do one. Next up you have girls who misrepresent themselves by saying they are GFE and won't even kiss a guy on the cheek.  Third you have guys who just plain like variety and enjoy the buffet.  They will in a pinch see someone they've seen before but it was a weak moment.  Oh wait one more, sometimes after you see a girl who was really good, the next time for some reason she relaxes her talents let's say and you come away going "too bad i liked her too".  Whoa sounds like all my experiences here uh????

each had a different reason why I saw them a second, third or more times.

The overall commonality amongst those gals (and only about 10% of the gals I have seen were repeats for me) was a "connection" beyond the BCD.

I enjoy being engaged in a multitude of ways, and it seems that many of the gals would simply prefer to "get to it" and have me leave.  I didn't feel rushed in a session, but I could also not get the feeling that she really wants to learn what "pushes my buttons".

And the gals I have had more than a "session" with ranged from a very cute 22 y/o to a very hot 40 y/o.  Not to mention a gal (29 y/o) who challenged me cerebrally on many levels, and one (28 y/o) who had the skills that went from very very GFE to downright nasty and kinky as all getout!  But in all of these encounters the gals took the initiative to engage me in such a manner that "demanded" that I see her again.  

I believe the key to this is to be as natural as a gal can be.  I sense that when a gal is truly able to "be herself" she is relaxed.  And if that type of personality meshes with mine, that is when I see her again...and again.  And the BCD just seems to be that much better

I have been with "beautiful" women in both my hobbying and private life.  Hell, my ex-wife to this day is incredibly beautiful. For me, its not just banging sex. It's a person who I perceive actually has an interest in me and in the brief time together, we connect on several levels.  Sexually, my old ass can't do the back flips and fire trapeze that I used to do, but I would spend several hours with a woman if I dig her company and she takes care of my needs, mentally and physically.

First and most important for me is attitude.  I can overlook a lot but for me this one is a dealbreaker.  Doesn't matter what skills a lady has, if she hasn't got heart she hasn't got me either.

Second, intelligence.  The lady must have a triple-digit IQ and enough education to be able to carry her half of a conversation.  This is also a dealbreaker.

Next, there needs to be some physical attraction.  Since #1 and #2 are much more important to me, there's a lot of leeway in this area.

After that, boundaries.  Her boundaries and mine need to kinda sorta line up.

Last, skills.  Actually this is kind of taken care of with the attitude thing.  I'm not generally impressed by tricks unless they have some practical application.  Novelties are nice, but skin against skin is the only way to go.

I look to connect on a level a little bit deeper than just a physical encounter, but nothing that should cross the average SP's boundaries.  For me what happens on the break is as important as what happens between breaks - and there needs to be a solid intellectual and not-quite-as-solid emotional connection.  I'm perfectly capable of walking away at the end of the appointment, but I need a hell of a lot more than physical attraction and a decent set of skills.

Real chemistry is always nice, but in the absence of that I'll take someone who really gives me the real girlfriend experience. Meaning she's warm and sweet, kisses me, is good at conversation, makes me feel like she's enjoying herself as well.

Some are just way better at this than others, and some are good at it initially but after a couple times they get lazy about it. I've had what I thought was awesome chemistry with people in the past only to have it change into a chore after a couple times. Consistency is a good thing.

I also really want someone who is comfortable with their body, whether they have some extra pounds or stretch marks from having children or whatever. I love open, confident people who don't have hangups about themselves or others.

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I'm one of the "connection and not just sex" group; obviously, alot of people will feel differently.

She must do something that shows she is interacting with me, as an individual, and not just going through her usual general script, no matter how good that script might be.  She also must at least put on at least a good act that she finds me interesting and/or fun.  It is also helpful if (without crossing any boundaries) shows me some of what seems like her individual and unique personality (which need not necessarily be sweet or compliant).  On reflection, that's connected with my first point.  She has to at least give the impression that she is seriously interested in my having a good time.

To summarize - she has to convince me that she is interested (in a very broad sense) in me as a person, and

She has to be interesting to me.

I am a relative newbie, and have discovered that my standards have gotten much higher as a result of seeing some really good providers.

Like everyone else has said, it's all about the connection that is experienced.  For me to want to see a girl again, I have to feel like there was some type of actual connection there (she enjoyed herself, seemed to be interested in me and what I was looking for).  

Some say that the ladies can be actresses - but I think to really pull that off so that a gentleman wants to come back they have to be really award winning.  For me, I believe that I've seen a difference from when the woman actually seemed to enjoy herself rather than just putting on the "act".

Convenience also comes into play for me in terms of her availability and scheduling.  My life is busy enough, so having to work schedules can make me look elsewhere.

And let's be honest... there has to be an attraction and acceptable performance (which hasn't really been an issue).

The girl does all positions and holes and wants to make it fresh every time.  GFE mixed with PSE.  Willingness to go in the shower and jacuzzi are big pluses.  Willingness to meet me early in the morning at an inconvenient location (hotel near my house in far north burbs).

First off, as you suggested, it is more about what a lady does, than what we want. Because when I look at the ladies I have, and will, go back to see, they are very different. But I think they all share these characteristics.

She likes what she is doing. That does not mean she likes the guys, or the sex, just that she likes her job, finds a way to make it enjoyable. Most of us will read this as she likes us, enjoys having sex with us, but my guess is that it is more that she is enjoying her job, often despite us.

She engages her clients in a positive way. This will vary with different guys - some want to talk and connect as a human, others want to be lost in silent, or very noisy, passion. My guess is that the guys who like to see women more than once also tend to want to have conversations, so being good at listening is important.

She knows how to read her clients, focus on what they like and move on from things that they do not.

She knows how to present herself in a way that attracts and engages the kinds of clients that are going to enjoy their time with her. I believe the most successful providers, the ones with the most repeat business, are also very good at focused marketing. From the first look, to the end of the date, they present themselves in a way that attracts the right clients, the ones who will feel that connection.

For me, I would say she does these things.

She looks good.
She feels good.
She tastes and smells good.
She makes me feel very good, indeed.
She makes me laugh.
She makes me think.
She keeps it fresh and engaging.
She makes me feel torn between spending time making love and making conversation so I can get to know her better. I will always pick the sex part (feel free to call me cheap and superficial), but I feel a little bit sad about that with my regulars because I am not getting enough conversation. Hopefully a dinner or some drinks will eventually let us focus on that conversation.

But the most important thing is that she finds a way to enjoy doing her job. Without that, it is hard to go any further.

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...it really varies.  I've had the ones that are sultry, probably partly acting, partly they just enjoy a good romp. Others, there's no pretenses, she just like the good romp. A few have been on a personality level. The girl was attractive, pretty face, actually a bit bigger than I normally go for, but conversation was there, and the BCD fun was satisfactory enough. Saw her 3 times, now retired.  

The only one that I can think of that I'd for sure go broke over (I'm sure we've all probably said that about more than a handful of girls, but this one was tops in my book), I traveled 10 hours to see, without benefit of reviews. If she wasn't working for a reputable agency, that would have NEVER happened. The personal connection was unusual, the sex was exciting. I called the next morning for round two. This was a $500/hr girl next door, only 21 at the time, and I am in my late 30s. Round two I will describe as like being on a honeymoon for an hour. We spent 15 minutes after the hour chatting about random subjects, and I found that we had quite a bit in common for being about 15 years apart in age. Unfortunately, she was working for Miami Companions. This occurred about two weeks before Uncle LEO dropped in. Y'all know THAT story.

Whether its true or not. If you feel like she had as good a time talking, having sex, laughing, giving and getting pleasure as you did, you will see her again. Not pushing you out the door is one way. Not using honey, sweetie, baby before you have hung out. Of course good oral skills certainly helps .