Girls, if you have a guy that you are seeing on a continuing basis, let's say a couple of times a month over most of a year, and you get along really well within the confines of the hobby relationship, how do you feel about him expressing affection in an email or text? Would it creep you out or make you feel all happy inside if he were to tell you that he misses you, that he thinks about you all the time, that you are special to him, etc. ?

I think you are starting to cross the line between provider and GF.  While it could possibly happen, 99% of the time, these girls has their own private life they wish to keep separate.  (I knew of one couple when I lived in Seattle that started dating all the while she remained a provider.)  Unless you are paying for their time, I doubt they are interested in random emails and texts.  

done in such a way where they feel they have to promise booking a date in order to do so.

If you want to send a "hello" now and again, I think it's sweet. The only time it's not, (though I'm sure this isn't the intention,) is when it starts to mess with my planning and schedule over a booking that might not happen, just so they can feel justified in saying hello.

I don't like chit chat every single day, just a sweet "hello" now and again really is nice. I think it depends on the provider.

Just don't promise a date that isn't going to happen just to justify the hello. Just say it. lol!

Sorry I missed you in Raleigh and hope your planning a trip back soon!

I am happy to hear from my clients via text or email notes in-between our dates, so long as it is not extended conversation or sexual in nature.  

A lot of clients can keep up from afar on twitter as well.  

Other than that, it starts to blur the lines in an inappropriate way - I prefer to keep my personal life completely separate from being a provider.

Don't do it - nothing good will come from this.   Your "relationship" (and I use that term loosely) with the lady is just a fantasy.   Her business is based on creating a fantasy for her client - whatever makes him want to pay her and continue to pay her. That's how she makes her living.
If she responds to your email, it's unlikely to be sincere (could be, but unlikely).  More likely it'll be whatever response she thinks will get you to pay her again.
That's cod, hard reality.

I totally understand where you are coming from buddy.  If you are human its only natural for some feelings to develop if you are spending that much time with someone.  My advice would just be to keep your expectations low.  If you do send that email, just know you might get a thank you and that's it.  I've done a similar thing  and it was well received.  She let me know how much she enjoyed our time together also and it made my day.  That's really all I needed.  I would love to pursue more with her but I know it's just not realistic.  As long as you keep things in proper perspective you won't be disappointed.

Pretty much sums it up. The reality is that you would not want to be involved in their lives in any way if you really knew them.

I am coming back in March.

I like random sweet - nothings; however, I've tried the same back and you're right - it's kind of weird... I thought people would like that, but I really do feel creepy afterwards. lol! (I did it yesterday for Valentine's day and the balance in a "thank you" if they send you an e-gift, etc. How long, and how "emotional" should that be?

They say "be genuine," but at the same time, you know - not everyone wants that - they just want that date when they need it, you know?

I'm not into blowing up each other's emails all the time. It kind of ruins the "stress-free" atmosphere when you communicate too much in-between dates, in my opinion. I mean, a lot of people like to be genuine here, but life is life. You can't be romantic 24/7 - especially when you're trying to get everyday shit done. So in order to reserve the temptation to talk too much about "what's going on" in personal lives, like "Yeah I'm at a funeral," or "I'm in the ICU with my parent" or "My 4-year-old is pissing me the fuck off hitting me in the face with a cat toy," instead of "kisses back to you - I miss you so much too, I hope your day is amazing... blah blah blah"  

You just can't deliver romance back all the time. And if you try, it comes back "short" and "careless" or "ingenuine" or "just for the money" or "just to keep a client" as opposed to - I took three days off to volunteer at a homeless shelter for abandoned cats. Or raging cramps and "Auntie Flo" just is being a raging bitch this month... lol

Ya know?

Just maybe don't expect "sweep me off your feet" at all times, at least not a response right away, and don't expect too much, (on either side,) because you just don't know what's going on on the other side of the phone or computer. And most of the time, people don't say what's really going on - because they don't want to depress you, or make you think about children - or even cats - lol.

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That is a great comment.  You packed a lot of wisdom into it, and it was very amusing. I think you hit the nail on the head.

I mean, it's life lol!

I think it's ok to say that you miss her, but as others have said, if the texts are consistent that can become a little uncomfortable for her. For example, I don't even text with my friends several times a day, so I think that if that would happen I would consider it crossing the line, but if it's a text here and there, or if it is an "I miss you" here and there I dont see anything wrong with it. After all you are a regular to her, you are not wasting her time.

Kaeleen

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