I'm seeing a Provider I met 20 years ago. We've become great friends over time. I still see her every now and then. She used to live in my area. About 5 years ago she moved out of state. I've already driven to her twice this year. I'm planning a trip to see her this Thanksgiving.  

I found an Awesome Provider where I live. I've been seeing her for about 5 months. She's Super Sweet and Great. She treats me just like my out of state Provider. I like her a lot.  

I agree it's a Fine Line to keep when you see a Provider you really like. In my case I have to balance these two Awesome Ladies. I have to remind myself that these Ladies are working girls. But I like both of them a lot. At least there's one good thing about all this, I'm not Married.

With my local Provider, after we play I take her out to Dinner and a little Shopping. How can I say no to her? She's too Adorable for me to say no to.  

With my out of state Provider, I Love spending time with her. She's just as nice as the first time I met her 20 years ago. I get a Motel near her and we just hang out and have Fun. I'm driving out to see her for a third trip this year during Thanksgiving. She's worth the 700 mile drive to see her.

I prefer to form a relationship with the friends I make doing this. I feel the sessions are better, because when I get to know someone I really open up and the real freaky stuff comes out. I have made some real true friends in this business. I try to be as genuine as I can be to everyone I meet, and I tend to be honest to a fault, so many of the people I meet connect with me quickly. But like you said, it is also a fine line. Because when there starts to be a real true connection, some people begin to become conflicted about the financial side of things. Even myself. I have made such amazing connections with people, that it makes me WANT to say, its ok this one is free, but if I did that, I wouldn't be able to support myself. So I think as long as you can keep things in perspective, then you can really find good people in this business. But then again, not everyone has the same out look that I do. I think my outlook is probably rare, therefore, you may want to get another ladies opinion.

Personally, I try to stay back from the line.  True, I do tend to develop very close relationships with many of my guests where we become friends and lovers both.  Many of these friendships and relationships develop into long standing ones where we meet often for years, some of them peter out in time and others hold fast and last long.  All of them are special to me since I can be picky about who I want to see more then once.  The longer I know you the more special the experience can be IMHO anyways.  I may meet some long time guests OTC for a meal occasionally even.  Those are special things reserved for long time guests I feel comfortable with and enjoy the company of when I have time to offer it.  All situations are different, some are wonderful and stay feeling new for a while.  Others there is a comfort in being so comfortable with one another.  Both are great and can lead to.

Me personally, I crossed the blurred line once.  Or at least I tried to.  I dated a guest that I adored once but couldn't make the transition to normal dating with him.  I liked him as a friend on the personal side and could just never take it further then that OTC.  I hurt him ALOT and I still feel some guilt about it.  So while I may blur some lines I will never cross them again for fear I might hurt someone else, it is just not fair to the other.  So...  Lust is lust and I will bring it when I am called to play.

On a side note I have 2 provider friends, both retired, 1 I don't really talk to anymore and the other I do that married guests.  They are doing ok, the relationships are the same as most have, dysfunctional at points and ok at others.  It can work but like anything else you have to make it work.  Some can make the transition, others can't, and others just don't want to.

I hope I was not too all over the place, have a great evening all...  Sage

PS, plus it is a TOTAL TURN on to get paid to get laid.  YUM

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Over the years different opportunities have risen, no pun intended, that require further thought and investment. I've side stepped any chance of a closer bond. I can say that more recently, I have had a great rhetoric relation with a provider prior to any dates. It's built into one heck of an intense predate. We will meet soon, and the future looks great, however there will be much thought put into any limits needed to be sane..... and safe. Regardless of the dates one entertains, a provider always has those favorites as well as some that may be truly be especially connected. Enjoy!!

Yes. You are right. When the time comes it is best to be open about things. I am an honest to a fault. I have only reached such closeness in this world only a few times, and am grateful for those few times. Some in this world are just seeking fast fun and some are seeking companionship. And to me companionship is SO MUCH more than just the bedroom part. The few people that I have really allowed to see the true me, have become good friends. You just have to keep an understanding, that's all. If one person allows themselves to lose perspective, pain can result. But if you keep perspective about the reality of the situation, and know and trust that despite the situation, the person is genuine, than balance is usually achieved and the relationship may go on. But when perspective is lost, that's when bad things happen. The least dangerous is hurt feelings, with the opposite and more dangerous end being stalking and obsession

Into this world how one would tell in advance a lady who wants to cross those lines. First lady I ever saw hinted at wanting to see a movie with me afterward. Another I correspond with here tells of adventures picking up men and fighting herself to not reveal her job to them. I've never been great at reading signals from civvy gals either. The only ones I can read well are strippers.

It's about being clear on the boundaries and then working from that framework. Like many guys, there is a lady I see regularly that I have a deep connection with. We enjoy both a physical and emotional relationship. The business side has long been established and is never spoken of. When we are behind closed doors or out on the town, we are just another loving couple. For me the key is not too lose sight of the fundamental nature of the relationship,  which does not preclude a deep fondness and affection that two people develop out of the initial physical intimacy