Need some advice! All the providers I have seen have moved away or left the hobby. How can I see a provider if they require 3 references and I don't have any to give?

but yet you're asking this question like you're a newbie.  It's simple...honest communication with the girls.  Explain your situation (been away from the hobby, etc.)  I've been new on various boards and areas over the past 5 years and never once had a girl turn me down for lack of references.  As long as you're polite and don't come off as a creep in your email, I suspect you'll be able to find a lady willing to accept you for a date.  

in your situation. It may take some patience on your part, but we are out there if you look.

Steph xoxo

These are not local providers. These are providers that travel and come here like once a yr. I've tried twice today to set up with an agency and they would not verify me without any references and the otjee will know lady required 3 references. So I ask what do toy do

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I recently had a gent tell me that yes, he has references, but that they were all out-of-state and seemed to think this somehow invalidated them? Is it a popular misconception that us ladies will only accept referrals from other local providers? I can only speak for myself I suppose but as long as the provider references are established ladies with some sort of online/review presence (I.e. personal website, a few current ads posted) and the gentleman gives me her full stage name and email address, I don’t see the major obstacle if she lives across the country or wherever... I mean, right? The beauty of high-speed internet connections and that electronic mail, or am I missing something major? (Eh, wouldn’t be the first time..)

Another question for the OP: I may out of the loop on this one as well, but since when do agencies only accept provider references by way of verification?? You didn’t mention this, but I’d only think this was the case is you were unwilling to provide any other information about yourself, I.e. name, employment info.  

While I can certainly understand everyone has their limits in what personal info they’re willing to divulge in this world, can you see how it might be difficult to get you screened to anyone’s satisfaction (ie, to entrust you implicitly with their safety or the safety of the girls in their employ) if you remain so intractable on your end of the process?  

I’m not implying anything about who you are or really... anything at all; everything I’ve said is merely conjecture and I clearly have holes in my knowledge of your situation. Just passing through...

Namaste, dude. Buona fortuna!  

Xoxo
B

When I first started and had no reviews, and being retired had no employment information, I took the advice of finding a well-established and respected girl who would accept my real name and address. Then she became my 1st reference and I never had to worry after that.

Thank you! I was communicating with this agency . I sent my work email, website and because my pic was not on my company's website they would not verify me. I was reading a prior review and the hobbyist said to be prepared to jump through holes to be verifeded. Not worth it.

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Ditch the agency. Polity screen with Stephanie. It was worth it to me. She values discretion more than most men on here. Make it a long date.