I saw this on the Newbie Board, and was curious what ya'lls thoughts were on this.

I generally ALWAYS have candles burning during my sessions. Lights low or sunlight coming thru the closed blinds. In the evenings (after dark), I will leave a light on near my bedroom (bathroom, etc).

I had a lady tell me this was the BEST way to go when I first started. She had been in the Biz for about 20yrs, so I listened. Im a romantic at heart, so it suited me perfectly. Now, Im wondering.........

Would you guys prefer bright lighting, soft lighting (candles etc) or.........?

Ladies, how do YOU do it?

If its not bright enough for me to see your beauty, I always ask for more light.

Thats great! If its NOT enough lighting, I PREFER my gents to let me know.

I like

a couple of Jack a lanterns burning brightly during the harvest season and in December I keep a tree twinkling in the corner!!   J/K

I love candles
I say do what feels good

I've always been a candle girl as well. It really sets the mood...ecspecially when they smell so good! (:

I've always been a candle girl as well. It really sets the mood...ecspecially when they smell so good! (:

I have candles lit...one light on in the room for some light and add in pandora Adele station!!

Thanks!!! I never know what KIND of music I should use, so I usually have Jazz or R&B Classics

Hi Miss Katymarie,

Ok asking permission to be honest here! Don't worry I will bring it around at the end.

My initial thought was if after I left the thing I remembered or was muttering to myself was, "Boy that was some fantastic lighting" then something with my picker has gone terribly wrong.

On the other hand, I do appreciate when a woman, ANY woman(hehe) seems to go out of their way to accomodate me and do what they can to make me feel comfy.

As I think back and cascade through some of my memorable memories YES the way the room is prepped comes to mind. On the other hand I am a fricking guy. Also can't remember when reading through a review and seeing a comment or a category about room ambience, or is that ambiance? Where is that spell checker when I at least in my own mind am on a roll?

I can say my ATF has spolied me in one area that really stands out. I am not sure if it is the lotions she uses or the fragrences(bad spelling again, RATS) but the smell radiating off her skin is just plain truly unquestionably out of this world. When that stuff works on me I could not tell you if there were any lights or candles in the world anywhere, at any place.

So what am I really saying here? Most likely not really much of substance, OOOOPPPPPSSSSS! Sometimes I just like to feel how the keys feel under my fingers when I want to pass a little time!

As far as music goes. No doubt the best music ever ever ever ever is anything from Larry Pierce or Red Peters! If none of you have ever heard of these musical and lyrical geniuses by all means do search on You Tube for a few of their gems. Or just google their names their music can be found if you search! Man can some of those tunes really do the trick and get ya going.

Here is the one thing I ask of the ladies! Try It! Go search for those two guys, listen to a few of their songs and put some on your Ipad or however you save your music and play that stuff next time you are spending some time with a fella! Remember sharp marketing says KYA, you know, KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE! And remember, I do all gals really warm up to a fella if they got one thing! I did not say one HUGE thing. That one thing is a sense of humor. Guess what gals, guys really love that stuff too!

Along those lines one thing I always do if I am feeling a little nervous about getting together for a little time and companionship I always try to lighten up! I get naked, go to a full length mirror and just stare! I suck in my belly, run my fingers through the hair I have left, look real sexy into the mirror and then if I am still tense I turn sideways! hehe

That usually lightens me up and then I figure I just better stay with being humorous when charming the ladies!

Anyway, not sure Katymarie not sure that really helps you with your original question, what was that again? Just remember, keep the main thing the main thing and do not sweat the small stuff.

Shifterp OUT? Ok should I concur with myself? YES, to show humor and confidence can be appreciated qualities when blended together!!!! Therefore, I concur once again with myself!

Teddy Pendergrass sang, "turn off the lights, and light a candle" for a reason..."tonight, I'm in a romantic mood, yeah...

LOL!!!! Thanks darlin!! You are seriously cute! I love a sense of humor and its DEF important to both guys AND girls! Im known for mine! Usually, I have the guys laughing within mins of coming thru the door. Its a GREAT way to put everyone at ease. I personally think that laughter in the bedroom is GREAT! (As long as you're laughing TOGETHER! LOL) Anyway, I TRULY appreciate your response! Have a wonderful day, darlin!! HUGS!!!!!!

You know the candles and music do set the mood, I understand that.  But a small number of us get so lost in a beautiful pair of eyes and an embrace that we cannot see anything else.  Ok fellas what was laying on the night stand on your last visit.  Next time take a look.  
But I digress, I do look for the clock to avoid going over time but I dont remember if the lamp was on or off,  if the music was jazz or country,  if there was 5 candles or 20. I do notice if there is enough lighting to see her. If I cant tell what color her eyes are , then its too dark.  Makes ya feel she is hiding something.  But then I have also found that later when the lady is in the bathroom light that she isnt hding anything bad.  Most of the mood is set by her attiude not by a flickering candle.  

Just my humble opinion.

Thanks!!! I think I mainly worry about putting the gent at ease. Plus, like I said, Im kind of a romantic at heart! Believe me my room is NEVER so dark they cant see the color of my eyes.

I went to see a gent once and he had his room SO dark, I couldnt see HIM at all! Made me VERY VERY uncomfortable! There is ALWAYS some light coming into my room. Whether from the sun in the daytime or from the bathroom light (right next to my bedroom). I want to be able to see YOU too! LOL

Well of course I don't care for bright lights during a session, but I do like for it to be enough light so my playmate can see how beautiful I am!!  (wink)

Miss A

LOL!! Exactly right! I want to be able to see (and BE seen! LOL).

ROTFLMAO ooooh no you dont. You dont wanna see me lol.  You rememer the ugly stick some get hit by???? I fell outta that tree and hit every stick and limb on th way down.

I dont believe it! LOL!! I bet you're downright cute AND sexy!! Personally, I find all men sexy! I guess its a sickness I have LOL! I have never really met a guy I didnt find SEXY! Its just something about men. I like women, too, but I can honestly say I dont find ALL women sexy. For some reason, theres just something about you GUYS that I just cant get enough of!

Dont know if its the pheremones, the chest hair, etc, etc. I just DO!!

Thats not to say all men are dashingly handsome, just sexy!!!! Even the roughest looking men, have a certain "character" to them that i cant resist. I know, I know, I probably need therapy, but HEY, it COULD be worse! LOL! And its MY particular little quirk and I LIKE it!! LOL!!

The doctor is in. Willing to give you all the therapy you need.

LOL!!! You're on! HUGS!!!!!