Hello Boston, I want to give my thoughts today on a topic that is pressing on me. It's about giving references. In general, it's not mandatory for a provider or agency to give references or to vouch for a client, but honestly, I've never encountered a situation where I was refused a reference from an agency or provider. But today it happened for the first time, and I'm a bit discouraged. A gentleman wants to see me, but only has ONE reference and it's an agency in Boston. He's a p411 member but has no okays there. So I'm relying on the reference system in order to make this appointment happen. I was very kind in my email to the agency, as I always am in requesting reference. I offer information about myself so they know I'm safe and legit. I mention my website, that I'm reviewed on TER, a p411 verified provider, and I ask so nicely if they would mind to let me know if this gentleman is a safe person to see. The reply they emailed me was that they do not give out references in protection to their clients and models. I asked if they would if he contacted them first to say it's ok to give me a reference. The reply was "Regardless if he calls on your behalf we still will not give out any references." So to me, this looks like a tried and true demonstration of hoarding clients. If a man cant get a reference then he cant move on to see any other girls besides the agency girls. I really am sad about this. I have always gotten back to girls quickly when they need a reference. We all need to be safe and not end up in a ditch somewhere. That goes for both the gentlemen and the ladies. All of us are precious unique beings. We have a past a present and a future. Some of us are doing really great things for others, and have good hearts and intentions. I really don't want to complain. But this is just something that I can't wrap my head around. Do some providers really not care about the safety of other women or their clients? Do they expect to keep their clients within their clutches by not giving references for them? Since 2006 (when I began) I've never had this happen where I was blatantly refused to be given a reference. While I offer proof on who I am with my reviews, website, a friendly gentle email, p411 verification... everything that makes it easy to get back to me and help the gentleman out.  

Let me just say, that none of you will EVER have an issue when asking me for a reference. I would never refuse to help another women or man stay safe. Nor hoard a client and try to make it difficult for him to see other girls. I never even considered to hoard my clients or refuse a reference request. Just saying, please girls, have integrity and empathy for others. We really do need to be kind to one another. While there is no written law that any agency or provider must give references, please think for a minute, how will you feel if something bad happens to her or your client just because you had selfish issues that kept you from reaching out a helping loving emphatic hand.


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