I think that I know the answer to this question, but what do you do if you have tried to set up an appointment with a provider and it has fallen thru twice, kind of.  What happens if after you meet a provider, that you have been looking forward to meeting for awhile, you both realize that you have a number of mutual acquaintances/business associates outside of the hobby?  If one of you is okay with it, and one may not be.  
After the awkward misfire meeting, a second was arranged, but fell thru.
Should you just let it go and realize that it ain't gonna happen, despite your personal feelings of a connection (possibly enhanced by the outside mutual acquaintances)?
Does any of this make sense?