No offense intended here, but you are a "middle aged white woman" How is "your type" not welcome there? You are a woman and women can dress up or dress down for the occasion. Now if you were an 18 year old black girl with huge knockers in a mainly white, upscale neighborhood I could see your point, but you are white and almost certainly older than any of the hotel employees you might interact with. I can't imaging how your mere presence is going to raise any suspicion, unless of course you show up dressed like a streetwalker.
I am sorry, but I just don't get it. As for not screening in advance, that's on you. If you had done your job you wouldn't have to "wonder" about this, you'd already know the answer due to your screening. I don't mean to be harsh, but I don't see how anyone can help you on this one.
If you didn't feel comfortable with the situation, bailing out is the correct response, regardless of your reasoning.
I feel you are right Mr. Mike. When it was all going down, I was thinking to myself...you can stay home and have a good nights sleep with your two pooches snuggled up against you....or you can risk venturing out and spend the night in a holding cell. I opted for the cozy bed with pooches 
I never watched an episode of that TV series, but I always knew "Danger Will Rodgers Danger!". Thanks for that link! Too funny!
I actually remember the little redheaded boy from a number of episodes from The Twilight Zone....He scares me Lol!
yeah...don't make him mad or you'll end up in the cornfield.....one of the creepiest Twilight Episodes ever....they even used it as one of the episodes in the movie.
Don't get too comfy, do screen 100%)
To get me to a hotel/motel nowadays, the lady will have to tell me in advance which/where/floor number---don't need room until I check in to same place, or she could come to my room on another floor, either, or. Also, looking into buying one of those radio frequency finders that I saw on a morning show for ladies to check out if they are being spied on in their room---Amazon, I believe, sells them. I would take to the room(mine and hers) and search for any cameras, etc. Remember the folks in Atlanta who got to see their activities on those room cameras for ALL to see
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Mostly home body now myself ) Take care, your critters need you^..^
Wow Bird, That was really great advice! I have Amazon Prime....just when I thought internet shopping couldn't get any easier!
I still don't plan to do outcall in my area, but I'd like to know what was going on around town with one of those radio gadgets.
Marie,
Odd that appointment was set so far in advance, wouldn’t expect LE to do that, however who knows. Firm believer if either party feels at risk, it’s better to cancel. If the gentleman felt uneasy about going to your residence he should have said so. I think something smells a little fishy about this so you did the right thing (not that my opinion matters really).
On a side note, do you ever get to Charleston?
Thank you thisisme. I think I needed to hear/read someone else saying something was off. I mean, my place is so fun!...mirrors....porn.....stripper pole.... It's everything a true pervert (like myself) would ever want! Why not come on over?
I'm afraid I don't tour, thisisme....maybe someday
I’m going to have make a trek sometime
Worth this trek thisisme.
Your location is seriously the best I have witnessed. Only one other was a personal location but was an apt. So secluded and private. I don't know how I haven't visited more often! 😀
As far as Moore county. I kinda get what your saying. Alot of the hotels specifically the resorts def have an eye for who is coming and going. As far as LE, I couldn't tell ya. But being safe is best option regardless. Esp with your very easy setup rules. Glad you stuck by your rules. Maybe get a little tougher on screening the unknown.
Glad it worked out either way.
Does sound like a great call on the cancel, but, I say you get back to screening like crazy....Like you did to me 10 years ago. Put me through the wringer for 2 days....Was delighted when you invited me over. Have enjoyed each visit since....caring for your own safety is caring for us also.
We love our friend, The Divine Ms. M....!!
Hey Marie, good to see you back around!
Here goes just another random thought.
He scheduled pretty advanced. "Perhaps", maybe he got scared as well? I have no Doubt your home is Wonderful. The secluded part is Great too! But just maybe, he was spooked going out to a home. People have seen where someone has gone out, even a Hotel so it's not inclusive, and been robbed, beat, etc... Maybe afraid it was a trap.
Just an alternative scenario to throw out there. If anyone has another certain board, ack..., it's happen to guys or they say they Balk at going out to a secluded home they don't know.
Did he ever Give a Reason for declining?
Or, maybe your instincts are right... Either way, like others have already stated, if you get a bad vibe then take it seriously and walk. I understand about Small Towns as well and see your point and reasons very valid and true.
He did not give a reason as to why he didn't want to come over. He respectfully and assertively said no. That was when I offered to play taxi (which in itself could have been kinda kinky) and he didn't respond. That's when I realized his no meant "no". I didn't push it from there.
It could just be that simple. What the heck is ...ack? He sounded like he was on point, polite, did what he was supposed to do. Marie made the decision not to screen him. Then she had the Danger Will Robinson feeling. He declined because he didn't want to leave the convenience of his lovely accommodations.
It doesn't surprise me that he cancelled as he was probably thinking she was coming there the whole time until he was told otherwise day of.
His reason for declining is obvious as all get out.
Most people know that the risk of a client getting busted on an outcall are negligible as LE almost never will send a female undercover into a situation where they don't "control the room" Some guys I know will ONLY do outcalls for that reason.
Both parties often listen to that "little voice" inside their head and contrary to popular belief, even though you should always listed to that voice, it doesn't mean your instincts are ALWAYS right. This is most likely one of those cases by both parties.
That said, I don't blame him at all for canceling, he is the one that should be pissed for being jerked around as he was the one who was willing to go through with the appointment as agreed, and she was the one that changed things at the last minute. I am honestly surprised that so many people are agreeing with her. He is the aggrieved party, not her
Marie, good call on your part to trust your instincts.
If things do not seem right and your "spidey senses" go off, best to stay safe and cancel. Just like we do our research to find a great lady, you should do your verification too...
Hope to catch up with you in the future
My spidey senses totally sounded the alarms! Wouldn't that suck? Getting busted for the holidays? The massive speeding ticket I got over the weekend was bad enough! Lol! I could wallpaper a small room with those suckers!
You gotta be comfortable with the situation, so if you where not happy with the conditions then that is your call. I don't know if the blues brothers schedule that far in advance but it does seem a bit hinky, so you made a good call IMHO.
Hope you are doing well down there!
I hope you are enjoying your new digs!
And since so many golf outings are planned well in advance IMO that part is nit a red flag. Many of these trips are from out of state for a sort of golf junket. Heck I made the treck to just that kind of situation from a way out of state gent who booked me a month in advance. Of course I did check him out completely.
Give me an extended date down in golf country again, it was fun!
Steph XO
But wanting me to come to him? In my eyes it was not a discreet situation. Also...this is a super old southern hotel. It has back entrances for the staff. I could easily get busted and then taken out the staff entrance .....and no one staying there would know. It's really a pretty nice set up for busting someone
Maybe I'm being paranoid.....but I don't want a new reputation around town. I like being the squirrel chick
I loved my time doing an outcall there. And I'd love to see it decked out in it's holiday attire. It's simply breathtaking.
Steph xoxo
......why didn't you screen? It's, like, core rules number one two and three. Right? What vibe did you get that actually suggested you didn't need to check the client in any way? Just curious. Not judging.
I kind of have my own screening process that has worked for me for 18 years (not a typo). The only truly "bad" appointments I've ever had were during my first year in the biz when I worked for two different agencies in Maryland
I must say...My spidy sense is pretty awesome
