Hi everybody:

Fist off, let me thank "shifterp" for his reply to my previous posting and suggesting I start a new thread since I was late joining the fist one.

Here's a copy of the previous post to re-cap.


OK folks - I'm new to this hobby. I had a couple of providers ask me to go to a web site and fill out credit card details complete with security code so they could verify I was over 18...not a cop... etc etc. No charges would be processed they said....
Of course I did not proceed... end of story.

That is one side of the verification issue that is clearly a scam.....do correct me if I'm missing something here.

Then of course there's the fill out the form complete with your work number..company...etc. - Oh sure....

Finally there's the reference check. That actually seems to be fairly reasonable except in cases like mine.

I have been married a long time and only recently saw my first provider and that was in Europe!  
I intend only to see providers here in the U.S occasionally.  How on earth is a provider that saw me 6 or 8 weeks ago going to remember me to be able to give a reference?

Update: Maybe if I dye my pubic hair blue....lol
In theory reference checking is fine, if you're a busy guy out there enjoying visits every other week with different providers, but not many of us I would think could quite afford that luxury.

"Shifterp" mentioned a couple of verification sites which I intend to look at however some I have seen already require some type of payment. OK, of course I realize there's a cost for this, but again, here we have the credit card paper trail. Records like this can be misused, made public, etc etc.
Mostly this is and should be a cash business. For everybody involved.

Frankly the "profession" should be legalized like it is in many countries and that alone would alleviate many of the problems.

Comments?

#1 There are many ladies out there that will see you without any information at all..

2. If the lady you want to see, wants reference information. Give it to her.. I promise you she is not interested in your wife, kids, job or otherwise.. She simply wants to know you are a safe, sane and respectful gentleman.. that will keep her name and face out of a newspaper for any reason and or out off a shallow grave in your back yard. EIther way. someone knows where to look if she is lucky and this does happen to her..

Some ladies, ( even me) from time to time will verify your employemnt if you don't have a reference..

yes, it should be legalized but it is not. So for now.. be safe always....

Join a screening site like Preferred411.  A small yearly fee covers it.  They are discrete and professional.

I will go back and do references for three months. After that I feel like I may not really know that gentleman anymore as alot can change in 3 months.

Also..I understand why men do not like to do work references..but guys come on...

If you are seeing a reviewed...KNOWN provider the risk is small. We are not callin your job saying "This is Aubrey..an escort..can I speak to Bob" We are discrete! You just need to do your homework before giving out any information! You should have no problem finding the perfect woman for you!!

Kisses
Aubrey

Appreciate the comments and suggestions.

Thanks.

Hey Bacardi, glad you re-posted this and got some responses from some of the women.

We got a great bunch of gals here in the Carolinas so you can always, if you do your homework, find some of the best in the hobby to spend some time with.

One thing I thought of when you talked about the credit card paper trail is you can always buy a Visa giftcard and use that for any of the reputable verification sites. If you use one of those you do not have to use your own debit card or cc.

Have fun play safe and always treat the ladies with the utmost respect cause it always comes back in spades.

Shifterp OUT!

Good idea about the pre-paid Visa shifterp.

Thanks for that.

Just a thought - Any ladies in the Raleigh area who would like to help me build a few references? Maybe you could email or PM me.

Otherwise you will be begging a long time and getting a lot of worthless advise.

Both are safe, sound and worth the money. Plus the email communication they provide is great tool.

My rule is never to fill out web forms, it is a privacy nightmare. Most say this that and the other, unless they maintain their own servers and not use a web hosting co, they don't have a clue about what they are talking about.

Both Date-Check and Preferred 411 have the option of sending a money order. (No paper trail) Preferred411 has an annual fee of $69, while Date-Check has a one time fee for lifetime membership.