I've had my handle for 8+ years. And those who remember their time with me (In 2012 my whole world changed in not a good way), will hopefully say I'm real, not a put on, I really am the same when meeting someone "this way", as I am in my real world...except in the world here I have to move faster than I would in my personal life.
And most ladies that are highly reviewed here and are "GFE", pride themselves in the art of preparing for a date by shutting the outside world out, focusing on the person we are going to be seeing and being that girl friend that makes the gentleman's heart (and other organs) go pitter patter when our eyes first meet. It really is an art form. Different ladies that are all considered GFE will have different personalities and some have things on their "menu" that others don't. We're not all the same, trust me. And I dare say none of those that are GFE are wham bam thank you ma-am kinda ladies. Anyone that knows me knows I took my time getting to know as much as I could about the man before we met, with flirtatious PMs, emails and phone calls. It helped both me and the gent be WAY more comfortable with each other...and made meeting in person so much better. I never felt like I was meeting a stranger this way. It was great because even though we knew something about each other, the anticipation of meeting for the first time was still there, those little tingles...the pitter patter thingy!
And it was good for another reason. It also gave me, and the gent a chance to see if the chemistry was there.
I understand the part about having to gain your trust. With me, alot of trust had already occured before meeting someone new by screening, getting to know someone on the board, checking him out by looking at his reviews, how he writes about the ladies he meets-you can learn alot about someone by observing their board posts and reading their reviews. I used TER to make decisions about meeting someone..kinda like the guys do. And of course the PMs and emails were great and then putting a voice to the handle/name really was invaluable to me and I've never met a man here that didn't like what I called "our first phone date". This didn't happen overnight for me, but for about the last 4-7 years, this worked out so well for me that I really didn't HAVE to see someone that gave me pause. I'm speaking about the gentlemen of TER. My Eros only guys- and yes there are men out there that have no idea what TER is, I still would check refs, Date Check, P411, but often didn't have the time TER allows to really get to know them over weeks/months. Usually about a week before hand with Eros. But I still would have a phone conversation DAYS before meeting them.
And true GFEs don't put on an act to make more money. Most guys can see right thru that. Believe me when I say there are ladies who DFK and bbbj and still don't always get high marks. These guys here are pretty smart-well most of them,lol! If a lady is just going thru the motions or if they feel the experience is scripted, they won't be giving high scores!
A truely outstanding GFE/courtesans can make meeting someone for the first seem naturally effortless when the door opens, and they have to really be "on point" to do this well. Kissing someone new seems effortless, and for most it is.
You ask the question, "Do any gentlemen like a woman that prides herself on the safety, discresion, and personal decisions she makes regardless of society?" Yes they do, IMO they LOVE a woman who does all of that and can also make him feel like he's connecting with a lover/girlfriend.Please realize, ALL of the ladies here think about their safety, the personal decisions they make regardless of what society thinks. Do you really think society condones any of this? No it doesn't so ALL of us are in our own way, bucking the society norm.
And you talk about being amazed how gentlemen can write what they do about someone they met for an hour...Well be amazed that a true GFE can envoke a man to feel and then to write about his 1 hr experience that way. It's not easy for the lady to focus enough to pull that off in an hour. Are we supposed to treat them any less because only an hour was in the budget? I think not. GFEs prefer longer engagements, it makes things easier in most cases. I'm never going to be comfortable not taking the time to sit and chat and get the know someone before taking it to the next level, so my 1.5 hr booking was a deal most couldn't refuse. But in no way would I ever act differently with a gentleman who booked just an hour. Now that would be fake as all get out and the chances of making him forget that it was a service would be impossible if I had that attitude.
Alot of GFE types have more options available than I do. And their style is different than mine. I do what I'm comfortable with. They do what they are comfortable with.
You are talking about what these guys write when they are only spending an hour with a lady. Well what about a half hour? Doubtful that a GFE experience could happen within that time frame.
GFE isn't just about certain services being offered, it's about having the gent FORGET it's a service, forget that he just dropped the donation, forget that you're not really his girl friend. I certainly don't consider thst "blowing smoke up his ass to make more money".
I really if you tweak a few things, without making huge change you'll get some 8s maybe higher. If you won't kiss a guy at all he'll feel like a "john". Yes you are honest and upfront about what you won't do, but that won't change how a TER gent rates you on performance. Now how he feels about the WHOLE experience, you can probably make him feel a little more like your BF for the time you spend together with just minimal changes. Maybe some LIGHT, teasing kisses. LFK can be sexy too. Nowhere near as intense or intimate but still it can be erotic. A little lip grazing, soft lip nibbles, neck nibbling, ect. You don't have let some guy ram his tongue down your throat. If you feel strongly about CBJ, don't do it. There are several ladies I know across the country that do CBJ.
The atmosphere of your place makes a big difference on how a guy will score his experience with you. Believe it or not candles around the room, even during the day add alot to the atmosphere. Soft music too. You may already do these things, I dunno!
Price negoitating, asking for tips for services will never give a guy the warm and fuzzies. His score will reflect it. I understand your need to feel safe, but these guys will never feel great about knowing you are calling or texting your driver/security guy/person. And most of the guys on TER will feel real uncomfortable meeting your security in the lobby before meeting you. It will be reflected in their scores.
I understand that advertising on BP you will really have to be extra careful, but maybe when meeting with one of the TER gents, you can prescreen, making sure they will have whatever you need to feel comfortable with them or give you Refs to check of other ladies that have seen them. The best screening you can do is checking refs as far as feeling good about meeting someone new.
Anything I've said here is based on you reviews.
I know you are new to TER and it's so good you found the it, it's a great tool for learning, screening and making potential friends to meet with.
Barbie, you have a lot of potential you have a cute bod from what I can see, you seem to enjoy the nitty gritty, if ya know what I mean. You have developed a board presence here, and those are some SEXY boots your wearing in your pics. I see better scores in your future!
Sorry but I had to speak up about the GFE in handles or on websites thingy. GFE is an attiude about doing our thang here and being genuine while doing it. And making our friends here forget it's P4P.
xoxo,
Steph
