I have never used an agency before, Now I know why. I requested an appointment with a certain lady from an NC angency. I was told that if I couldn't give a reference from another agency or provider that I couldn't have the date. Now,I understand the need for security. I have no problem with that . But as clients,we open up MORE doors to our life than they do to theirs. A lot  of the Ladies have fake names and descriptions,etc.We are asked to show proper ID (no problem), work # (no problem),etc. BUT, why must we reveal our other appointments with other Ladies  and subject them to calls from the agency (or provider)? May I am "old fashion",I think being "descreet"should work BOTH WAYS!!! Any thoughts from anybody ? Have a Great week EVERYBODY !

Most ladies are more than willing to provide a reference, since they would like the same courtesy, but you can check with them first to see if it's OK.  These Gal's work together and are almost like a sorority (at least most of them).

With some exceptions, the men can overpower the ladies.  There's some not-quite-sane men out there who want to hurt and/or kill providers.  Having a reference or work reference, coupled with an ID check lets her verify you are who you say you are.  That way, if she disappears, they have a lead.

You might be somehow embarassed, or even potentially divorced, but you're not likely to get killed.

Also, most hobbyists don't see 10 or 20 different providers a week.