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Everyone else probably understands. But being new to the area I'm still trying to figure things out .

So I gotta ask

My guess would be an attention seeking tactic

Or

She dumped her SO

Or

She has a new fitness regiment

Or

She sold off all her worldly possessions

Or

She picked up something dead then dropped it

Or

She dumped a body in a river

Or

Well... this could go on and on. That was my allotted amount of speculative time. Moving on.

Get the brainwashing outta you head, you CAN do this without him. And no more bruises. If that man lays a hand on you have his sorry ass thrown in jail. don't believe any of his BS tactics to get you back, his type will say anything.

Rock on...there may be some backlash just don't give in!

VERY convenient to post this so "Jess" can start posting and people here would think they were talking to HER.

If a lady was really getting away from her abusive, blackmailing, threatening pimp, "she" wouldn't make an announcement like this on the board. Nope that would just piss off the abusive pimp type male (not man) who she escaped from.

She'd change her handle, website and go UTR for a while. Change her pics, change everything.

I'm hopeful BUT HIGHLY skeptical.

If you would trash him. You know, call him a piece of shit, a scumbag, worthless garbage, sheep fucking good for nothing pimp.  
Then you could apologize to all of the hobbyists and providers that you crossed.

Well truth be told, he isn't my pimp. I have never had a pimp. He wasn't a worthless piece of garbage, he relentlessly helped me obtain custody of my children and the stress of his life and my life made him lose his mind - he walked out of my life because I decided to continue in this business. I have never crossed anyone, friend or provider. I will be a provider until I finish school, then I'm leaving this business for good. I am not a member of the provider only board, and this post was mainly meant for the few girls that know me. I don't really feel like replying to anymore posts, or trash talk about me or anyone else, so I'm going to ignore this part of TER after I submit this. Maybe I should continue working out of state, who knows. Hope the best to everyone here.

that blackmailed you, others before you, beat your face, bruised your body, threatened to out you if you dared quit, said agency is now gone but somehow he's still around, abusing women.

And this sounds like a GUY making excuses for his behavior, he's not really abusive...he lost his mind because of the woman. Classic abuser language.

Or a woman so abused and brainwashed by her "man", ex escort service owner she is now taking up for her abuser who had access to her computer.

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One of my books is about my ex. I had to delete a chapter out of the book, called "In ***'s defense." I took everything he called me and said I was/was not, and used those things as an excuse for him to do what he did.

Know this is intended for Jess...

Girl, I came to my senses, and realized a few things.
1. I thought I was those things because he constantly stuffed them into my head.
2. I realized a lot of what I did, which was nothing wrong, by the way, was because I became who he convinced me I was
3. I did everything for the guy. Lifted him up, pleased him at his command because I felt I was his only gal, and needed to take care of him in that respect
4. Supported him through school.

During the relationship I continually made excuses for his behavior. When I left the relationship, I slammed that guy with my words to everyone I knew. Then took it back. Then back to slamming him, then back to taking the trash talk back and making excuses.

It's very confusing, especially if that's the only person allowed in your life. They brain wash you.

Ever hear "It's not your fault?" Kids are told that all the time and don't believe it. BUT, why are they told that all the time? Because they THINK it is theirs.

Manipulation, control, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse can really make you believe, as well as others, that it's your fault, stress' fault, life's fault. But I've met so many people in this life who have undergone immense stress, and never abused anyone. Never controlled anyone. They used those things to become stronger, better people... not to mention to become empathetic and compassionate to others undergoing things they have gone through.

It's not stress that makes people do things. It's not favors they do for you. It's not money. It's not YOU. It is all summed up to one thing.

Character.

Keep your character as you do. Though you want to 'think the best' of someone you're in love with, use that energy to think the best of yourself. That's what you need right now. I've met you. You're a sweet heart. It's a wonderful attribute to be able to have compassion and protect someone from a bad reputation,  but it will hurt you in the long run, because a lot of times in order to do that, you have to hurt yourself in the process.

As time goes on, as it did me, the hurt will get farther and farther away as you learn to let go. It's very hard not to go back. Be strong and find healthy people to be accountable to. No one can make your decisions for you, but it helps.

Sorry that was long, but good words I've learned through fighting a similar battle.

You will find someone good. The words, "No one will love you like I do, there's just way too much wrong with you." is a LIE, and I know damned well men use that on women to keep them down.

xoxo

Courtney

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You are simply being a sheeple and have no idea what went on. Focus on yourself.

Really don't have anyone to talk to about this entire event because of the nature of it. I didn't really expect to be attacked over it. But I can see how a few providers would throw explicit personal stuff out there to eliminate competition. Hell, half off whats said is false to begin with.

 
Thanks Courtney. The rest of you Ill people, I have nothing else to say to you now or after your I'll response.

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It's understandable, especially if you want to celebrate, to post a victory. Sometimes life leaves us with no one to talk to and we hope someone will jump up and celebrate with us.

You've got a few.

Good for you, be careful, and good luck to you. xoxo

Courtney

Why should she have to apologize for "hobbyists and providers she crossed" when she wasn't the one in control?  She isn't going to bash him on a public forum because she doesn't want retaliation, did that ever cross your mind?

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