Hey everybody

This may be a stupid and/or inappropriate question but here goes.  I'm looking to practice DATY, so I'm looking for a provider that would be down for a 100% DATY session where she could provide some feedback, suggestions, etc.  I know that's ridiculous and no, I'm not clueless at going down.  I just seriously love doing it and would appreciate honest feedback so I can get as good as possible. (and I know that each woman's different, so I don't expect to uncover some magic secret).  

So if any ladies are interested in such a deal, let me know.  PM's are fine, too.  Guys, if you know of any DATY-receivers who love giving instructions, you can hit me up as well.  As you may have guessed by my name, I love the mature gals so they would be ideal, but no age restrictions on this one.  

Thanks

Check the GD board, there is a current/recent thread.  Flat tongue, check all the bases...no sucking or pulling, above the 'spot', not on the spot.

The vast majority of gals are going to tell you that you are doing fine when, in fact, they are not into what you are doing at all.

They will say this just to make you feel good (Which is their job, after all, so don't blame them.)  I'd say around 25% of women who have leveled with me say that they don't like it at all.  Perhaps they are just discouraged from finding no man up to the task.

However, I've been at this long enough that I know a gaggle of gals who will tell me the honest truth about my DATY skills (or lack thereof.)

If you really want to be good, here's the deal:  See if you can find a gal who will be honest (It won't be easy.), and will guide you as to what to do.  What is even harder is listening and following her instructions.  (In case you didn't know it, men are terrible at following directions, especially from a woman.)

I had a very long relationship with a provider who taught me how to make her come.  It took me several YEARS (seeing her about once a month) before she said I got it right.  It also took her about 30 minutes to come, but I think she was having multiple orgasms and surpressing them to make me work harder for her.

As a result of all that DATY I developed bone spurs in my shoulder and neck bones so now I can't even go down like I used to.  About five minutes is all I can give it until the pain gets to me.

I suggest that whenever doing DATY, have the gal on top, or have her lie down on the bed with her feet on the floor and you kneel in front of her.  That might keep your neck and back from getting screwed up like mine.

You might actually end up making her happy.

But I digress.

Like I said earlier however, what you learned from her is not necessarily going to be applicable to the next gal.  The number of variations is mind boggling.

I give you props for wanting to learn, but you might want to take up something a bit easier to master:  Astrophysics, for example.

seriously, i usually work in the cambridge area and often get emails from younger college guys who 'want to be schooled in the ways of a woman' - their words, not mine.  i literally give lessons, in a very sensual, coaxing way.  my best advice ever, unless you're practicing on someone who is just naturally quiet in bed, is read their reactions and body language.  that's the key to my blowjobs anyway.  if i'm not getting the body, sound and breathing reactions/changes i'm looking for, i change what i'm doing....

best of luck and if you want a real teacher who will leave you feeling like you're the bomb... you know how to reach me!

and my favorite boys know my rule... YOU don't leave until I cum too

whit

the best advise I can give is...  I know I do not GIVE her an O.  I am the motor but she is the driver.  I don't hold her legs / hps too tight.  Sometimes I can cup her bottom with my hands to support her lightly...   Rather than attacking her...  I let her move against me so she puts my tongue where she wants it.  I vary my movements between licking & sideways flicking, always gentle & changing technique & most of all being sensitive to her responses.  
I never assume that she'll respnd the exact same because it does vary.  There is great psychological confidence in knowing you can & are willing to put her pleasure ahead of your own.  Sometimes a woman can just sense it.  
This approach has stood me in good stead...   I'd just let her know you want to know what she likes.  
HV

I went out of my way to say that I'm not clueless at performing DATY, that I know that each woman's different, that I'm looking for a woman to give honest feedback because I'd enjoy a session like that, and that I was looking for suggestions for suitable ladies.  

So what do I get?  Advice on how to do it, a reminder that each woman's different, a reminder that many providers won't be honest about it and guys giving me their personal tips.  

Ugh.

Listening to whomever you happen to be licking at the time rather than "practicing" on one woman and thinking that the same technique will be appreciated by all women.

I've love DATY and I've met a few ladies who were nuts for it, others, not so much.  Some like sucking, some don't some like fingers and tongue, some don't.  I had one gal who LOVED a finger in her butt while I was licking her but my current ATF doesn't want my fingers anywhere near her ass...though she does love having her ass licked.

In short, there are as many approaches to licking a pussy as there are women with pussies. Ad to this the reality that some providers will never really enjoy DATY during a session though they may let you do it just to make you happy. If you are customer number three or four of the day their clit may already be worn-out and they won't let you near it.

especially the last paragraph.IMO, nothing more needs  said

your own due diligence. and start researching reviews.

i don't think you're gonna get providers flooding your inbox with PM's.

When you post on an open forum you get what you get.  Sometimes the answers are as pointless as the questions.

Ugh.

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WOW!!!  I am impressed with Mr.Fisher.  You can also do a yahoo/google search of how to make a woman cummmmmmmmmmm!!!  Mr.Fisher is right about one thing, every gal is different.  I can't imagine some women do not like it and I can't imagine it takes 30 minutes for her to cummmm.  I guess I am a rare one, I cummm too easily, too fast...

I am truly sorry Mr.Fisher that you have a spur in your neck/shoulder.  You should never have to work harder like that.  But in your case, yes a woman will have to be on top of you, but she should of help you instead of her making you work harder.  No man should never have to work harder like that.

Missy