Have you ever had this happen to you? You are the best GFE that you can be, and you show them an extraordinary time. That is your job. Then, after one visit, they are "addicted" to you. And, maybe not so much in a good way?

Here is my issue. I do all that I can do, to make my clientele happy. You can read my reviews, I do what I can. But, I have two clients now, and more seemingly trying to follow, that are freaking me out a bit.

They are great men. But, one has seen me only a few times and wants to be my "boyfriend" or "marry me." And, another, is married, and wants to see me all the time, because he love me more than his wife.

It just bothers me a little. They are paying for the ultimate GFE. Do they think that I have these feeling in return, when really they are paying me to have feelings for an hour.

I just dont understand. And, this is becoming a real problem. More and more of my clients are doing this. Yes, I should feel good that I am making them feel this way, I guess. Just weird.

Does anyone know what I am saying?

This is a different marketing tactic.

Not a marketing tactic at all actually. I just want to know if this is happening to anyone else.

Wow, I guess in one way its a complement, but in reality these men have other issues that are not being dealt with (dont we all LOL) and they have decided to make you the focus, and subsequently the replacement, instead of dealing with their true issues. My advice is to drop them now! It will get worse before it ever gets better. If/when you drop them the problem still wont be over, you can expect some form of backlash... however in the long run you must do what is right for you, if they are encroaching on your personal space or safety no amount of money is worth that, IMHO.

this could be just their fantasy which is what you provide, provide the fantasy. ..Unless it gets too strange and then you end it.

Next time one of them shows up, tell him to take out the garbage, fix that leaky faucet, paint the bathroom, and then tell him you have a headache.

Not all of it is genuine feelings for you, much of the time its pretend emotions to get free sex.

I was just trying to get it for free was the case. One of them is very serious about it. Almost to the "stalker" point. Very scary.

hungry 1951   ... Couldn't help myself from laughing when I read your suggestion.... That would take care of the problem in short order.

Just a little secret, us men don't like to be reminded it's a fantasy.  We know it, but we don't want to be told it's a fantasy.  If you want to cool their jets, just remind them at the end of your next date that the relationship is a fantasy, not your true feelings.  BUT, be careful, if their feelings are genuine, it could backfire and they may never see you again.

I do understand what you're saying.  I simply make sure to mention how much of a pain in the a.. I am to date in real life and that I am SO much more fun an hour...or two...at a time.

Good luck either way- it was good marketing.

I too have two gents whom feel the same way.. One has become my best friend. The other has now put some distance between us. I don't have sex with either of them anymore. I just had to tell them. I 'Luved' them both in a certain way. But not like they wanted. Once it was said, yet I was still their friend, After time they found another interest..One, yes ended up just for free sex, but once I said NO. He looked elsewhere. The other just kept telling me how we should be together. I said it would never work. I was never mean, ugly or disrespectful. Them either.

Yep, What do ya do? Give it to them half *ss & get a bad rep, Or throw it on them with all you got.. Kiss them deep, then you have feelings...MMMMM  Luv all of you anyways! can't help it! KK

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U should be proud of ur self....ALOT of guys wont do ask u "married me" and "Boyfriend" stuff unless U are seriously attractive or cool...


Ohh also...Married man should not ask u like that...That's F UP!!!

VERY GOOD ADVICE! These two are on the way, if not already there, to being possessive to the point of obsession. They can no longer be trusted in your life. Look at what happened to that poor little Hooter's girl in FL yesterday, and she was only "doing her job" of being nice to that nut case( Tell them that this is what you see happening (overstepping client/provider bounds) and they need to start thinking with the head that is on their shoulders. Hopefully, the mod will take care of any false negative posts from them on the board. You need to protect yourself from any physical backlash any way you have to, to be safe. That needs repeating---any way you have to, to be safe. Take care.

EOM.

You nailed it!

xoxo,

Steph

Thank you all for everything you said and your emails. You truly did help.

Yep, they look the new ladies. Their strategy is to make her feel special and then get all the free sex they can.

Parasitic Predatory Plastic People

They suck the big one.

This happens to me at least once every three months and unfortunately it has caused me to "fire" some clients. It becomes as if they don't understand that this is a "job". I enjoy it  immensely and passionately but that doesn't change that fact. Which is why I prefer the busier 35-55 yr old who is married, they don't get as caught up.

And it is kinda weird when they want to know the personal details of your life. I mean questions that we would never ask our clients. And when they really feel like they have seen you a sufficient amount of times, they inevitably ask for a free session.

Really, even if you order the same thing everyday at McDonalds, it still costs the same thing. Cut them off and save yourself the headache.

And this applies to you as well if you ever catch feelings for a client.