Thanks to everyone who jumped in on this. It was good to hear both sides of the equation. Still don't know exactly what I'm getting but I certainly know where to start. Thanks again!
Hey gang. I have a date set up with someone I'm really excited to meet in about a week or so and I'm trying to come up with a gift idea. I've gone the gift card route and am well aware that cash is everyones best friend, but was hoping to go with something that has a little more thought put into it. What's everyone else do? Anything thoughtful? How about the ladies, what do you prefer? Thanks for the help during my brain cramp.
Candles are always a great option because it is something they can use in their proffessional life but also in their home life. . . They also last for a while so think how many times she will think of you when she lights her candle!
It is the ones who bring a little gift who stand out in my mind the most at the end of the day; not the ones that "shower twice and wash their ass" that is already expected.
I've found that a nice little gift bag, with some scented candles, and a bottle of massage oil is usually appreciated by the ladies. I also include a card with the donation in it. It just seems a little more personal than a plain white envelope. One lady that I saw brought a massage oil candle that was fantastic. When I have time to pick one up, I will sometimes bring one along.
For those special ladies that I've seen a few times, I have given them a piece of handmade jewelry that I made myself. (Scrimshaw)
After getting to know a provider, I have found cosmetics, skin cream, candles, feminine cigarette case (if she smokes), an gift cards to Victoria Secret, Lady Grace . Thoughtful gifts that are tributes to her femininity!
I fully agree that gifts need not be extravagant. A book, a CD (even one that you mix and burn personally!), a scented candle - all lovely tokens of appreciation that will make a lady smile. I love the mixed CD's and handwritten notes, the cards with photography done by my friends, etc. Anything that is personal is exceptional... and memorable, which can help jog the memory six months later when you need a reference. : )
Candles, body butter/body lotion, lingerie, sometimes even inexpensive, yet lovely jewelry are all nice options. I've usually gone the body butter/body lotion route if I've brought gifts.
I've actually had a provider give me a gift in the past the second time I saw her; sweetest thing ever and it was completely unexpected. Sucks I never got to see her again as my schedule stopped working out and she retired a little while after.
If you do an outcall at your place, you can cook them an ethnic meal (Indian/Itlalian/Chinese/etc) (if appropriate) or a snack and serve with their favorite wine/beverage.
If you do an incall, you can bring them freshly baked goodies (cake/bread/pies/etc). I know of ladies who have made an entire meal of whatever I bring them!
Of course, you need to be a half way decent cook/chef otherwise the whole thing may backfire on you! Nothing motivates me as the thrill of hearing a "wow, you made this for me?" from the lady, followed, of course by a big smooch!!
For me, gifts provide a reminder of my connection to an individual. They allow me to reminisce over all the little details over our moments together, and the aspects of the individual's personality and demeanor that I adored. This reminiscing usually starts at the point of the gift itself and why it was given.
A box of chocolates, for example, tells me that you cared enough to give a gift, which is greatly appreciated, but says nothing of your personality at all, or your connection with me.
Personal gifts fall into one of two categories: "I wanted to share this item or activity with you because" 1) "it's personal to and/or represents some part of me in some way" or 2)"I've gotten to know you and really listened to your interests, and I want to demonstrate this." (Personally, my favorite is #1 ).
Hungry's example of scrimshaw and JohnGalt's example of organic produce and eggs from his garden are prime examples of something personal to them that they wanted to share. However, it doesn't have to be that complicated. I absolutely love books, and some of the gifts I most cherish were stories and non-fiction that certain gentlemen valued in some way, and wanted to share with me as a result. SolaLove mentioned a homemade CD, another excellent example. Anything that somehow represents something you enjoy and want to share with her as a result.
As for #2, it should be pretty obvious. Any item you might choose because of something you specifically read on her website, her posts, or through your interactions with her. I specifically don't put up a gift list, because it feels too much like a shopping list; it's highly impersonal. Some of the items I've received as a result of a gentleman considering my website or words-teas from around the world (I'm not a coffee drinker), French wines, a marble apple (for "forbidden fuits"-the running joke was I could use it as a self defense weapon if a gentleman ever got out of hand , and a kindle.
Not every gift needs to be quite so personal. But, as I am a bit of a "play big or go home" sort of gal, if it's not going to be personal, I'd rather it just be in the pictorial form of dead presidents.
My issue with gifting something like a book or cd is, I always feel super presumptuous in assuming anyone wants to read or listen to what I think they do.
I like things that can bring sweet and sexiness to our date. Candles, oils, mutual body rubs, a light meal/snack to be shared, and great books if you can find was she's into. I have a lot of books from erotica already so I'd prefer things more in line with my real life interests. I always love pretty and thoughtful cards. I always thing it's funny to see wish list that ask for a Kenmore washer/dryer.
I have also given thoughtful tokens to friends as well. Or to a newbie who is nervous.
Personally, I don't keep a wish list. I just mish you were here.
in a gift that represents you. Even if the book/CD doesn't end up on her Top 5 books/CDs of all time, the specifics of the gift itself say a great deal about who you are as a person, and how you want to connect with her. If you have to question whether the lady is truly interested in getting to know and forging a connection with you as a person, then you may not be seeing the right ladies.
That said, I admit that it can sometimes be a little bit difficult to find a personal gift she'll "mesh" with, but if she's worth her salt, just paying a bit of attention to her (non-ad) posts and to her words when you are together should tell you a great deal about her personality and interests.
I tend to spoil my regular with gifts, after a few visits I purchased her a couple beautiful Betty Boop elegant dolls that is what she likes. Her and I had a long discussion on gifts, this was her answer. Get me gifts I can use to help her in life, told me her favorite place for a massage, the place where she gets her nails done, wine (she has expensive taste), Stop&Shop gift card, Edible arrangements, Dunkin Donuts coffee (LOL) but not a dunkin donut gift card she enjoys making her own, and don't get me to many chocolates to make her fat. Good luck
Thanks to everyone who jumped in on this. It was good to hear both sides of the equation. Still don't know exactly what I'm getting but I certainly know where to start. Thanks again!
I might bring a jar candle in a flavor I enjoy... and matches... she does the honors while I'm in the shower.
A Fav I bring sugar free treats as she can not have sugar. Another Fav, I've brought DD muffins to a morning appt... I know she has a kitchette to make hot beverages... also know there is plenty of time. I have brought music CDs with mixed results.
If I really wanted to gift, but was unsure, a lingerie gift card, VS or Fredrics of H. But then you don't necessarily get to see what she purchases. skb
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, and a kindle. 
