I was hanging with my former over the weekend. We were getting busy breaking in his new furniture My former and I are both big into the hobby. He was saying how the girls he sees say a good majority of guys that visit them just want to talk.....WOW! that really surprised me. I attract guys that are into anal or who are anal curious. Never does someone come to see me to talk. However...lately I've been getting e-mails from  hobbyists that want to get to know me. I get everything from.....

I'm not a very experienced hobbyist. Both times I was nervous at first. A little chit chat is fine. But I don't know how to make that initial step. While in my head I am ready haha One provider made it obvious it was time to get started. The other eased into it.  

to that extent I don't want to be your pen pal or tell you everything about my life.  I know there are guys and girls that do this.  Guys shouldn't expect a whole lot of details.  It is possible to chat without talking about personal things.  And 15 minutes worth of chat is WAY TOO MUCH.  I didn't come visit to chat.  If we have already met we can talk as we get undressed.  And ladies, we don't mind listening but when you go on and on and on it is frustrating.  There have been many times I felt that the lady was talking just to waste time.  Get on with it.  If not then why do we need an hour unless multiple pops are available.  To each his/her own.

What are the chances these girls who talk on and on THINK that the guy is coming to see them for chit chat when really the guy doesn't know how to get the party started?....not that it's his responsibility to do that.

I agree I'm not paying for chit chat.  Idealy hug kiss hope youre doing great today as leading to the fun is perfect scenario.

and the girl was going on and on, I would just lean in and start kissing her neck and moving her skirt up. Beard, you are the person of honor.  You should have a big say as to how the hour should proceed.

Marie I think it depends on the lady and research that I would do before seeing someone. You would be someone who I would think wants to have play time shortly upon meeting? A little chat at the beginning is fine though.
 I saw a provider one time that we talked for close to 45 minutes. I was a little frustrated thinking this was a bad choice when she said lets start over. How about you walk back out and come in and just put your cock down my throat. Turned out to be a pretty amazing experience.

I don't need to utter a single word before "going for it" and some of my very best sessions have started with a lip lock at the door and not coming up for air for another 30-40 minutes.

I guess I am giving my age away, lol.  The thing is, different guys and gals would prefer different things.  Some guys want an action packed, in the door and go to it, "wham-bam-thank you ma'am" type appointment.  Speaking only for myself, with a new lady I can't just walk in and rip off her clothes and go at it.  Just not me.  I like to chat a bit and try to establish at least some connection and then transition to the more intimate stuff.  So I think the ladies sometimes have a difficult job trying to "read" the client and figure out the best way to respond.  Of course that is assuming they are wanting to make the appointment a great experience for their client.  Obviously that is not the case for many out there.  Another good reason to research like crazy with this board and other resources.

When you all come through the door, I am ready to go! The whole process of getting ready and taking selfies really gets me going....not to mention the porn I have playing while I'm getting all dolled up

I think this one has turned into a great one for you. Congrats, job well done.

The only guesswork is what toys does he have in that toybox?

I would never just keep emailing a provider. Only way would be if she asked me to for certain reasons. After a first appointment, I've had a couple that stay in touch so to speak, but nothing over the top. Some people click better, and I don't mind the occasional hello, etc... I Never initiate that. I obey rules...

I was concerned that talking was becoming the new fu@king

Ready to go at the drop of the hat.  I honestly had never even considered that a MAN would need to "warm up" I never used to understand when a hooker would comment that "wow, you are hard already" Of course I am hard, I am in bed with a beautiful, naked woman, OF COURSE I am hard. lol

A little chit chat is good but too much is unproductive. I will never make the same mistake, letting a guy think he is more than a client he will try to take advantage of it. Maybe they are not all like it, but I speak for experience and boy that was not a good one!