Give me some intellictual conversation, witty banter and a good smelling man and it doesn't take much to get my panties to fall off.  Even less if I wasn't wearing any to begin with.  

The extras are always a nice touch.  They make me feel that much more special, like a real date.  I personally love sharing a bottle of wine with a woman. I did so with a former provider to the point where I looked forward to that aspect of our vists, along with the conversation, as much as the physical intimacy.
I hesitate to bring a bottle on first dates simply because some provider sites seem to discourage that.

I had a guy go all out (to me) ...I thought "all of this for a 90min date?!'" lol. The way he set up the bed, bottle of wine he asked me about chilling with 2 glasses waiting, he'd bought this ipod music stand and had made a playlist lol, candles everywhere...sounds simple but it seemed very done up to me lol I was a little wet before he even touched me haha.