I thought I would share this PM I sent a newbie who asked me how to prepare for his first  encounter with a classy upscale lady, an escort visiting the city. Wondering what else the ladies think is important.

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Hi ****,

I will see ***** on Wed. I chose her is because of lots of good reviews. Is there anything I need to prepare before seeing her? I am pretty new for this hobby and this is the first time to see a high-end lady. Any suggestions are appreciated.  

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For contact I use the 3-text method: Contact her Wednesday morning- usually text - to confirm AND get the name of the hotel, and location, again before you leave the house to tell her you are on your way, and finally when you arrive to get the room/suite#.

Be punctual. However, she will likely be running a few minutes late. That's the way it is. I usually wait in my car, but sometimes I'll hang out in the hotel lobby.

For grooming I suggest you shower, shave your balls and pubic area bald - yes, women prefer that - brush your teeth and gargle with mouthwash. You want to show her your hygiene is impeccable. And of course style/comb your hair. You can even put on a little cologne if you have some.

Dress sharp. It is summer, so for an evening appointment I will wear a summer blazer/sports jacket, tie, slacks/chinos and dress shoes - usually slip-on/laceless loafers - this is the summer casual vibe of a professional. It really impresses the ladies - he's the man! - and they treat you better, respect you more, because by dressing sharp you are showing respect for them. She is dressing up for you - lingerie or the outfit you requested - you dress up for her too. This is for the classy visiting ladies, I wouldn't do this for a skank but then again I don't see skanks.

Also, when walking through a hotel lobby, no one questions the presence of a man wearing a tie. Just walk with confidence, like you belong there. You are making the hotel look good by being the sharp-dressed guy in the lobby.

For an afternoon encounter, I have worn the summer sports jacket and tie too, but usually I wear just a clean shirt - not a t-shirt - and slacks or shorts in hot weather. A collared shirt or a Henley works well.

I don't know your age/social background, it might be tempting to do the "bad boy" look, that works at parties, clubs and seeing a skank but for a classy visiting lady by herself it will make her uncomfortable because it feels a little dangerous.

How to handle yourself once you are with the lady?  

Be confident, introduce yourself: "Hi, I'm ***** and I'm the guy who will be having hot sex with you for the next 60 minutes". Yes, I use that line. (They are still women and respond unconsciously and naturally to all the subcommunication male attraction signals i.e; confidence, healthy/athletic appearance, good grooming and dress, humour, looks-like-a-leader/authority figure e.g; power, etc).

Present the "donation" in an envelope. I assume you negotiated ahead of time the amount, and length of time to be spent together.

Offer to shower - yes, another shower if she hasn't asked you already - sends the message your hygiene is impeccable. The lady often has mouthwash in the bathroom for you to use as well.

After that you are on your own, it depends how much she likes to lead, or not. Sometimes you will find yourself making out right at the door before intro/donation/shower are taken care of.

Anything else we should go over?

Thx for the feedback

you should post this on the general board, the newbie board, all the regional boards...hell even the transvestite board!

best advice post i've ever read on ter!

Thanks for the compliments

The bigger boards tend to draw trolls, the newbie board may work.

It is from a Canadian perspective, I wondered if the American perspective might be a little different for some reason I couldn't be sure about..

Personally, I like to tuck a lil Tupperware container in my computer bag with(prepared) strawberries, as the lil ladies sometimes don't get the opportunity to snack while trying to get ready for the date, etc. Couple forks, honey, or 1, or 2 other types of sweetner. Makes a nice ice breaker as you sit and get acquainted for a few mins, Oh, don't forget the strawberry flavored lube, and the FC2--LOL, P.S. brush your teeth 4 hours before to give your gums time to heal the tiny nicks that look like a barn door for any lil unwelcome critters the toothbrush makes. That does not mean then eat onions, etc., I just fast from that time until after the dance. ALWAYS, mints, hard candy, mouth wash from brushing to the happy ending;P~~~ Then wait 4 hours after to get that brushing etc., goes for the ladies also who might be getting that  liquid center from the lucky guys hard candy stick) Enjoy, with a lil safety on the side)

Now that may work mighty fine in the Deep South, y'all, but in the Great White North the purdy liddl' ladies prefer hot java double-double and a ten-pack of Timbits. It's how we roll......up-the-rim-to-win!