I'm a 40-something married guy looking for his first escort experience. I started by reading some of the FAQs and reviews, then narrowed the field down to a few ladies that I'd really like to meet.

The first one I emailed back and forth with several times, then set up an appointment. At the last minute she called to cancel because of a family emergency. That's ok, things happen. I haven't called her back because of the nature of the problem as I thought it might take a couple of weeks for her to be available again.

So I went to the next lady on the list. We exchanged several emails, and she told me when she was available after I had provided my personal info. Then it came down to her needing a personal reference from another provider, which of course I don't have. I explained that in an email to her but I never heard from her after that.

So I moved on to the next lady on the list. She lives about an hour away, but after an email to her I found that she visits our city every couple of weeks. So I talked about setting up a time with her. After giving her my personal info, again the question came up about a reference from another provider. UGH. I told her I don't have one, etc., and explained why. Once again, no more emails from her after that.

I feel like this is a chicken-and-egg problem. How do I get a date set up with one of the classier ladies in my area if I have never seen one of them before? I totally understand their need to be safe, and I'm not blaming them for that. But coming from my point of view, it's hard enough trying to do this for the first time, much less handing out your personal info several times and still feeling like you're being rejected.

Any advice??