Was supposed to see a provider tonight with whom I have a decent, longstanding relationship; seen her several times previously. We emailed and then she texted me. When I asked for skirt and heels, she replied, but apparently to a friend -- clearly not meant for me. Here's what she wrote:

"Fucker [me] just asked for skirt & heels and I already left. Fuck that. For 30 minutes I'm not going back home."

A moment later she realized her mistake and apologized profusely. But what can you really say to apologize? You called me "fucker." Doesn't exactly set a mood. You've communicated what you truly think of me. Can't really maintain a professional relationship with someone that calls/thinks of you as "fucker." It's like accidentally replying to a client's email and referring to him/her as an asshole. Sure, I'll buy a palette of paper from someone that's just called me an asshole. Where do I sign?

Yes, I realize that people make mistakes. But when someone thinks of you in those terms, what more can be said? "I'm sorry I think you're a fucker?" It's like calling your wife a bitch to your friends and getting caught. You can apologize as much as you like but she'll never forget that you called her a bitch. Never.

Looks like I'm in the market for a new regular.

BBB

probably just a freudian slip..after all you were going to fuck her fucker..

How was the session?

What you describe is not a rare attitude some in this business have towards there clients. They feel dirty about what they do. They feel used but can't figure a way out because their used to the life so they keep doing it. They turn bitter and jaded toward their clients some of which are indeed assholes. It is sad. I try to avoid such women. Fucking someone you have ill feelings for over and over again is damaging. And Try to do no harm. Plus if they hate ya, they will have zero qualms about destroying you. She did you a favor.

There are some providers that are very good actresses.  Others are more genuine.  I have the good fortune to have gotten to know a two providers as friends, and I can say that both of them are the same in private as they are/were professionally. You obviously found out how she really feels about you or her clients in general.  If you weren't unreasonable in your requests of her, then move on and find someone else.

But remember, requests can be unreasonable, and sometimes the girls can get many unusual requests of them.

Sy

does she not know that it is illegal to text and drive

she didn't like my personality. She tried to cover up like it was a joke but the cat was already out the bag.

Poor baby: some hooker hurt a johns feelings...waw waw waw..

I understand I'm not married to her or kicking it with her, but I tell you this...if any business that I bought repeat business to, given "referrals"(by posting) said some shit to me like that I would lose her like 14 day old sushi.

way you like it?  Does she treat you like a stud when you are together and does she look freakin awesome in those heels..... bent over begging you to give it to her good?!  

All I ever hear all the time is...."is she a girlfriend experience"?  I wish I had a dollar for every girlfriend or wife that referred to their significant other as a "fucker" when talking with their friend.

Call her up and go over there and have some hot steamy make-up sex already!  You know you want to.  That is why she is your regular!

Would you rather be known as fucker or cock sucker?

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after I left the house I'd call him a fucker! Don't take it so serious if she didn't like you she wouldn't have bitched about it just ignored your request!
What one provider says to another is just like locker room jib jab and shouldn't be taken seriously!

Sounded like an expression of disdain versus idle banter.

Two other points:

- What did you think she thought of you, other than that you are a dick and a wallet? I love the fact, and we are all guilty of this, that we know all the ladies see everyone else as a dick and a wallet, but somehow we think our regulars see us differently.

- She might just have a foul mouth, and uses the the word fuck in all its variations all the time with her friends. After all, you did give her a special, last minute request, and she may have just been venting her frustration at being put into a situation where she would not be able to please you.

It is an interesting conundrum. If she lived up to her side of the bargain in every way, other than letting something drop that shattered the illusion, guys put up with a lot more and a lot worse all the time. But I do understand how you might feel like it is time to move on.

I used to have regular who liked me to call her my whore and she would call me her john. It had a certain raw energy to it, though it may have been evidence of some self-esteem issues she had based on how things eventually turned out. Anyway, I am not sure I would move on if nothing else changed and she was properly apologetic. It could take you into a new, more honest and open stage, if that is something either of you want.

I would probably continue with her, but start looking for a replacement, too. Once I found someone new, I would make a choice between the two of them. That would give me a little time to settle down and consider whether the text was really a big deal.

enjoy,
zig

And, given the fact it was in a text message, you don't have the advantage of seeing her body language and/or hearing the tones and inflection of her voice.  But at the end of the day, get over it!!  It doesn't strike me as all that bad, more just an expression of frustration than anything else.

however good the food is  if someone pukes on the dining table .