I agree . . show initiative!

It will take you a long way if you are willing to show some initiative, by offering personal info and verifying it by sending a scanned copy of your drivers license after the provider accepts this of course and then if it was me, I would want to do a brief phone call before we meet. Most providers would understand I think. The more open you are about yourself, the more likely the provider will see you.

I wish you the best in your hobbying adventures this year

xo

Adriana

A lot of guys wish not to share personal info. Here is what you do to get started.

Go see a TER reviewed lady who offers full body massages only. They generally don't ask for references and personal information because they have ways of ferreting you out as legit while you are on the table. After the session she will then become a reference for you for future escort dates.  Oila, you're set. It is a process, but no man has to divulge personal information to have fun in this hobby.

You may want to join P411 or Date Check. But you'll be giving the necessary info needed by them to verify you. That will give you some "cred" but most ladies don't think it's be all end all as far as screening goes...but it does help!

Do your research here on TER, if you aren't a VIP, become one asap. Even though you have no reviews, your handle will still show up in a search by a lady. And it will allow you to check out ladies and their reviews. It can really help you in finding the type of you feel will be a good match for you!

After researching some ladies you are interested in here, drop an email your top 3 choices and ask them if they are newbie friendly and if so, what info will they require from you to feel comfortable, since you have no references. I know it might make you a tad nervous but you have to give a little if you wanted to get a little, lol! If you have no luck with your top 3, don't get discouraged, just pick out 3 more, rinse and repeat, lol.

Consider post on the ISO Board that you are looking for a newbie friendly lady in the Carolinas. Be specific you where you are based or travel to.

Be wary of Back Page girls, UNLESS they have several reviews here on TER. There are a FEW ladies on Back Page that are legit but they are few and far between. Tread carefully there.

Do everything possible to insure a lady is comfortable because she may be nervous as well since you have no references. Make sure all communication is polite and respectful, as well as any phone conversations.

I don't know who you saw with SBR but some of those ladies are now indies. If you recognize them here or on other sites like Eros, reach out to them, asking if they remember you, You may have to jog their memory since SBR didn't give them your full name. If one of these ladies remembers you see her again asap ask them if you can use them as a reference and write a review.

Go to the Newbie Board read and participate. Participate here on the Carolinas board as well. A lady can get an initial feeling about you by your board posts.

You can get thru this with these suggestions. Be honest with the ladies, it will come back to you ten fold.

Happy 2014

xoxo,

Steph

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Had just started with the hobby last year but then work exploded and I couldn't spare the attention/energy for over a year.  When the dust settled I was ready to play but had no recent activity.  Even my p411 account had expired without making any contacts on it.  Even on the TER boards I barely posted at all.

The provider I wanted for a restart had me contact someone from last year who just happened to remember me.  The reference was a good one, and as a result I had a wonderful meeting with a truly fun person - guess kharma pays off!  

So check around, see if you can reach out to someone you met earlier, and ask if they can help you build a new relationship.  At worst, they don't remember you and you start from scratch, at best you skip to the head of the line.  By the way, it's really humbling if they do remember you from that long ago, so be nice and send a gift

It is amazing and humbling that ladies I would like to see are encouraging me,, lil ol m Thank you all. no joke thanks.

You have to provide specific information and pay for those sites to get verified.  That's if you feel more comfortable providing those two companies your information instead of a provider.

I was nervous about providing my personal information at first but as stated on here it is for her safety and yours.  I have to agree with Julia, I won't see anyone who does not screen prior.  My first lovely lady asked to see 2 forms of ID when I first arrived which was not an issue.  This lady also requested an email from my work account for verification since I did not have any references while I was leery at first I did it due to the address she provided wasn't linked to the hobby.

References are not always a guarantee that a provider will make a date with you.  Some ladies may not accept references from ladies you have seen.  Either way don't try to find short cuts or get out of providing the screening information the lady requires.  This hobby is way to much fun and we need everyone to be safe.

Just my 3 cents as I am still a rookie in hobby land!

OK, go ahead and laugh, but I'm a newbie.  What are those acronyms?  Thank you.