I have seen a few fbsm providers and while each experience has been positive, I feel that some providers judge or withhold service because of my appearance.  I do have excessive weight, I have a stomach with love handles and thick thighs, but I am still very mobile (can touch and see my toes asking with other body parts).  Other than that, I am fairly average.  I always show up well dressed ( slacks & polo) and freshly showered and fresh breath.  I wanted to ask the lovely ladies and the gentlemen what your experiences have been with having heavier clients.  I have stopped seeing providers because I have been extra self aware ( more than usual) about this.  Thanks in advance.

every lady has her preferences on clients to see or not see. As mentioned by the lady above, I am more concerned with being treated with respect and spending time with gentlemen that hygiene conscious.  We are all created to be different sizes and shapes and I believe how you treat people matters far more than appearance.

Why are you "extra self aware"? I don't think a provider is being very professional if she is making comments about your weight to you so I don't think that would be the case. We are all human after all, but we pay the providers to put of an act for us. Are you saying you don't believe the act?

And they each have their own specifications sometimes beyond grooming . . but don't feel self conscious over it because chemistry also plays a part. Just be yourself, open and have fun. As long as you are clean showered and groomed and toilet paper isn't stuck in your ass (just kidding) lol I am open to most body types . . I am a super spinner sooo it's easy for me to get around

Some actually love sex  
A professional would not complain about a little extra around the middle during a meeting
I suggest hiring professionals  who don't act

But they all say it's not an act. Just read the reviews and see how many clients got multiple Os from providers and they were real ones too.   I don't mind a little acting as long as it's "good" acting.

I am too old to believe that we are all blind to body-types and appearance, but  the reality is that "average" in 2014 SE USA, including the Carolinas, is about 30% bigger than it was in 1964 and that includes all ages, all races, both sexes and all combinations thereof. While it would be wonderful if we all had chiseled bodies and the time and energy it takes to get and maintain such physiques, most of us are , in fact, "average". That being said, a true professional is one who constantly seeks to improve their understanding of their clients and expand/enhance their  skillset to the benefit of their clients, and there are definitely techniques, touches and toys that work better for and with folks with plenty of bulk. There are such professionals here in the Carolinas and you just need to find them. When you do find them, you will understand  completely that we don't have to be built like David Beckham, or Victoria Beckham,  to get, or to give, the ride of a lifetime.  

I always feel bad when I give a compliment to one of my clients because I think "why would they believe me? They probably just think my whole personality is a lie/act."  
It hurts my feelings when I can see it in their eyes that they don't think I'm being honest.

like I don't have 5 pounds of belly fat and a reviewer said that
It's no different than I gave her multiple O
reviewers sometimes lie and they sugar coat
I always hope for honesty

Bro, don't let that bug you.  I''ve been working out for decades.  I'm not writing this for ego, rather to tell you that I've encountered providers who don't even mention it.  I think that personality matters with the ladies as much as to some of us guys.  Banging a centerfold does nothing for me if she just lays there.  My point is, we all have different attrbutes that make us interesting to the ladies.  If you're nice to her, she'll appeciate that much more than a flat belly.  So don't sweat it and have fun!

Just because you've never made a connection with a provider doesn't mean they all are acting all of the time. Obviously sometimes the connection isn't there. Sometimes it's there in spades. If I do a review and I say that a provider had an O it is because of the evidence that I have learned to recognize to mean she had an O. Have you ever been inside a woman and had the temperature of her crotch climb so quickly you could actually feel it? And when she is so wet that it's literally dripping? And you can taste her excitement during a heated bout of DATY?

The look of relief that I usually get says it all. I wouldn't expect too many providers to admit that they give better service to us then to the fat guys since their clientele base consists of mainly overweight middle aged or older men. Some do have better tolerance the others.

Teddy Bears out there need to be touched, in my opinion even more. Not just a hand job kinda touch, but real touches, like brush strokes on a blank canvas. That is how I approach gentlemen I meet.

Thank you for your honesty.  I always give honest compliments to any lady I am seeing or talking with.  

No provider made actual comments about my weight (I would just leave if that occured).  It is really a change of attitude & tone from when we talked on the phone and when they first see me from the chest up (very friendly, high energy and pleasant) to when I walk through the door and they get the full profile (energy goes way down and turns to more of a business deal).  I know I am paying for an act, but it seems that the act abruptly changes when I walk in the room.

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Just remember to compliment him on his Johnson size. Narcicisits need love too.

Talk to the provider about it. Give the benefit of the doubt to the ladies otherwise you're not being very fair. It might just be your perception and the provider might just be following your lead. You have to have a candid conversation with the next provider you sense that feeling with ... immediately, not after the session. I know I've read providers wrong in the past and the only way to get to the bottom is to talk. After all, it's your dime.

If you want to continue, see better reviewed ladies and keep working on your self esteem. Good Luck!!

very well said, Kourtney...  You sound like a real nice lady and fun to meet with.

yeah some act and some dont.  And sometimes its hard  to tel

Dude, face to face will always be different from the online personna. I think you are sensitive and you are seeing things that arent really there. For me if I think about the acting going on it will ruin it for me.  But then is she acting?  Only her hairdresser knows for sure.

He's not seeing GFE ladies he's seeing massage ladies. Most well reviewed GFE ladies will not discriminate on the weight issue as long as the gentleman can move about ok.

Steph xoxo

This gentleman is having some self esteem issues about his weight and you're not helping.

Good looks may be the icing on the cake with some ladies, but I can tell you that a fit guy with a crappy attitude will never trump a guy who is overweight and a total sweetheart.

And for the record I'm not referring to you when I'm talking about a crappy attitude BCD. I wouldn't know about that!

Steph (one of those old broads) xoxo

I just recently found out that not all providers are insincere when they make a compliment, but as clients we become jaded and tend to think providers BS us most of the time because ... they do. Sometimes it's funny. Most of the time it's not. I know one hobbyist who laughs about a provider he's seen a few times who tells him a different story every time about what type of graduate degree she's working on. I know of an agency where EVERY girl I have seen has told me her "real" name. I don't care what their real name is, but I'm getting the impression that it's just a way to instill "trust".

Warning:  /Mangina Rant_On

If the gentleman is having self esteem issues he can hit the gym and stop eating fast food. Same with the providers. We have too much of the PC bullshit in this country while too many people are overweight and that includes America's children. I may be crass, but what I say is true.

"No, I understand why you were late, it's ok."

Posted By: DURHAMDREW63

But they all say it's not an act. Just read the reviews and see how many clients got multiple Os from providers and they were real ones too.   I don't mind a little acting as long as it's "good" acting.

You forgot my personal favorite, you "forgot" to shave your legs and snatch again That's ok just speak in a French accent and we'll role play a bit.

I think you nailed it. To be treated as a interchangeable envelope delivery man or ATM is insulting.   The worst part is we know it.

unless four legged with fur counts! And I don't consider myself thin either, I have hips and an ass just like women are supposed to! It's unfortunate that words like "curves" get misused by some, but I can tell you I'm  built like a WOMAN, and that includes curves!

xoxo,

Steph

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You are so much better with words than I. I hope he reads this. I wish he would see GFE ladies a few times, maybe that would help his self esteem .

Girls have lines, women have CURVES. And you are all woman.

I don't expect Idris Elba/Bradley Cooper/Joe Manganiello whenever I open the door but they'll sure be treated as if they look like them . It's a matter of respect and you came for a good time (as I want a good time) and I plan to give it. If they can't show their appreciation properly they don't deserve a repeat or even you staying. I mean if you can visibly see disappointment in their faces and the energy in the room go down no sooner than you step in it you shouldn't stay. Even if you don't look like a fitness model you still deserve to be treated like a king.

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....especially when I'm nothing short of a straight-shooter. If I compliment something about you just take the damn compliment! lol

it takes me a moment for it to sink in.

I'm built like a woman too!  
With a snatch and breasts!

Posted By: MatureGFE

unless four legged with fur counts! And I don't consider myself thin either, I have hips and an ass just like women are supposed to! It's unfortunate that words like "curves" get misused by some, but I can tell you I'm  built like a WOMAN, and that includes curves!

xoxo,

Steph

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