Hey everyone I have a question for the other ladies as well as for the gents. Do any of you ladies have any client that consistently text you and want to be more than a client to you? If so whats the level of friendship you have with him? Is it better not to do that and keep clients just as such?
Guys whats your thought on this?

Thank you.

If it’s business then no; simply no.

and they may well be the /only/ two I see; it turns out that I’m just not much of a Hobbyist; I just don’t think I’m built to “sample” lady after lady due to ther “menu”.

 
As of this writing, both have told me their real names and I’ve been to both of their homes.  I keep going over time with one of them and she just doesn’t seem to care (I’ve reminded her and she checks her phone/time, but we keep going over by 30 minutes to an hour).  A few nights ago, the other one wanted me to stay after a session and just hang out (and I would have, but I had to work the next day).  They both like and trust me, and I like them.

 
I would have no problem just hanging out with them as friends; no session, no hanky panky - just holding them and talking, watching movies, etc.

 
Honestly, you can never have to many friends.

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I have become very good friends with 2 providers over the past 10 years. In both cases, we just "hit it off". It started out with me paying for the service just like any other. Over the course of a few months, we just started talking, even on days when we had no intentions of a session. The talking/texting increases to a daily thing and the next thing you know we were actually "friends". Telling each other about our days, funny things that happened, things that aggravated us. In both cases, it was just a really good friendship. The first lady and I unfortunately do not talk anymore. While it started out great it ended much differently. She had a terrible time managing money and ultimately wanted me to help her pay bills every week. While I am the type to help anybody when they are down, she managed to be "down" every week. I also noticed that her personal phone was constantly blowing up when we were together so she was playing others with the personal friends thing. That just did not work out for me.

I still to this day talk/text with the other one even though she has moved away. When she comes into town, she will work during the day and then purposely block out the nights so we can spend the nights with each other. I do not "pay" her anymore but we ALWAYS have a blast going out to dinner, movies, comedy clubs, live bands and sometimes we just sit at my house watching TV and snacking all night on the couch. She says I am her "getaway". And honestly, she is a great getaway for me as well.  After a year or so of seeing her on a personal level, I even met her parents and kids (kids are grown). They were traveling through NC going to Myrtle Beach one year. We spent a wonderful evening together and I was introduced as a co-worker from her past job lol. I do try to spoil her when I see her. But she often refuses to let me pay for certain things. It is important to her that I know she is not "using me". We have a true friendship with benefits but it works perfectly because we trust and completely respect each other. We joke that if we are both single when she gives up the profession, that I have to marry her Lol.  

Use your best discretion on this. I think it is not only healthy but also a necessity for every man and woman to have someone they can trust and lean on. Someone they can vent to and someone they can spend downtime with, without being judged. The greatest challenge is finding someone that is on your personal level. Someone who wants what you can offer in a personal relationship, no more, no less. Just my .02 cents and best of luck to you!!

But make sure it's not a situation where the guy just doesn't want to pay anymore and is trying to take advantage of your good nature.  

I find if the guy really wants to be your friend, he wont ask for anything for free....and if you do give him anything for free....like time or a special gift, he really really appreciates it....It never turns into a give an inch take a mile situation

If you are giving far more than they are giving....They are not your friend and are just taking advantage

I do have male friends in the hobby.  We have mutual respect for each other.

Since the "love struck" guys fuck it up for us all, oh then there are the cheap fucks who are always looking for something for free. Kind of muddies the water for everyone.

text for set time an location not for  chat
  no donation no time
    live you life not his

My clients reach out to me on Valentine's Day, my birthday, Thanksgiving and Christmas. The only other time I hear from them, is when they are ready to book another appointment. For me, that's wonderful. I have a fulfilling civvie life.

Exactly.... I wouldn't want him to take advantage of me. I know sooner guys want to become friends hoping for free services or hoping to get in a relationship but my private life stays private. I don't like when someone wants to figure out how much I make or if I have a lot of clients.... That's none of his problem.  
I think that's the bad part of becoming friends.

I have several clients with who I am very friendly , whose company I enjoy and even share personal stuff about my private life BUT I never spend time in their company UNLESS a session is scheduled. I always spend extra time after or before the session just talking and catching up because we are friendly and share mutual affection and respect. Sometimes if my schedule permits I may meet them and have a cocktail for happy hour, but NEVER without a scheduled session. If a client gets too texty and trying to engage in small talk outside a session, I simply ignore the texts until the next day , I dont address the content of the messages he sent I simply respond with something like this: Hey you sorry for the late reply, just saw your msgs. Thanks for reaching out, let me know if you'd like me to put you on my calendar and if so how much time I should reserve for the visit. Thanks again and have a great day!), Leigh Anna. " This type of response generally shuts down the overly clingy or those looking for free company or conversation.  I live near the biggest military base east of the Mississippi and %90 of my gentlemen callers are rock hard bodied Marines in their 20's and early 30's so its EXTREMELY difficult not to give in when they start the sweet talk and the "let's just hang out" stuff. It takes ALOT of discipline to brush off a crowd of Liam Hemsworth look a likes.  Just keep in mind, this is our livelihood, we can't pay the bills working as a volunteer for lonely lads and  if you give you them an inch , they will take a mile. If he's truly a friend he'll never ask for anything without compensation for you.

texts from the ladies now and then.  I've never initiated a text with a provider that wasn't about an appt until they initiate one with me.  My ATF and I text kinda regularly and know a great deal about each other's lives.

When I was young and more naive the thought of being friends with prostitutes did not seem so far fetched.
Experience is the greatest teacher, keep it as a business transaction or you will get burned.