Your last four reviews are from two agencies who do screen and two popular independents. It's wrong for you to convince this newbie that she doesn't need to screen.
Bad DWYCK!
background checks? real names? work numbers? not acceptable for someone who wants to be discreet!
Post seems a bit odd to me.
You're assuming Lisa012561 is a provider
It's not for me, it's for a guy
Nadi is Dominican, but she is a traveler who isn't in town right now. When she is she is great, and super easy to meet with.
I have seen her several times. We miss her down in Maryland.
Elly from Argentina and she is in boston now! High performer!
You'll find that references are the norm these days when dealing with any reputable provider/agency.
Well I never saw a use for it. For one thing any man, especially a married man would not want to give out his real name or information unless he is totally nuts! It could lead to a blackmail situation or fall into the hands of LE! I can see references asked from other providers, but they could easily be fake!!! OMG, if I asked every guy that called me such personal info I doubt that they'd want to see me at all! Most of my customers I don't know their last names, work numbers, addresses. It is their right to be discreet and protected! Also many men would like to set up an impromptu visit. Also I highly doubt that massage pallors would give their clients the third degree!
Anyone who gives out their real name and work information is insane, imho. I have done it in the past, but no more. Sure it may cut down on girls who will see me, but there are plenty of others kicking around who more than make up for it.
Your last four reviews are from two agencies who do screen and two popular independents. It's wrong for you to convince this newbie that she doesn't need to screen.
Bad DWYCK!
He has a WhiteList from a reputable service that everyone respects and recognizes and multiple providers who can be used as references.
Last night I met a man for a few hours with nothing more than his first name, phone number and the email address that he provided.
I have no idea what he does for a living, I don't know his last name, I don't know where he lives specifically.
But you know what? He had 18 recommendations from providers I either know or simply respect because of how others speak of their business.
He and I booked our appointment in less than 15 minutes and the time together was perfect.
He remained anonymous.
There is nothing wrong with anonymity but we've all gotta meet each other halfway.
This provider posted a second thread for her original request because she couldn't find someone who wouldn't require a reference or a name knocking that process along the way.
Thats what rubbed me the wrong way here, not anyone's decision to protect their personal information.
She's a sweet newbie. Be gentle.
But I agree, she needs to screen. She will once she recognizes her own true value. Anyone she wants to meet, will understand screening.
I got grandfathered in to RSG before they did the screening process. Jill has no idea what my full name is. She verifies me by my phone number, which isn't attached to my name and which now, she is the only provider that has that number, everyone gets a google voice number.
As for the others, I very rarely give my screen name to providers, and if I do, it is all I provide. I haven't given a real name in years, and I don't plan too.
My reviews also don't reflect anywhere near the amount of providers I have been with, and I assume by the indys you are referring to Nadi and Hailey, neither know this username, and neither required me to provide any further details. Hailey does know me by another name on another board though.
If you don't know why you should be screening you should perhaps take a look at the Chicago board and peek at links to the latest stabbing death of a provider.
The last provider in Boston who told me she never screened immediately followed that comment with the admission that she'd been arrested several times.
Massage parlors don't screen and they get busted all of the time.
Maybe you don't have anything to lose...but the rest of us do. Allowing privacy does not mean just answering the phone and letting whoever rings come over.
Personally if I were a provider offered up to you as one who doesn't screen in this thread I'd be pissed off. A provider searching for another provider who doesn't screen "for a guy" is fishy anyway you cut it and I think that your search would be more effective on Backpage where there are many who don't care and will choose money over their safety every time.
Unless you are doing a criminal background check, screening won't help. and people can get anyone to give them a fake reference. You can do any check you want, but you are still inviting a stranger into your home or hotel. As far as LE is concerned, if they want to get you they will. A woman who screened and required all sorts of info was arrested. So there you go.
Gee I guess that's why I've never been arrested and I've never had drama clients.
Look, you can sit here and gas up non-screening enthusiasts by pretending to be the provider who understands and knows screening is futile.
But the fact is every time a girl doesn't do her due diligence by letting prospective clients know that she has recourse or they will be found if they choose to harm her she is endangering herself AND her other clients. Who wants to be that client questioned outside of an incall or worse busted in a sting and splayed in the news because his lazy fast money provider didn't respect herself enough to be careful?
Sorry but being simple minded about this doesn't change facts. LE and killers go after low hanging fruit. Low hanging fruit are providers who answer the phone and say "yeah, be here in 20".
I use national blacklist. That's it. It's worked for me. and btw I have quite a bit of money in the bank and am a college educated social worker and low volume provider. Never gotten into any trouble. Screening is not infallible.
But its all that we have.
No one likes the exchange of personal information in this business. Do you think that all of us who do ask questions of our clients are comfortable doing so? I know I'm not and I have a fair amount of clients who are relatively "anonymous" through references checks (and no, a reference check cannot be faked, those of us who check them verify the information of the provider we receive them from).
No, I don't suspect most hobbyists like to give out their information...but they do and I just think that this entire conversation - you looking for someone to spend time with your guy with the expectation that she not ask any questions about who exactly he is since you obviously don't know is really disrespectful of the measures other providers take to protect themselves.
Good luck with all of that and I sincerely hope that just answering the phone and dolling out an address continues to work for you.
It's not disrespectful. He just wants to be anonymous. and as far as reference checks go, the escort could say, Yes I've seen him before and you don't know if it's true or not. Also, how can you check up on an escort if they aren't on TER? Seems like I'm offending YOU. Don't know why you take offense to men who want to be under the radar and keep their information private. If Elliot Spitzer came to me he wouldn't have been in his predicament!!!
There is your answer.
Sure a provider could say that she's seen a client when she hasn't. Tell me, how would that serve a reputable escort? It wouldn't which is why most wouldn't do such a thing unless they were under duress or cooperating with LE.
I'm not offended by clients who wish to remain private but if they aren't willing to provide references or information I simply don't see them and they move on to the provider who will. No harm, no foul - we all make and live by our own rules in this game.
What I find disrespectful is how flippant and overly simple you are about the processes of other providers. You made your request and then you returned to inquire about someone else who wouldn't require screening and behaving as though there is something wrong with the ladies who do.
Get a clue. If you don't have any understanding of verification or why it is considered normative amongst reputable providers and gentlemen clients then you should spend some time with other women and develop an understanding of it before dismissing it.
Again, good luck to you. If you don't get it you're not going to get it in the span of this thread and I'm done here.
I'm glad you are finally finished.