I would have given her the time, hey shit happens, but as long as she is communicating with me, I'm good with the waiting a little longer.

Also as long as you still have the full hour/hours with her. Her being late should never cut into your play time.

just my 2cents on the matt

ten to fifteen minutes is nothing, and I'm sure I've waited over half an hour.

As long as they are communicating with me, no biggy.

Now, if no communication, then 30 minutes is it.  I had one gal call me 90 minutes after our date was to have happened.  I had already driven home.  She said she fell asleep and had the phone set to silent.  I said I'd be willing to come back in and then she hung up.

That was a WTF situation

I usually try to allow for extra time for small delays in order to get to my next appointment. 5-10 minutes isn't too bad.

However, there are times when getting started 30+ minutes late just won't work because it will (1) bother me and (2) keep me from getting to my next destination on time. On a few occasions, I've had to cancel / walk away and explain that the late start just doesn't fit in with my schedule because another obligation.

The most I've ever waited is about an hour, but my post-meeting calendar was open that day. On that occasion, it wasn't worth the wait and I doubt that I'd hang around that long again.

One of my happiest occasions was when I showed up early, made the call as arranged (a little early to let her know I was there), got VM and, almost simultaneously, a canned text to "please call back in 5 minutes." I set my phone timer and, before it went off, I got a call, a friendly hello and the invitation to come right up! And that was a great time

You have seen her before.

I assume an agency in which the other date
Ran over. Which i prefer not to think about from the parking lot.  

Im out!

Fortunately my schedule is flexible most of the time. This is the best way to go.  I remember back in my early hobby days driving into Boston and the girl said she would be 15 minutes late. I canceled and went home upset because I barely had enough time open for the hour and drive back home.  If she started 15 minutes late, I would not have time for the full hour due to my tight schedule.  I learned my lesson from this and have not put myself in a similar situation since then.

These days if a woman has to delay, I can make calls, send texts, and have stuff to read in the car to pass the time.  I've even sat at the hotel guest computer and read TER, ha!

90+% of women are on time for me.  Maybe because I book mostly 300/hr women.  I would suspect the tardiness issue is worse with women on the lower end of the price scale.

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I'd say maybe half the time folks are on time, no real correlation between indy and agency but anyone who tends to have a full schedule will have a higher risk of cascading delays.

5 to 15 min late is pretty common, but doesn't bother me as long as I get the time I scheduled (which I always have).

Longest time was 2.5 hours, but I was sitting in a bar with a lot of nice scenery so I stuck it out and in the end it was a great time.  Second time (same person, yes this is a weird business) was 1.5 hours with several "another 15 minutes" texts before I gave up.  She's been on time every time since though.  Other than those outliers, worst cases have been 15-30 minutes.

Scheduling your next commitment too tightly is not recommended in this business, although I have often done a drive / stop and have fun / catch a plane scenario, which can be a little risky.

I agree with other posters than if you are losing your zen karma, probably best to bail rather than have a bad time.

I'm not counting the handful of times people just no showed (no call, no contact, sit around and then bail).  For those, I tend to wait maybe 15-20 minutes and then just call it a day.  Always a bummer when that happens.


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In my experience, the first ten minutes is not too unusual. But a second 15 minutes is a good indication she's not even there yet and you if you think she's independent, may also indicate she's with an agency.

MY schedule is flexible, I'll wait as long as I am able. If my schedule is loose, it's no problem to grab a coffee or drink and kill 30 minutes or so.  

Quite frankly, I'd rather hear "I'll be 30 minutes" rather than "I'll be 10 minutes" repeated three times over...  

I always try to schedule when I have an extra 30 minutes on either side of the appointment time, for just this type of thing, traffic, etc. Scheduling too tightly just adds stress for me, when the whole point is to have fun

You shouldn't have to wait at all.  I don't want anyone lingering in the parking lot of the hotel for any amount of time then coming to my room.  That's asking for some attention you may not want.  It's disrespectful to keep you sitting there.  Two adults should be able to meet on time, epically when one is doing it as a business.  If a provider leaves you sitting like that, leave.  There's a reason she's not ready on time and it may not be a good one.  There are plenty of ladies that will treat you with respect.  You don't have to settle for that.