I just had a very invigorating visit with a provider. In the post-coital cuddle phase, she began talking about her kids and multiple marriages, and it was waaay more information than I cared to hear about. When I go for a hobby visit, I'm not there to talk about my troubles, or my history -- and I don't really want to hear about the provider's backstory. It's not a counseling session.

This is certainly not the first time I've been served up Too Much Information, and I'm too polite to tell the provider that I really don't want to hear it. I'm there for a great sexual experience out of the constraints of my everyday life, and getting a load of (often painful) backstory spoils the moment for me.

Providers and hobbyists: what's your take on this?

When I hobby, I do like to get to know "a little" about the woman I'm with, but I don't want to hear about all her problems. I'm not into the wham bam thank you maam, I do enjoy more of a gfe experience which includes, great sex, talking, laughing, cuddling, etc. So, to summarize, I'm a happy camper when I enjoy my time before, during and after sex. That completes the experience for me.

I am bad about 'talking' to much, but my life isn't a series of train-wrecks or failed marriages and children.

I agree ....keep the personal info to urself

It happens.    I dont mind a lady saying something about her personal life but not to much on the first date.   Sure if there is a connection and she is feeling more friendly with ya it isnt no big thing.  Kinda nice to know the woman behind the provider.  Even on the open board there are drops of info that pops out here and there.  There is a person that is with you and not a machine so I would expect some things that may or may not come out.  Hopefully it is pleasant info like things she likes and enjoys.  Just pleasant chit chat.

strokes for different folks is what life is all about.

if one desires a chatty kathy, find one.

if one desires a cold emotionally distant, find one.

The great thing about the hobby is if yas spends some time
and pays for some companionship and do not enjoy it, drumroll....
don't go back.

So I guess if you are looking for someone to say that was in really horrible
bad taste, not gonna be me.

If you are looking for someone to say that is EXACTLY what I want, tell me
everything, give me a honey-do list, make me watch that TOTALLY unwatchable
HGTV, whatever.

it doesn't matta, it doesn't matta.

just do not go back and spin the wheel and find ya another one!

Ok ok I won't be a total terd, oh and I can!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My personal
preference is open communication cause that is how I have conducted myself
in real world dating. So if this is gonna be GFE I just want some real time.
I get it is a business and know the line, won't cross it but genuine passion
is only there if the two kiddies are being genuine.

Ok back to TV! Time for 2 and a half men!

I Concur!

Shifterp OUT!

If you had a really good time EXCEPT hearing too much about her personal life,you can let her knowing without hurting her feelings with a little diplomacy or sounding critical.

When you book your next date with her, send an email let her know you really want to step away from the stresses of the day to day "real world" and get lost in a passionate, hot fantasy time with HER. Let her know you want her to be able to do the same-step into a fantasy where only thing that matters is you two to while your with her.

You've let her know what you want in your next  date with you without saying you weren't thrilled with the TMI that happened during cuddle time. If she has half a brain she'll get it without feeling criticized. Sometimes we meet someone we are real comfortable with and after  being really intimate, we can forget time spent together is a brief fantasy "staycation"!

Now if it happens again, you may want to move on.

xoxo,

Steph


-- Modified on 2/22/2013 1:39:37 PM

She must have felt very comfortable with you.