Anybody remember the bit from "Friends" where Chandler is upset because Joey uses his soap? Joey wants to know what the big deal is and Chandler says, "Think about the last place you washed and the first place I wash".
I love to DFK but I have a small hang up when a provider offers rimming and DFK. There's just this question of where has that tongue been lately? I'm sure part of it is that rimming is not my thing at all. I don't have anything against a little anal play but that's what fingers and toys and moderate sized vegetables are for. Unfortunately rimming seems to be a much desired service so more and more ladies provide. Now I just have to pretend it doesn't happen and pray they chewed a full pack of Orbitz before we met. Anybody else have this hangup? How do you ladies feel about this latest trend? Any chance its a short lived fad?I did not mean to imply at all that anyone that I had seen (or plan to see) evidenced this problem. It's just the mental picture that I struggle with.
but honestly our mouths, especially our tongues are dense with bacteria that evolution has provided us to protect our internals from illness. Remember that dogs' mouths are thought to be cleaner than ours and they rimm each other 24/7, the depraved bastards.
Love my dog but he doesn't get to DFK me either. Especially if he just licked his butt.
Yes but do you worry about where the peepee before you was before it went in the mouth of the provider you are about to DFK? It's all about the provider and what kind of hygiene they have. Discretion is always best but if you think too much it will ruin the experience.
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Sure but this is why I always leave a little drop of pee on the tip. That way it disinfects.
You don't kiss them first? lol.
I give them a peck on the cheek.
You just have to trust she washed her face. Just incase... you know Orbitz doesn't disinfect, right? lol.
And personally do not offer the service nor do I like my guest to partake it on me. I understand liking the curvy shape of my ass, not quite the inability of some of you to understand that while I enjoy Greek I don't want your fingers or mouth near it. To be honest when you try to put your mouth there I just freeze. I start thinking about, I bet he will want to kiss me after this or if he starts to go near my kitty again after his face there I am going to kick him before he gets there. Neither of those things appeal to me and to be honest licking my booty hole does zero for me except make me paranoid about the above to which actually turns me off.
As far as doing for another, well I am exposed to enough in my mouth and throat and know that I am crazy easy to pick up any type of bacterial infection orally... So offering this service would be mega stupid on my part since it would put me out of commission 90% of the time. Not to mention the idea of it also is a huge turn off for me. Don't get me wrong you don't know if you like it till you have tried it and I have... Huge turn off for me, felt like a block of ice had crept into my cooch.. I would offer this service covered if absolutely needed but otherwise I would rather just skip it, so many more fun things I can do with my mouth.
I know these sessions are supposed to be all about you, and with me they are for the most part. Certainly since I am a person I can pick and choose what I do and do not want to do.
Shoot right now I am in a thing with a guy here where he is trying to insist with a booty like mine it is made to b e eatten... Not so much. If you seriously just want me to go through the motions with you push harder. I do not offer these services because they severely effect my services and the type of service you would get. I want to provide everyone with the best I can so let's just stay away from fingers and tongues in my ass please! Vice versa but I can with figer cot to dull my finger nails down provide a wonderful prostate massage if desired....
Thanks Sage. I was beginning to think no one understood my point. Your reply is what I was expecting to hear. When push comes to shove there are things you may have to allow or partake in just because business demands it, but this just can't be a real turn on for most women. Personally, I would rather have a provider be honest if it's something they really dislike and just say it's not on the table. I always have my best times when my partner enjoys herself as much as I do even if it means I have to forgo one of my favorites. For instance, I love a good CIM completion, but would rather have an enthusiastic romp with a bag finish than a barely tolerated oral ending.
No thanks. I'll lick a bathroom floor before I'll lick someone's ass.
Did a search for providers in Chicago that list yes for rimming. In the last month alone 60 reviews for those in Chicago came up as a yes. That doesn't include those listed as "Don't Know" but reviews say it happened. Again, I mean no disrespect to those willing to provide the service. Ive seen some and they were wonderful to me. Just wish I didn't know that it was an option that might have been provided in the not too distant past. I keep hoping it will go away - but then I kind of feel that way about gangsta rap too so I guess I just better get used to it.
I bet if you tried it you'd think differently. Just don't ask me. It's not on my menu lol
It'll be a cold day in hell before I offer rimming as a service. I like DFK too and I'm not keen in a guy rimming me and then going in for a snog right after and I don't plan on doing it to a client :/
I'm not a prude but...............
That's an interesting sales pitch......................
I'm not a prude but...............
I would hope that others do practice good hygiene when it comes to rimming, along with practicing good hygiene for other areas of play and in their lives in general. So they say,"Cleanliness is next to godliness..." Let's practice good hygiene!
Alexandra Min
Everyone has limits, and those limits are okay. Simply because someone offers a service you aren't personally into doesn't mean that that service is inherently "dirty" though, and the initial comment definitely came across as being judgmental of those that do offer the service. Good hygiene is always a must when it comes to what we do, no matter what the service is.
If you're so appalled by the thought of a provider performing a rim job and then kissing you, why do you keep thinking about it? It seems silly to me to concentrate on an act that you're not into receiving in the first place with ramifications ( provider kissing you after said rim job client) that might not even exist in the first place. Providers that perform rimming are just as concerned about that as you are, so the instances of that happening in the first place are probably a lot lower than you perceive them to be.
There's a saying in kink land that applies well here: your kink isn't my kink, but your kink is okay.
Not to mention, men have more nerve endings and pleasure receptors in that area of the body than women. Most women don't understand ass-play because we don't have the same collection of pleasure receptors in that area of the body.
Scientifically, the hands are the most bacterially-infested area of the body; far dirtier than anyone's butt hole. I could go on and on about what is often found on human hands, but won't.
I do wish TER had options for rimming though; "no", "yes", "giving", " receiving", or "both giving and receiving". I list "yes" because I receive, and I think other ladies may list that way for the same reason
And just because someone offers or enjoys rimming, they are not going to rim a dirty ass hole, they will only partake if the recipient is squeaky clean
Thanks, seeker. And you nailed it. No provider is going to dive into a gross anus, and most ladies insist on you cleaning up beforehand, regardless of a previously had shower.
So- first of all, I can only speak for myself. But I do offer both. But you can BET that I will be brushing my teeth and using mouth wash afterwards.
Plus, I only see 1 MAYBE 2 people per day, so you can rest assured that my tongue has not been anywhere else that day.
And a second PLUS if a gent does expect me to get back there you better be FRESHLY showered! 
Listerine all the way though. Till you know your mouth is totally clear it is best not to brush. Brushing even with the healthiest of gums still causes micro tears in the tissue making you more suseptable to picking things up. I am not saying don't ever brush but make sure it is at least 1hr before you use your mouth for the industry and many hours and rinses after your last risky use. Alot of people forget about this one, but it is something to always consider.
Oh and to Erin and others, my comments were not meant to shame anyone only show my own personal view. I can't do it, there is just no way I could even if I wanted too. Far to many issues with my throat because of allergies without adding anything else on top of it. If you do it, just do it as safe as you can and I hope you don't pick up anything from it easily fixed of not that is never a good thing
I wasn't referring to anything anyone said in particular; there were just quite a few posts, including the original, that really were shaming of other providers who offer the service. The post I responded to directly before this one was specifically addressing that post. Some people handled the topic better than others by not discussing rimming in terms of grossness level or concern-trolling. Everyone is entitled to limits. Stating them respectfully and discussing issues in a constructive, non-shaming manner is always awesome.
Teeth brushing should never happen 2 hours before or after an oral sex act. Brushing can cause micro cuts and abrasions that let problematic bacteria and viruses right into the blood stream. Mouthwash and mints are your friend. 