: Carolinas Discussion : Curious

IvyO See my TER Reviews 1706 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I was watching the secret dairy of a call girl and was wondering can you be in a relationship as a provider and work at the same time? Does it create a complicated environment? Sometimes, I think I could be involved with someone when the timing is right, but not while I am Ivy O. But for now I like what I do.

One more thing. Have any of you ever told a family member what you do? I kind of told my sister but I dont think she caught on. I was a little afraid because I didnt want her to judge me or treat me like I have some type of contagious disease

Happy weekend Carolina peeps,

Ivy O.

anomy08513 58 Reviews 432 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Its done more often than you think

I've been with a few providers where we had pillow talk in between our sessions and they talked about their personal life. Two in fact have had boyfriends that knew what they did and were fine with it. I was floored but as they went on to explain this is a job and they can have a life outside of it.

towshort 10 Reviews 385 reads

posted 10 years ago

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its instreting

i am a friend whit benefits to a pro-dom in NC, I know what she does, and its a turn on some times when she get back after a session, but it takes a strong person to be ok with it

GaGambler 521 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I have been in LTR's with several active providers

and I know most of the friends of my last hooker GF all had BF's as well. Often times a good dozen of us would all go out on the town together, 6 to 8 girls, most with their BF's and a couple of the girls joining us without BF's. It all seemed rather natural, and we usually had a great time.

I don't know what the actual percentages are, but there are a substantial number of women who manage to do "this" for a living while having a happy "real" relationship at the same time.

IvyO See my TER Reviews 490 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Re: I have been in LTR's with several active providers

I guess tv makes things seem unreal until you experience it for yourself. Im glad to know that they were able to have a life outside of other interest.

Posted By: GaGambler

and I know most of the friends of my last hooker GF all had BF's as well. Often times a good dozen of us would all go out on the town together, 6 to 8 girls, most with their BF's and a couple of the girls joining us without BF's. It all seemed rather natural, and we usually had a great time.

I don't know what the actual percentages are, but there are a substantial number of women who manage to do "this" for a living while having a happy "real" relationship at the same time.

ItalianGabriella See my TER Reviews 746 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I "came out" to my parents several months ago

My mom and I are very close and although I'm a heartless bastard in general, the guilt of constantly lying to her about my "business trips", work meetings, etc etc was really killing me lol. Also after someone trying to "out me", I'd rather her hear it from me. And telling my mom absolutely FREED ME, Let me tell you!

I don't do relationships. My mom even asked me once if I was a lesbian LOL! It didn't surprise me, since I've been single for probably 8-9 years. Now she gets it.

I also don't do traditional relationships, personally. I've been single ever since getting into this business. I'm absolutely unwilling to date someone and then tell him what I do, and then risk him outing me, or harming me etc. And I'm also not going to date someone and then constantly lie. Been there done that, and that shit gets old lol! Constantly lying about where you are/what you're doing, even hiding away all your extra condoms of all shapes and sizes, various lubes, and so on- because it would look really questionable to a civie guy when you have like 5 diff types of condoms, yeah no. Also hiding my HO phone, my planner, locking my laptop. Way too much trouble.

So I don't do regular dating. I'll meet people here aund there, hang out for a few months. And then move on. I get bored really easily and I like variety. Much like our fabulous clients. So I just enjoy being a provider for now. Fun, new friends, all the great parts of dating without the headaches. Dinner dates, overnights, trips all over the country- it for now fulfills my need for companionship. I personally don't want children or marriage so I'm in NO rush to settle down

ncgent49 455 reads

posted 10 years ago

7 / 24

BF's and hubbies

I've seen 4-5 married providers - 2 of them wore their wedding rings. The ones who didn't wear there rings volunteered that they are married - I didn't ask 'em

And all of the husbands knew that they were doing "this"

blackjack23 31 Reviews 315 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Re: I "came out" to my parents several months ago

GREAT reply Gabby!!

IvyO See my TER Reviews 382 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Re: I "came out" to my parents several months ago

Hi Italian Gabriella:

Wow...youre a strong woman. I cant imagine the load that was lifted after you told your mother. My sister was like my mother growing up which is why I attempted to tell her. My sister and most of my friends are married and constantly ask me when am I going to settle down and have a family. To be honest I look at them an think Im not dating or married because I dont want to rush as they did. Some days I visit them and it feels miserable, they look miserable and sometimes appear very distant from their better half. I've never been in love and am not 100% it should be like that. If if is, I believe I can be miserable by myself.

Like you Ive been called a lesbian. Unbeknownst to the judgemental personal that has called me that, it would shock them to know that I like men more than they like water. They could handle my truth only if they lived life outside of the box that holds their brain. Im from SC so the baptist church people would say, "bless their heart" lol!

If the right man comes along I hope he is open minded enough for me to share my life with him. Until then I think this is the best form of dating "EVER". The expectations are clear and no one is being lead on. More women should embrace this. I love being a woman! It is the "ABSOLUTE" best thing to be. lol!!

Stay dry beautiful. Its a rainy day here in the QC.

XOXO,

Ivy O.

Posted By: ItalianGabriella

My mom and I are very close and although I'm a heartless bastard in general, the guilt of constantly lying to her about my "business trips", work meetings, etc etc was really killing me lol. Also after someone trying to "out me", I'd rather her hear it from me. And telling my mom absolutely FREED ME, Let me tell you!

I don't do relationships. My mom even asked me once if I was a lesbian LOL! It didn't surprise me, since I've been single for probably 8-9 years. Now she gets it.

I also don't do traditional relationships, personally. I've been single ever since getting into this business. I'm absolutely unwilling to date someone and then tell him what I do, and then risk him outing me, or harming me etc. And I'm also not going to date someone and then constantly lie. Been there done that, and that shit gets old lol! Constantly lying about where you are/what you're doing, even hiding away all your extra condoms of all shapes and sizes, various lubes, and so on- because it would look really questionable to a civie guy when you have like 5 diff types of condoms, yeah no. Also hiding my HO phone, my planner, locking my laptop. Way too much trouble.

So I don't do regular dating. I'll meet people here aund there, hang out for a few months. And then move on. I get bored really easily and I like variety. Much like our fabulous clients. So I just enjoy being a provider for now. Fun, new friends, all the great parts of dating without the headaches. Dinner dates, overnights, trips all over the country- it for now fulfills my need for companionship. I personally don't want children or marriage so I'm in NO rush to settle down.

IvyO See my TER Reviews 346 reads

posted 10 years ago

10 / 24

Re: BF's and hubbies

Ncgent49:

That sounds interesting. I dont blame you, I wouldnt have asked either. (lol) On the flip side it makes me happy knowing that they have someone to love them unconditional regardless of their personal interest. I watch too much tv. Of course the tv doesnt show happy endings when one shares their private life with someone they love.

Happy Saturday to you,

Ivy O.

birdluvr69 75 Reviews 295 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Re: I "came out" to my parents several months ago---Moms N the Know...

I have seen two ladies whose Mom's actually encouraged them to go for it, and got them into the hobby) One Mom was already in the hobby, and the other saw her baby girl trying to do college and paying for it by flipping burgers---Yeah, right, gonna make it that way( One was a brief fling, the other I got to know and helped support her college expenses until she graduated, got a good man, and a house with a white picket fence, I hope that she has had a good life since we parted ways and she retired)
I absolutely adore Moms) I will let my coffee get cold watching when a Mom and her lil one(s) come in the place and interact) Such tenderness and wisdom on display)

baldy69 12 Reviews 284 reads

posted 10 years ago

12 / 24

Re: BF's and hubbies

Posted By: ncgent49

I've seen 4-5 married providers - 2 of them wore their wedding rings. The ones who didn't wear there rings volunteered that they are married - I didn't ask 'em

And all of the husbands knew that they were doing "this"

Having been paid to take their photos and thus talked for hours to hundreds of women in the business it is very apparent that the women whom had the most success at separating their lives from the business, had a persona at work which was entirely different that in their personal life.
What I mean is the working girl was just a part played and the best are incredible actresses, they assume the role with complete backstory etc. Some parts may be true some may be taken from other women they have been around. They dress differently wear their hair and makeup different etc.
FWIW I know of ladies that wear rings and or tell clients they are married in order to keep clients from pursuing them outside of work. If it prevents any guys from "catching feelings" (their words) it would have to be worth it. I have heard stories of guys getting plate numbers figuring out where they live and stalking girls.