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Well said !!! (E)
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Do they work out for you?

I have done it and have been mostly taken advantage of (sad face)

I want to help, but why are some so .... non responsive after you have  
given them money in advance?

Your thoughts if any?

Show up, pay up, have your fun and go.  A girl who needs to borrow money from her clients is not a true professional.  She needs the cash and is not interested in pleasing you after the fact.  Once she spends that money her focus is on making more money, not in repaying the debt.

Pay as you go... Always the results don't match the initial agreement.  Experienced it several times with the same results you mentioned :(
 The money goes to secure the current needs and future "credit" appointments generate no revenue to the provider... So you figure out what priority you're going to get ;)

I've heard many stories..."need money today" from girls I like and would be happy to help.  But I know what happens.  You lend money and the girl who normally answers on the first ring does not answer your calls any more.  If you want to be nice, book an hour with the girl.  $300 should get her through the next a day or two.

One time an ATF sent a text begging me to see her  She had "$2 to her name" she said .  I could not do GFE that day due to recent teeth marks and did not have the balls to say "no" so I took her out to lunch and gave her $100 for non-GFE time.  This got her thru the crisis and my next hour with her was extra special.  :-)

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I have a friend who can not always come see me when I am in a bind, he has helped me 2-3 times and I have always been extra good to him!   However he has also offered help more then a dozen times and I have declined, especially if car trouble is the issue as I dont feel comfortable getting help when I am not sure my transportation will get me there to repay!!

I have heard horror stories of people being taken advantage of!

One person lent a provider 3800, same day girl changed number and disappeared altogether!

Also heard of a friend helping a girl get an apartment  in exchange for a date a week...never happened!

Be careful if you consider it and just like with anything never loan out more then you can afford to lose!!

Be safe, be smart  

Love, Penny XXXOOO

Posted By: escalade1964
Do they work out for you?  
   
 I have done it and have been mostly taken advantage of (sad face)  
   
 I want to help, but why are some so .... non responsive after you have  
 given them money in advance?  
   
 Your thoughts if any?

In my younger days I fell for this, lucky for me I'm only out less the a grand.  

But I have learned my lesson, Never loan money, unless you can afford it, and don't plan on seeing it payed back

I had this experience once.  I really wanted to help her because I liked her so much, so I gave her $100, and she said she would do a half-price hour later on.  We did have one more date, but it was hard to set up as she was avoiding my calls and texts.  When we finally did meet she said she would have to charge me full-price because she was so short of money at the time.  Then she left the biz.  The worst part was not about the money, but about souring an ATF-like relationship, and then never seeing her again.

Takeaway lessons - If you want to help her, give her some money. Make it clear it is a gift, not a loan.  Never expect repayment or future considerations.  If you want to see her again, it might be better not to have the money issue lingering on.

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You hit the nail on the head! I helped out a provider who was caught in hurricane Sandy and had a rash of health problems that required multiple hospitalizations and surgery. (I know she was on the level, I saw her hospital discharge papers and picked her up from the hospital.) She promised she would pay me back, but I knew it would be a stretch and wrote off about $10k I saved her car from repossession, kept her fed and in her apartment. She worries about repaying me sometimes, but I remind her it was a gift with no strings. I know with all her other debt, she is in too deep with me to ever pay me back unless her career suddenly takes off into the stratosphere. I couldn't live with myself if I stood by and did nothing while she fell off a financial cliff. She was distraught over her situation, and I was the difference between her and a complete melt down... knowing that is all the reward I need. This old Marine has lived too long and been in too much combat to worry about money... it's just green paper. (or binary code on a magnetic strip!)

Very unfortunate.... :(

Sucks when girls rip you guys off and makes it difficult for girls who are truly genuine. I see why you'd be so reluctant in helping or putting a deposit down. I've required a deposit from time to time and it's like pulling teeth. With payment in advance I'm exclusively  yours and wouldn't jeopardize my reputation because of stealing (promises to repay & etc) another person's hard earned money that wasn't mine to begin with

That is just silly.. We show up for our appt. We pay..We play..We leave..

Prepaying is nothing more than a scam.. Regardless of what is said.. It is all part of doing business.

Do you pay for dinner or any services before received???  I would hope not..  

Hobby Safe Y'all..

Well said! Great point I see friend in the hobby looking "friend" a provider in the hopes of freebies or companionship or the connection they think they feel with a lady and boom they get a taste of reality and they get fooled. Find a lady make a deal upfront if need to negotiate whether it be money or time or whatever then stick to your deal and pay. Leave get more money and repeat

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