her favorite dates were over in 15 minutes...
now there's perspective
I've seen many posts asking "Who is your favorite provider" or "What was the best French you ever had" and whatnot, but it's been awhile since I've seen a similar question asked of the ladies, at least on this board. So I'm putting it out there: What was your best date? I'm curious to see if the most memorable are always the overnighters in the posh hotel with the hot tub, or if some folks have fond memories of the quickie in the office. I guess to even the playing field, we should limit it to just one on one dates (maybe we can discuss the best thrresome experience or party later). This is a great opportunity to both relive a nice experience and educate we gentlemen on how to make an engagement more memorable for both parties, in a good way.
A lady never kisses and tells. Discretion is critical in this biz and revealing info about past dates is a "no no." That is just my opinion. Plus my favorite is the one I am on... +wink*
have too many favs, no way to call them all up. 2ndly I do not want to single anyone out, it isn't fair to any of my guests. I love to play and whoever gives me the most attention is the one that is my favorite of the moment. There are also the wonderful guests I am friends with who make me smile whenever we chat or meet. Those are always tops on my list too.
I could talk about my worst, that one would be easy but best is just not fair to me or my guests. I want to lick them all!!!
I would guess that since we are not hearing any warm stories, it just confirms what I've been told by one working girl - it really is JUST A JOB to them and they really do despise most of us! LOL
There isn't much honor in being a prostitute or a cheating husband, as we all know. (Do you tell anyone???) Occasionally, I'm sure there is the nice guy who pays for sex for a somewhat explainable - maybe even justifiable reason - and the short term call girl that allows smelly, out of shape guys with bad breath, to pay her cash to use and abuse her for an hour so she can just pay the rent for a bit until she finds a real job she can be proud of. But I see most of us as people who don't have much character or pride. There seems to be something "a little bit off" in the personalities of just about all the women I have seen.
I never hobbied when I was married and won't again if I do decide to take the plunge in that pool again. (My wife cheated on me, by the way. She was drunk, but I couldn't get past it and it ruined a wonderful marriage.) Until then I don't treat those I see as - sex slaves, porn stars, sex objects, or fuck bunnies and say such things as "she is so good for fucking" or any other such demeaning remarks in my reviews. I keep my cock - and my fingers - out of her ass, I don't ask her to "let me face fuck you and unload my cum in your mouth"! I don't need to hear her say "I want you to fuck me again" either. Not very classy. I spend most of my time being the pleaser not the pleased. That's just me though - and my $0.02 .....!
based on your negative posting and blanket assumptions that fortunately, are just your assumptions. Frankly, I can't imagine why your wife might have cheated on you...but perhaps your negativity had a little something to do with this?
The gals who do this gig for a living are, for the most part, honorable in why and what they are doing. They are Mothers, Grandmothers, Wives, Single gals, College students and so on. Each has their reason for being here, and since you decided to post on this board, I am sure you have your reasons as well (just as we all do!).
And as far as the gals being a "little bit off"...well that could and should apply to most of the general population...or don't you listen or read news articles (or read a newspaper) on a regular basis.
As far as a gal divulging her "best date"...well there is just NO upside to discussing that here...at least from the providers POV. But I guess that maybe your fave didn't highlight what a great guy you are, you simply felt compelled to "call it as you see it".
Thanks for your viewpoint.
and that is not fair. With me you KNOW if I had a good time, and if you have seen me you know what that means and it doesn't have to be explained.
............ so why feel compelled to attack me personally - for what I think of this ..... profession, lifestyle ..... whatever you want to call what goes on here! I thought I was polite, coherent, and concise in my commentary.
I simply voiced my personal opinion on what I think of this hidden, secret life we hobbyist's and providers lead - and my opinion of us - myself included - that partake in it - as a whole, and in general terms. I did say there are exceptions, as there are to just about everything in life - as you pointed out. And yes, I do read the papers, regularly. I don't doubt some women like what they do. A couple hours for what would be a weeks pay at a normal civie job! That can sound pretty nice. More often than not, in my opinion, they put up with some assholes and some very unappealing, demeaning shit though.
As for the ladies who choose to be escorts ............. In general, I personally don't know how they can do it? 5 minutes after meeting some strange guy they have to do pretty much anything he wants - sexually. How about a get to know you period of 15 minutes or so at least! Most guys want to get right at it to not waste any time - most gals want to get right at it so they can be done and on their way! ....... again, that's my opinion .... I'm sure there are exceptions!
I honestly do believe it's just a job to most of them. Sorry, that's just me. Annonymous sex with someone they met 5 minutes ago! Yikes, I really don't know how they can do it long term. As you said, we all have our reasons for what we do........
And ... lastly - you don't know me or my ex ........... you don't know what happened. Don't presume I was a bad husband or she was a bad wife. Perhaps there is a bit more to it..... as there always is. Shit happens that perhaps normally wouldn't. (BTW ...... for your information - the gals I see tell me I'm a GREAT guy ..... wait - OK - I know, I know, they say that to all of us I guess ....) my $0.02 worth.
with the post you made. Keep in mind the OP wanted to discuss ladie's dates...and you had to come on this thread and post your negative comments on your interpretation of how the hobby works and why. Granted that is only your "opinion", but honestly, this is a fuck board where the gals work for a living...and you simply had to "call them out" for being "working girls".
Your thoughts and ideas are far from new, or isolated. Many feel the same as you, and are not afraid to discuss their thoughts on this as well. But how about starting your own thread, and perhaps use your TER handle to discuss why you think what you think about the gals. And I see that your way of trying to smooth this over is to comment on "In general, I personally don't know how they can do it?".
And you still have to hammer home the thought that it is "only a job for them". Well my friend, guess what...IT IS only a job for them. Just as you get your butt up every day and do whatever it is you do, the same applies here. Why you would think otherwise is apparently an issue for you, as I commented in my prior post. The gals love you for an hour (or some time frame) and move on. Apparently you have an issue that they are not becoming your real girlfriend. But that is only MY opinion...and perhaps I am WAY off base.
So this is less an attack on you personally, rather a commentary on your posting what I perceive is a negatively charged insult at the gals who frequent this board, and supply mongers (like you and I) with the opportunity to add a bit of excitement that otherwise may not be forthcoming.
If you care to discuss this further (and NOT hijack this thread anymore) feel free to PM me. I'm always interested in understanding why and how someone sees something that I can't see.
its called DISCRETION.
Most of my most memorable experiences include travel and extended dates and it will be very easy for patron in question to identify himself, and I don't believe that would be much appreciated.
Lina
An excellent Provider’s goal is to make YOU believe you just had the best date ever. So it’s fair to say that the good ones just might think THEIR best dates are the ones where the guys had the best time, the ones where she was the most successful in meeting her goal. To put it another way, in the context of the profession, if she’s doing her job well, she’s having the “best” date.
Now to get to the crux of what I think you were really asking, “What were the times where she enjoyed the sex (or her time) the most?” That, I think is a tad too personal for many.
Do providers enjoy the sex? And under what circumstances and how often is it the *best*? The answers are as varied as there are people. Each provider is different. The answers would be from one end of the scale to the other.
Some excellent providers really enjoy their date with you. . . most of time. A few appear to be nearly insatiable. Others enjoy it some of the time. At the opposite end of the scale another group rarely enjoy themselves, but if they’re successful you’ll hardly be able to be able to tell.
Apart the very few insatiable ones, even the best of the excellent providers have off days or off moments but even so, they STILL can make you feel like you’re the best. Apart from keeping the confidentiality of the guys (as mentioned above), asking them to reveal the times when they really enjoyed themselves in the way you are looking for sort of betrays their profession and goal. . . which is to make you happy. To put it another way, every session is supposed to be the best date. Singling out the REALLY best ones is, in a way, pointing out that the other ones didn’t meet the goal or weren’t as genuine. There’s not much upside if she publicly points out that YOU were the best after she’s told ME privately that I was the best.
Guys are all different as well, and if I leave a session feeling the gal didn’t have a great time I really am little disappointed. Please gals, don’t shatter my memories by inferring that I really wasn’t the best or you really didn’t just totally enjoy yourself. LOL
-- Modified on 10/5/2011 8:46:04 PM
This question was intended to spark a fun discussion, not put any ladies on the spot or risk damaging the apparently fragile egos of some hobbyists. I certainly didn't put this out there to give someone a soapbox to bash the industry and everyone involved. My apologies for adding one more layer to the crap that seems to accumulate on this board from time to time. Funtimes, please feel free to delete the entire thread. I'm going back to lurking for another ten years.
Any woman I have spoken with will no doubt have her favorite date easily recalled. Now, to get them to divulge that information is going to be the definition of work, they simply won't fricken talk!!!! Some womans code shit I guess.
I think the same question posed to the guys will yield fantastic results and perhaps be an eye opener for the ladies.
We all have our favorite dates, the setting, the atmosphere, the clothing request, etc.... As such our experiences will reflect the importance of remembering each detail of this "best" date. For example, my best date I can clearly remember as if it was yesterday. me and the four ladies in Belize, four days just laying in the sun during the day and erotic filled nights every night. The image of those worn out souls lying on the beach will never leave my mind!!!! Ok, that one is fantasy, but my point is we all have something that we cue in on and remember.
I challenge the guys to recall their best dates, no names please, and tell the group what made it so special.
Met at the door with no hellos or small talk but an immediate DFK. The kissing continued for what seemed like fifteen minutes with our hands roaming all over each other.
Then to the couch for more kissing and eventually some BBBJ after she undid my pants.
Then a move to the bed for more fun in many positions.
What made this so wonderful -- besides the soft lips and sensual tongue of hers -- was the escape from reality and the fact that we never talked until the end. We simply intertwined in the most personal and sexual way. We had never met before the date, yet the GFE session was easily the best I have ever had.
The mystery, the anticipation and then the date itself were all highlights.
care to share who it is so the rest of us can enjoy the experience?
The issue regarding discretion can somewhat be covered for the cases where the hobbyist has already written a review. There would still be the potential issues if her interpretation and memory might differ from his.
And overall, the lack of providers who are willing to participate still hinges upon how she believes it might affect her professionalism (i.e. business).
her favorite dates were over in 15 minutes...
now there's perspective