I personally love using toys. I just started as a provider though, so honestly I haven't been sure if I should show up with them, so this thread has been helpful. I was worried that if I showed up with toys, folks would think I was too extreme or doubted their ability.
But yea, toys are great. I was in the BDSM world for a while and grew a fairly big collection of really fun things. My toybag got stolen last year at a con though, so I'm just rebuilding. Its cool though, there are some really interesting and gorgeous toys coming out on the market that I may not have gotten otherwise. My issue is that I often go for aesthetic over practicality- I always have to remember balance really gorgeous things (like the rosebud plugs) and practical things (I really miss my double sided dildo). I am actually been hoping to learn how to make the drill-do. I have a friend who can do it, so once they get free- those are def being added to my collection
How important is it to use toys during a session? Some weeks I use them so often I go buy new things so I don't get tired of the same old ones. Some weeks no one at all is interested in them.
Is it something you guys hope we pull out because it's kinda novel and you don't get to see them used/use them often, or could you really care less?
If there weren't a very well-established lady called Strap-On Jo, I'd created a BDSM ad called Strap-On Ally.
I used to be really shy about using toys on myself in front of others. Misusing/mishandling them on others was also a fear that inhibited me. So really, only in the past two years or so have become interested in toys and increasingly hardcore with it lol. Rae Monroe introduced me to the doublesided dong and I haven't looked back lol. Love my glass dildos, vibes, eggs, beads, plugs, straps etc. etc. Most people indicate in their contact its something they *may have an interest in or they mention a curiosity or enjoyment of it in their first session & then I know to come with the arsenal.
Some girls' clients bring them flowers. My clients bring me power tools.
I am for anything and everything that brings a woman to an orgasm. The voyeurism part of it, watching a woman pleasuring herself, is a huge turnon for most guys I would think, it is for me. I think it is really important that the provider is really into them though, otherwise it might be somewhat mechanical. Lets face it, none of us want to do anything we are uncomfortable with . I wish more providers who enjoy using them during a session would advertise as such, it can be awkward asking for it.
If you can see it on the internet...well I'll try nearly anything once. Or three times just to make sure.
Interestingly I was tinkering around looking at pictures saw a very similar picture on another well-known provider's Twitter posted MONTHS before me. So apparently there are a lot of guys are running out to Home Depot to get drills and bits to attach dildos to to replicate the "fuck saw" LOL!
When my guest brought it it reminded me of the chair George Clooney's character was building in "Burn After Reading" so I thought it was neat.
What is this game for if not experiments? I can dig it. Just gotta "take it" slow at first baby LOL
Well if my boys get too vocal I occupy their mouths quickly if I can with my pussy, otherwise I find a ball gag or bridle bit gag works very nicely as a reminder. Also nice dfk keeps the noises to a primal groan and sigh. I myself am a breather not a screamer however, becoming breathlessly delirious after serious playtime can be rather fun!
I think thats another reason why I avoided toys for so long lol.
I had visions of being like some pirate wench growling in hoarse voice "yeaaahhh, watch me take my 14 inch cock".
Like, what? Ugh. Ewww. The vagina is a muscle with memory and everything but dang you can only go so far for so long. LOL
I am still pretty generally content with fingers, toes, tongues and a mangle of limbs : ).
But a lot of guys like toy play to them...and a lot of guys have a fetish for watching a girl orgasm repeatedly, orgasm denial play etc. and that is where the gadgets come in lol.
But then maybe "the best lover in the world" might just be a guy who's handy with tools! (For some women at least) lol I always ask, should I bring my tool box?
I feel like it should be more like something that could actually happen between the two of us. Or, at least, I'd like to feel that way. I will totally admit that if I even suspect that a woman is playing at, or faking anything it just takes me right out of the experience. The ladies who start screaming & panting as soon as my tongue touches their tasty bits just make me want to roll my eyes.
That said, I have been known to ask a lady about her favorite way to get off and then follow through. I hope that makes her more likely to enthusiastically reciprocate, but maybe that's me letting the fantasy get the better of me.
There is NOTHING sexier than a woman's honest orgasm.
I've always got plenty of toys for my partner and myself. It never gets old and I'm continually buying edgier new toys. I've got everything from Anal hooks and standard didos to electro cock toys. I find more and more gentleman willing to push their boundaries and enjoying a little ass play on themselves. I have met the not so sure curious to the all out fist me boys and love it.
My personal favorite toys for myself are the deep g spot and clit stimulating dildos that guarantee a sweet but hard O every time. I have one that has a delightful sheet soaking effect and can cause a squirting overload in the right conditions. It is of course my favorite but it can wipe me right out!
I haven't found many that bring toys to play with. Actually in 5 years I have only seen a couple that did. Others may have had them but we had fun without them so it wasn't mentioned. I guess I am too shy to ask most of the time.
I'd love to find a toys friendly gal !! There was one that advertised in Tewk for a while but she seems to have "retired"? Should have taken her up on the offer while I had the chance
When I was active in Atlanta it was not uncommon for me to purchase toys and give them to ladies providing we got to enjoy them together. I never showed up with used toys.
For me it just brings another level of playfulness and intimacy into the session. I started out initially with small, g-spot stimulators to use while going down on a lady and eventually moved up to buying my last favorite lady a Hitachi. We had lots of fun on my massage table but eventually it all came back to the chemistry. We just got along well and the sex was always great, well at least for me. She would have to speak for herself!
I am looking forward to becoming more invlved in New England's lovely offerings.
Something about pleasuring myself in front of a man with his chosen apparatus - something I know that he chose especially for me, envisioned me rubbing on my naughty bits - makes the toys so much more appealing to me. Rather than a simple "thank you" and a kiss on the cheek like other less intimate presents, I can take my time and give him a good show to let him know *exactly* how much I appreciate his gift
I also like going shopping together, so that we can pick out something that we will both enjoy. It may ruin the surprise element of the gift, but it does make for some rather stimulating conversation, and hopefully a very satisfying purchase and playtime!
Just as you said though, chemistry is key. Toys will obviously feel awkward if we feel awkward together anyway.
I personally love using toys. I just started as a provider though, so honestly I haven't been sure if I should show up with them, so this thread has been helpful. I was worried that if I showed up with toys, folks would think I was too extreme or doubted their ability.
But yea, toys are great. I was in the BDSM world for a while and grew a fairly big collection of really fun things. My toybag got stolen last year at a con though, so I'm just rebuilding. Its cool though, there are some really interesting and gorgeous toys coming out on the market that I may not have gotten otherwise. My issue is that I often go for aesthetic over practicality- I always have to remember balance really gorgeous things (like the rosebud plugs) and practical things (I really miss my double sided dildo).
I am actually been hoping to learn how to make the drill-do. I have a friend who can do it, so once they get free- those are def being added to my collection
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