Hi ladies. I'll probably get hammered for this, but I've been around so I'll survive. I know we're supposed to write reviews so we can develop a rep and you can kind of check us out. I've done one review, but I'm really uncomfortable with it. This may mean I don't ever get to see any more of you beautiful ladies, but Oh well. My experiences with you are so personal, I just can't do these write-ups.
I'm not asking for any advice on this. I was just thinking about this and my latest date and thought I'd throw it out there. Case was looking for things to talk about. Here you go.
Sean
I agree with you Sean, reviews are not my thing either.
Cool. I didn't know if I was by myself on this or not.
Sean
People get so caught up with reviews in various ways. Yes, they help the community out for sure. Your experiences help other people stay safe and make good decisions about who to see or not to see. But if you aren't comfortable, then don't worry about it. That's the main reason to write reviews. If a lady won't see you because you don't have any reviews, then she needs to rethink her screening process.
So often someone will come on the board asking for advise, or asking for suggestions on a girl to see, or asking what anyone knows about a particular girl. And if the guy has no reviews or only a couple, everyone gets all butt-hurt and doesn't want to help. Its so beyond childish. Either help out or don't and keep it moving.
Having reviews is helpful for us ladies in our screening process. We can read your other reviews, and get a feel for your personality, what you might be like during a date, what you like and don't like, how you tend to score, etc. And we can contact ladies you've reviewed, or who have whitelisted you, for a reference.
But not having reviews doesn't mean necessarily mean anything to me, personally. Most guys I see don't write reviews often if at all. Doesn't mean they don't have good references, or can't be screened other ways. Relying on reviews to screen someone is stupid anyway.
Some ladies get really caught up with reviews, and become obsessed with them. And some unfortunately even harass clients that give them low scores or mention things in the review they don't want known. Makes the rest of us look bad. But reviews are kind of a necessary evil for us. Its part of business. Lets guys know *in general* what they can expect from a date with us, good or bad.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Do what you're comfortable with. The right ladies will be glad to talk to you and work on screening, with or without a million reviews under your belt. For most its about the experience, not the notches on the bedpost.
Ciao
G
Thank you ladies, for the positive responses.
I totally understand the help the reviews provide and they are very helpful to clients and providers. I have just found it to be personally really contrary to my nature. I probably would never do a negative review on a lady anyway, unless they were somehow dangerous, then I would definitely warn others for the sake of clients and providers alike.
Sean
From my perspective, reviews are useful in determining if a provider has been around a while and the general response from the community. I think it is useful to know that a provider has fake pictures or has a very low overall rating vs. well-rated. BackPage and other online escort listings are useful only in seeing some of who is currently out there, but I use TER to screen the providers to make sure that they have some history and that there are unlikely to be any problems.
A provider I saw in Greensboro about three weeks ago told me that there have been 8 incidents of robbery of providers and/or clients in the past few months in G'boro. Being an independent, she had hired her own security guy, who I happened to bump into in the hall when leaving.
I've had enough negative experiences in the hobby to want to get some idea about the provider, but the individual client reviews aren't nearly as useful (they are described as fiction!) as the summary page is. If the provider has at least a few reviews and decent ratings cumulatively, I feel more comfortable in contacting a provider for the first time
Reviews on TER have been of great value to me. For one thing, they put my mind at ease regarding the bona fides of the provider. Just before starting up in the hobby (before I knew about TER) I googled "escorts in Wake Forest," near where I live, and the first thing that came up was a news story about a police sting at a nearby hotel in which 4 or 5 clients were busted when they responded to an ad on backpage. After figuring out a bit more about how all this really worked I determined that I would not go near anyone who was not reviewed on TER.
Beyond that, I have found the information on ratings, donations, and menus as valuable if not moreso than the descriptions of the encounters. It's very helpful in choosing someone that one should feel comfortable with what she offers and what she likes. For me, I don't have that many opportunities to see a provider that I can afford to waste them on someone who is incompatible, and for that the reviews have been a godsend.
I fully agree on the value of the reviews, although many may be fake. This is just a personal thing for me. I find myself to be very uncomfortable doing a review, whether positive or negative.
Sea
already has enough reviews to establish her credibility.
When I was new to the business I would ask for reviews so that other hobbyists would feel safe seeing me. Now that I have 70-something reviews here, I'm fine if you review me, or if you don't.
The ONLY time I've been annoyed not to be reviewed is when the hobbyist says that he's not going to review me because he doesn't want another local provider, who is known to be possessive of her clients, to know that he saw me. That irritates me just on principle, but not enough for me to get too worked up about it. At least now I know not to ask her for a reference.
There are plenty of guys out there who don't review; indeed, the vast majority of my clients do not review. As long as you are willing to give screening info (references or otherwise) you will not have any problem getting dates.
Well, as I've indicated, I'm an open book-lol!
Sean
That's what this is for. It does seem odd to kiss and tell even if for the good of the community. I usually write them and don't really have any odd feelings for doing so. That's just me. Like others said they are good and bad in a way. They can help ladies get some insight to your personality for example if a guy constantly goes on and on about how he plowed that ass like a fresh turned cornfield she'll quickly figure he's a immature asshat. Just had to throw that in for effect but ya get the point.
As long as ya have references and can communicate like a sincere nice fella ( which shouldn't be a problem for you) you'll be just fine. If you do review ya don't have to tell the whole story if certain parts are uncomfortable, too personal or something outside the norm like she gave ya something extra or whatever.
A lot of fellas don't I've thought about not doing it myself it's pretty much a damn admission of guilt if ya ever got outed. Nothing more incriminating than in you're own words. " we went at it like horny teenagers" explain that shit to the misses if ya leave the computer on and logged in.
I guess I could say "She was beautiful. She smelled great! I highly recommend", but I don't know if people would be too happy about that either 
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Sean
I completely get what you are saying. My advice is to write them sparingly just to get a tad more established, then stop writing reviews for a while. Then maybe write maybe one every 6 months or so. or stop completely.
That's just my 2 cents. Like Julia said there's no need to have a ton of reviews. Some ladies like her don't care for it, and won't see a heavy reviewer.
Try to strike some kind of balance.
xoxo,
Steph 
I have only posted one review but only because she had not had one in many months. She did not need a new review with having around a hundred but I posted it so others would know she was still around I guess. Mostly was trying to help her out I guess cause she had treated me extra special a few times. I did not post any details cause it did not need to be said. Just said her service was as good or better as previous reviews.
.... not crazy to see there are those who'd rather not write or shares details at all just like there are ladies who would rather not get them AT ALL. *shrugs*.
I forget. What does the R in TER stand for?
