local fellow who has booked and unbooked with me several times (in other words, has put himself in the category of major timewaster) just wrote me this...

Surely what happened in Charleston is horrific on countless levels, but if 'not when others are dying' is the yardstick he's using then he's in the process of making sure he'll never see anyone in any major metropolitan area, mid sized city and small town coast to coast - and from the sounds of your experience with him, it sounds like maybe he's already done that.  

I know that it was a trajic happening. But damn that takes the cake.  
Very distasteful to lash out at you like this and for what reason.  We all have lives that continue regardless of what events happen around us. This guy is a big jerk in my opinion.  
  Where is people's respect for others now days.

I mean honestly, just how much longer you "might" have put up with his timewasting crap if he hadn't sent this last final nail in his coffin with you?

... He's an idiot for canceling on you. I can't wait for your visit.

Wow, so sorry to hear that one person can ruin your day. Yep a time waster for sure. My head is still shaking, if that is his excuse for today, I wonder what it would be in the future. Definitely mark that person off your list. You do not deserve that nor does anyone.

what a bunch of BS

He should have considered you a "healing experience"! Seriously, block him and   put him on those sites for guys like him.

He's one of those creepers who beats off at the idea of meeting someday, but he'll NEVER go thru with it. That's why he left the door open (in his mind) so the fantasy continues. Creepy huh?

Ask him how much time he's taken off work in the wake of said tragedy...

You said it best!