Have you tried Match.com?

I have had exactly the same thought/wish/desire.  And, no, Match.com is not the answer.  For a professional or business man there are expectations that come from someone you meet via an online dating service that may not fit with what you are looking for at this point in your life.  I got into the hobby after years of a sexless marriage followed by two years of a sexless separation.  I wanted to enjoy a sex life again but was not looking for a relationship with an expectation of a potential second marriage.  But I have found that intimacy is a big part of what I *am* looking for and think that a long term hobby relationship would be nice in this regard.  I wonder, though, if this is something that most providers would be comfortable with.

It is much more enjoyable to have these GFE with upscale providers than it ever was as a sexual transaction with the providers I met in the Navy.  Certainly the quality of the experience is defined by the willingness, creativeness and chemistry of the players involved.  The women I have seen more than once are wonderful company but it is restricted to the boundaries established by myself and the providers.  Like most anything else, the only thing permanent is change.  These relationships change, they grow and then they change again.  Adults are able to adjust to change and children tend to bang their sip-pie cups on the high chair.  I doubt I would have a long term relationship with a provider except as it relates to consistent service, playful flirtations between those interludes and powerful emotions during the date.  After our time is done she is on to whatever is next and so am I.  Personally, I think the hobby is a great way to live life for those (like me) that want intensity without the chaos or drama that goes with a partner's expectations or rules.  Everyone enjoys being wanted and as long as understand my money is the catalyst I can never misunderstand a provider's behavior nor will I be allowed to drift out of reality for too long.

Just saying........

For many of us, a higher level of sexual satisfaction can be reached when we are comfortable with our partner.  The more time you spend in someone's company,  the more comfortable, and trusting, and open you can become with your partner, whether in the hobby or not.  But it sounds like at the end of the day, you don't want all the other issues that come with having an affair or a girlfriend, so the reality of the business transaction is a good way to keep a little distance.  I always enjoy repeat visitors; once you reach a deeper  level of comfort, then you can really get creative and push those secret buttons that we don't always share on a first date.

I hope you find the perfect balance you're seeking.

All the best...always.

Kim