I have had several providers tell me how they wish the could turn off their telephone as all it does is ring, and that they are bombarded with text messages and e-mails.  One provider explained that she receives upwards to 100 e-mails a day and over 50 text messages, not to mention the phone calls.  Another provider told me of an individual who calls her every day at 8:00 am, noon, and before he goes to bed.  Apparently, us guys, who have seen a lady, or will be seeing a lady, think that we should be in constant contact with our "lady friends."  Yours truly has been guilty of this in the past before being made aware that this is a business.  Of course, our "lady friends" are nice to us, but they do have a life of their own, including a family and/or another job.  I call it "mental affairs" via the electronic media.

As a former executive I remember receiving 200 e-mails a day and countless phone calls, including those that said "I e-mailed two hours ago and you didn't reply."  It got to the point that I had to manage my time efficiently.  Every morning, I would screen my e-mails to determine priorities and addressed those for about the first hour of my day.  I then did my other responsibilities, checking my e-mails again for about an hour after lunch going through the same routine, and then after the office closed, spending another half-hour on e-mails.  I would eliminate any e-mail older that 30 days as the concern was most likely addressed by yours truly as individuals would send multiple e-mails on the subject.  I also would not accept phone calls between certain hours, generally between 1 and 4 pm when I was most productive and when I returned calls.

I want to say, "guys this is a business."  When we make appointments with a plumber, a doctor, a dentist, we don't keep contacting them to see how they are doing (unless you're gay and want to have a mental affair).  In fact, we don't talk to them until the next appointment.

I apologize for this long rant, but I know ladies who are at their wits end about this.  They don't want to tell their clients not to contact them in fear of losing business, especially in this economy.  Ladies, if not imposing, I would like your comments on this subject.  You can PM me if you would like as you may have ways of handling this situation which you may allow me to share with others.

The issue you have brought up has been a problem for years in the hobby.  Too many guys act like love sick puppy dogs and think that hobbying is dating.  These same guys will always say that they can distinguish between fantasy and reality.  They can not however and wind up being a problem for the providers.  Like you mentioned, constant PMs, calls, e-mails, texts, etc are sent by these guys.  I call it the penpal syndrome.  The sad part is when they become crazed stalkers and start to threaten the ladies.

I give you credit for making a change once it was brought to your attention.    As you stated, this is a business and these ladies have lives outside the hobby [well, at least some lol].  While friendships can happen, it is best to treat it like a business transaction.  Those guys that can't grasp that concept should try match.com instead.

Great comments by both Fred and CTP.

While I try to be judicious in my contact, I will try even more so in the future.  Even if I only reach out once in a while, I realize for the recipient it all adds up.

bbTna

Thanks for understanding and clearifying this issue so people who cares understand. The people who keeps texting without caring will never understand nor read this posting anyway.

I like the part where you explained that you do not contact your pumber, doctor etc until next appointment. That is exactly what I wish people would compare it to. But they do not.

I think the problem w this business is that especially when you are a GFE you have a very personal contact w your clients and truly enjoy the time you have together. But then you move over to the next session. This is done by putting the client into different boxes or turning off and on your switch. That is when you can be truly be successful in what you do. The constant texting from people asking how you are very exhausting. Especially when you been in business longer because you have so many great clients that wants to say hello.

I love my sessions but wish the constant texting would stop.

xox Jessica

As CTP stated friendships can definitely happen but bottom line this is a business transaction for time spent together.

I only contact escorts if i am planning to do some business with them. I find that usually their non responsiveness is because they have all of these yo-yos clogging up their lines. These yo-yos make it bad for all of us.

we ALL should give these ladies some room to breathe..i NEVER contact a lady except to set up an appointment or she asks me to..they have enough to do separating the good clients from the potentially bad ones in screening..that verification is time consuming and necessary..they simply do not have time for lovesick puppy dogs ..time wasters..and lookers..

There was no respect at all it could be 11PM or mid afternoon I finally blocked the number.
Needless to say our batteries in our cell phones wind up living in the charger or our plans
minutes are being ate up or text plan credits gone.







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I have had several providers tell me how they wish the could turn off their telephone as all it does is ring, and that they are bombarded with text messages and e-mails.  One provider explained that she receives upwards to 100 e-mails a day and over 50 text messages, not to mention the phone calls.  Another provider told me of an individual who calls her every day at 8:00 am, noon, and before he goes to bed.  Apparently, us guys, who have seen a lady, or will be seeing a lady, think that we should be in constant contact with our "lady friends."  Yours truly has been guilty of this in the past before being made aware that this is a business.  Of course, our "lady friends" are nice to us, but they do have a life of their own, including a family and/or another job.  I call it "mental affairs" via the electronic media.

As a former executive I remember receiving 200 e-mails a day and countless phone calls, including those that said "I e-mailed two hours ago and you didn't reply."  It got to the point that I had to manage my time efficiently.  Every morning, I would screen my e-mails to determine priorities and addressed those for about the first hour of my day.  I then did my other responsibilities, checking my e-mails again for about an hour after lunch going through the same routine, and then after the office closed, spending another half-hour on e-mails.  I would eliminate any e-mail older that 30 days as the concern was most likely addressed by yours truly as individuals would send multiple e-mails on the subject.  I also would not accept phone calls between certain hours, generally between 1 and 4 pm when I was most productive and when I returned calls.

I want to say, "guys this is a business."  When we make appointments with a plumber, a doctor, a dentist, we don't keep contacting them to see how they are doing (unless you're gay and want to have a mental affair).  In fact, we don't talk to them until the next appointment.

I apologize for this long rant, but I know ladies who are at their wits end about this.  They don't want to tell their clients not to contact them in fear of losing business, especially in this economy.  Ladies, if not imposing, I would like your comments on this subject.  You can PM me if you would like as you may have ways of handling this situation which you may allow me to share with others.