I finally had a Civie date and I must say, it went well and I was amazingly charming.
I do feel that providers have indeed helped my self esteem and me coming
out of my shell but "Let That Go"
Should I tell her on our second date I have had to pay for sex due to my shyness?
Your thoughts if any?
no.
what do you think you should do if you ever have a civvie second date?
that's the real question.
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Are you feeling guilty because you banged quite a few escorts?
But it's only a first date. Did u have sex with her and at least was as good as half of one of your atfs?
I'm afraid you grew up in a guilt-friendly religion
you were going to marry your 18th review
that you've come out of your shell! Now how do we get you back in?
We pay them to leave....du
Are you going to post a review of your date?????????/
heck, whip out your ipad, log in, and show her your reviews, so she fully understands you. Then spark up the Boston board and show her your posts. She'll appreciate your honesty and likely fall in love with you.
Just wondering, before your date, did you talk to any of her old boyfriends to learn of their experiences with her?
Did you shower upon arrival?
I dont care to know what is going on in everyones lives and nor do I think that what I do on daily or hourly basis is anyones business,or interesting. Then I come to the TER board and continually find escapade 1946 jumping up and down saying " look at me! look at me,! Mommy I did poopies! Arent I special?"
Posted By: I_am_brian_fellows
heck, whip out your ipad, log in, and show her your reviews, so she fully understands you. Then spark up the Boston board and show her your posts. She'll appreciate your honesty and likely fall in love with you.
Just wondering, before your date, did you talk to any of her old boyfriends to learn of their experiences with her?
Did you shower upon arrival?
Everyone is entitled to a secret life. Leave it a secret.
I do agreed with Claire, my biggest mistake was when my ex-husband and I agreed for me to do this business, he was fine with it until 10 years later (which I was already retired from it), he used that against me stating I was doing the business to make me look bad after being married for almost 19 years. He did this to cover his ass and lied to everyone about it, which we all found out that he was living in a double life. He did divorced me and then 1 week after the divorce was finalized, he married her and then divorced her, because she was a gold digger. So, no matter how much you think you are in love or falling in love, it is best not to say anything. I never though ex would turn on me like that. So think about this very carefully.
it is right thing to do and you start off on the right foot; go for it...
Tread carefully Esc. Second date might be a little early for such revelations. While I do advocate honesty in any relationship, you have to handle this particular situation delicately.
Ideally it would be something you would tell her before having sex with her the first time, as the reaction to "Wow, that was great, and oh-by-the-way, I've slept with 30 prostitutes in the past 6 months" might not be received too well. People unfamiliar with the "Hobby" instantly envision street walkers jonesing for their next fix with a needle hanging out of their arm. She would likely freak-the-fuck-out.
You also need to be able to assure her of your good health if and when you decide to tell her, And that you have been inactive for a period of time. (Like since you and her started dating.)
You may want to try to get an idea of her feelings about the subject of prostitution, trafficking, escorts, etc. It would give you a sense of how your "admission" would be received.
Mention an article you read about the woman in Sweden, Eva-Marree Kullander Smith, and how horrible the whole thing is. See where it leads.
Open the door before trying to walk through.
Alternately, you never ever mention it. Ever.
You put it behind you and never look back. (assuming you have ceased activity) It's not the kind of information you can bring into a relationship a year down the road and expect a good result.
Good luck.
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you should keep your mouth shut. I would be willing to bet it wouldnt go over well. There are very few woman that are open minded enough to be ok with it.
On Date #2????....That's a Shit Show WAITING to happen. The list of good things that would come of that conversation couldn't be shorter.
Try for a moment to reverse the situation... if you knew nothing of the hobby's existence. You were just out there in the traditional dating arena.... Would you be ready to hear she were an active Pro??...I LOVE random questions & admissions in a conversation....but would you be ready for THAT random admission on the second date??? (or at all for that matter??) Eeeehhhhh...... probably not.
Posted By: escalade1964
I finally had a Civie date and I must say, it went well and I was amazingly charming.
I do feel that providers have indeed helped my self esteem and me coming
out of my shell but "Let That Go"
Should I tell her on our second date I have had to pay for sex due to my shyness?
Your thoughts if any?
When you tell a civi about the hobby:
her reaction will be to immediatly stop seeing you.
Then, when you persist, she will tell all friends about what a creep you are.
When you continue to explain your position she will get a restraining order.
When you break the R/O by continuing to justify your position, you will be arrested....
When you get arrested your PC access in jail is not going to include TER you will get deadly sperm backup.
When you get DSB your balls explode!
Don't tell civi's about your hobby.
