Can someone tell me where one can get tested anonymously in the Raleigh area?  I know the county health dept. will do testing, but I need to be sure that the results don't get sent to my home or in some way linked to my insurance.  I just need "clearance" so I can fool around with a friend (her request, which I respect).

Check out Planned Parent Hood, have heard that they test you and treat you on the spot. You need to clarify that for sure.  I think Any Lab Now will test you, give you the results and leave it up to you to follow up, I think, again, confirm that with a call.  Good luck.  We all need to test to keep each other safe as possible. No guarantees, but the responsible thing to do)