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What eventually happens to providers
Intensity_offen 806 reads
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Just recently hitting 60, happyly in a solid relationship with an x provider for years now,  We were thinking of all the ladies we have known in my life.  I was wondering what their future ends up being. We all know the ones that use the hobby to support drug habits usually end up in bad places, on the street or die prematurely at a younger age.  And many, especially in these times work for a short period of time to make ends meet, either for their family, or themselves, and eventually return to their normal life.

What about the ladies whom have been a professional provider for many years.  Whom run it like a real business and take care of their finances, thus securing a solid financial future.  As they age and being a provider is no longer viable, do they end up with a mate, or alone?

What about the ones whom do not take care of their finances smartly, and spend every dime they make, like most people do these days.  What do they do if they have nothing saved and no assets, and they can no longer provide?

I have and do know some really good people whom are providers and live very well, take care of themselves, but do not plan for the future.  What happens to them in the end?

Anyone remember how the Ants prepared for being stuck in colder weather(love that song by Zac and the guys), while the grasshopper fiddled all summer, and probably froze to death when that colder weather set in---can't remember just how the story ended, but I'm sure the whole thing had a lesson for us kids to learn---work hard and do well toward the end of your time, OR fiddle your time away and suffer the consequences:((
I, too, wonder and worry about some of the ladies that I have danced with in the past, who now have vanished into the mists of time. I hope and pray that they have found a lil comfort in this life and remember me as fondly as I do them:))
After reading you post, I think I will devote this afternoon to sitting on the beach(bundled up:))and bring forth the wonderful memories the ladies have made for me in the past:)) I'm too tired anyhoo to do anything else, as I just made a memory with a lil lady that I will recall over and over as I head into the colder weather ahead that awaits us all. Hopefully, the ladies are a hybrid of ANTHOPPER and enjoy the days while the blossom is still on the vine, but put some green away to be able to enjoy that colder weather---I gotta go look at some scantily clad lil ladies pics on this board/elsewhere and get out of this pensive mood:))

InterestedToKnow2467 reads

I, too, am in a relationship with an x client (no, I'm not your girl).  And I have been a provider for 10yrs.  What does all these clients futures end up being?  Do they have someone in the end?  A mate they can call their own?  I'm not talking about the ones that didn't get caught.  What happens to the men that did get caught?  The ones that ruined the one woman who would have loved them forever?   So you still hobby but when you lay down to sleep, how does it feel to not have someone truly love you the way your wife did?  Is this hobby worth the risk of losing that one true love?  I'd bet your answer is yes, it's worth the risk but your answer is different if you were actually caught.

Are you still happy with the choices you made in your life?

Food for thought.

It is sad to think about the ones that do not have an exit plan.  So young ladies, if you are reading this.  HAVE AN EXIT PLAN!  

Great post Intensity

to know that several are doing very well...no drugs...no x-clients supporting them.  I know many retired ladies that have opened their own businesses, invested (WISELY) in real estate rentals, continued their education thereby gaining professional employment or just paid off all their bills and living a simpler life.  Providers (and clients alike) enter this business for various reason...I know some ladies that don't need the money and live for the secret life and excitement that comes long with it.  I know other ladies that really do need the money and plan to get in and get out.

Of course the insinuation that providers have to end up with a hobbyist (or a mate) is pathetic and I hope that was just poor wording  If you were not afforded the opportunity to meet quality women that have a plan and did not rely on a relationship for their retirement, you missed out. If I misunderstood, then I apologize; but it really irks me when I see comments like that.

Providers are like hobbyist....there are good ones and there are bad ones.  I have personally cut hobbyists off because I know that they were not making mortgage payments in lieu of seeing ladies.  I also know ladies that spend every dime.  But in the end, this business (and yes it is a business) is what you make it...good or bad.  So planning to retire is essential if you want to exit on your own terms.


Intensity_offen454 reads

no negative conotations intended.  I also know several that are in this for the fun, and also make a few bucks doing.  I know several that do just as you said and are now running a legit  biz, or are living a simple life with all the happiness many wish they have.  There are just so many that have no exit plan, like many people in many other pursuits of life.  And no,  I was not suggesting that all providers need a hobbyiest to survive or support them.  I know too many that have tried to have a relationship and it rarely works.  I does well in our case, but most fail due to insecurites. And for hobbiest, I know many that have ruined their life over the sport. So it goes both ways.    And as for Alias, too many of you know me and I was trying to get honest feedback.

Well I'm glad I just misunderstood that.  From a provider perspective, yes some ladies do not have good financial (or business sense)...I also see this in my professional job ALL the time.  There are those that will succeed and those that will be at it long past their "prime"..... ce la vie!

InterestedToKnow2423 reads

I probably shouldn't have said I'm with an ex client as I guess one would assume I'm with him for his money. And who I'm with wasn't really relevant. I certainly am not with him for his money. He had none.  I'm with him for the sex so maybe I will end up alone, hmmmm.  That is sad to think about.  

Asking what happens to us would be the same as asking what happens to the men and women in the corporate world that also do not save and spend every dime. Once retirement hits or they can no longer perform their duties at a job they've been at for 30 or 40 years.... What do they do?  Soc sec doesn't pay the bills.  In my parents case, at age 60, they tell us kids that they are going to have to sale their home because they were sinking and couldn't recover.  I took over and now I have a future rental property as I put a deed of trust/lien on their property (no, you can't even trust family). But I saved my parents.  I also own another rental and I opened a business so I guess I'm in the "I'm ok category". The alias is because certain readers don't need to know my personal business and where my money has gone which I almost posted this info originally.  Some know who I am now anyway.

My point is we are no different from anyone else. Everyone needs to save for retirement. Not just us.  

One more note about provider/client relationships.... HARD as a HELL and nearly impossible in my case anyway. As the warning goes: Don't try this at home or: Hazardous to your health.

BUT, BUT...."Pretty Woman" lived happily ever after, didn't she? O, me, I felt so good when I left the theater that night:)) Dayum!  you mean that all the fairy tales that I grew up with were NOT real:((,,,,,  Going to bed and curl up in fetal position and suck thumb:((

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