I try, depending the donation, to give most of my friends tips. I will say that most of the time, with a few exceptions, they are never acknowledged. That frankly, especially these days, kind of amazes me. Its not like your at a restaurant, and you may never see the client again. I guess it is just my pet peeve, but if it was me, and a client left a tip, I would send a short thank you. Just my $0.02.
I'm not in the Carolinas right now, but I trust you guys the most. I saw a provider a few weeks ago, who was offended that I didn't give her a tip, but I didn't hear it from her. I heard it through the grapevine just yesterday. I'm not cheap. I'm more than happy to pay a tip on top of the charge for a provider's time. In fact, I purchased a bottle of her favorite wine, exact brand and everything, so here's my question...
Are tips required and it's just that people are too polite to require them outright, or was it just that one provider that I crossed? I usually just do my research and get them something they say they like on their sites or profiles. Should I add the tip on top of those gifts? I'm just worried that I've left a small trail of angry ladies in my wake. Providers and hobbyists alike, help me out here.
You will find that many providers do not require a tip. They already set thier price. I do think many appreciate the longer sessions, specially the low volume ladies. Ask Sphinxnc, it works well for him.
But isnt the idea of "expecting" a tip along the same lines as haggling price? I mean it is just in her favor, isnt it? Now I am sure any one will refuse a tip, but it isnt something I do. Maybe the best tip is to repeat and save her the time and concern of screening.
Oh and one more thing, dont worry about the gossip. She may or may not have said that.
I don't tip and never will. Roadshow made a good point.. "But isnt the idea of "expecting" a tip along the same lines as haggling price?" I don't ask for discounts and do not expect them so don't expect a tip either. And on another point brought up by the initial post, I know not all ladies engage in gossip and "hear-say" but I am always amazed at the large number who do. And what is interesting is how factual a lot of it is. Loose lips sink ships!
But isnt the idea of "expecting" a tip along the same lines as haggling price? I mean it is just in her favor, isnt it? Now I am sure any one will refuse a tip, but it isnt something I do. Maybe the best tip is to repeat and save her the time and concern of screening.
Oh and one more thing, dont worry about the gossip. She may or may not have said that.
Then tipping is not required......but they are appreciated. In this economic times I forego the gifts and give them the equivalent cash. I do the same for weddings, birthdays, graduations, etc. No one turns their nose up to cash gifts.
Are tips required and it's just that people are too polite to require them outright, or was it just that one provider that I crossed? I usually just do my research and get them something they say they like on their sites or profiles. Should I add the tip on top of those gifts? I'm just worried that I've left a small trail of angry ladies in my wake. Providers and hobbyists alike, help me out here.
Its very much appreciated, but never, ever required. At least, not for me. Gifts are wonderful and I personally love them, but again, NEVER required for me!
I for one figure since I'm making more in a few hours than the average person makes in a week, it would be really petty to worry about a tip! Its appreciated of course, and so are gifts, but NOT expected!
xo
If you are seeing ladies that are asking for tips or get offended if you don't leave a tip then you are rolling with the wrong crowd.
Others have said it and I'll say it again. Don't believe what you hear second hand. This pastime is full of rumors and backstabbing. If one of the ladies is upset with you, I really think they are adult enough to let you know personally. It might be a full out blast or as subtle as not returning your communications. Either way, you'll get the message.
Bottom line.... If you're really concerned you offended her ask for another visit. If she agrees to see you then she must not be too upset.
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I do remember who tips me and brings me special gifts and I try to give back to them extra time or make sure I am available when they request.. but even for those that do not tip.. I am happy to see my friends and enjoy their company
Are tips required and it's just that people are too polite to require them outright, or was it just that one provider that I crossed? I usually just do my research and get them something they say they like on their sites or profiles. Should I add the tip on top of those gifts? I'm just worried that I've left a small trail of angry ladies in my wake. Providers and hobbyists alike, help me out here.
Tipping is never required by me or any of the reputable ladies I know. I do remember who tips and who brings gift and do my best to make it easy for them to repeat. I also remember those that repeat and in its own way that is an even greater form of a tip.
I will agree with many that have already said don't trust what you hear through the grapevine.
I try, depending the donation, to give most of my friends tips. I will say that most of the time, with a few exceptions, they are never acknowledged. That frankly, especially these days, kind of amazes me. Its not like your at a restaurant, and you may never see the client again. I guess it is just my pet peeve, but if it was me, and a client left a tip, I would send a short thank you. Just my $0.02.
...... her reaction is a bit gross. If she was pissy about not getting a tip she needs to up her rates then if she's not happy with what she's making. It's totally her problem so whatever. And to hear it thru gossip....lame. Her discontent shouldn't fall on you.
TIP IF YOU WANT TO if you feel she's met or exceeded your expectations. Any "tip" given out of force or pressure (duress) isn't a tip at all imo. Don't let any of those tacky broads bully you .... you paid her rate right? Good. Didn't try to short her? If she's mad at anyone it should be herself. And I hope her friends on her "grapevine" are reading this.
If she's reading this: raise your rate with whatever tip you want already included, lose the attitude and be grateful. Seriously.
Are tips required and it's just that people are too polite to require them outright, or was it just that one provider that I crossed? I usually just do my research and get them something they say they like on their sites or profiles. Should I add the tip on top of those gifts? I'm just worried that I've left a small trail of angry ladies in my wake. Providers and hobbyists alike, help me out here.
I agree with most of what has been said here on the board. As a provider, I never "expect" a tip. If Mr. Hobby does leave me a tip, I'm truly greatful. But my rates are clear on my website and, unless I'm running a special, are non-negotiable. I'm never upset if I DON'T get a tip. But when I do, I'm elated.
When I do get a tip, I smile when I think of the gent who gave it to me. The next time I see him, I am certainly more inclined to honor any special requests.
Oldted said it best. If a gent is wondering whether to buy me a gift or tip me, I'd prefer the cash. Cash is never the wrong color and always fits perfectly!!
Marie in Asheville
Tipping not necessary! I bring gifts once in a while for my regulars.
Fairly new to all this but I tip the guy at the car wash why for this service? But it shouldn't be required.