There is no correct answer here, but I can give you personal guidelines that work for me:

The one hour GFE starts when you enter the room.  You are paying for 60 min of the ladies time, which she should be devoting to you.  If she takes a break for a phone call or cigarette she should be knocked for it in your review.  You are expected to leave at the end of the hour, unless invited to stay.  Any extra time is “off the clock” unless agreed otherwise.

Some guys like conversation.  I’ve read reviews where guys complain the girl is too quiet.  I am not much of a conversation guy and have a better use for the girl’s mouth.  I tend to make the most of my hour.

My “off the clock” experience includes time after the appointment taking girls: grocery shopping; to the bank; to the pharmacy; to the train station; out to lunch; even took one girl to the MSPCA because she wanted a rabbit.  I’ve left and come back with food.  Understand I do not expect any GFE “off the clock”.  This time is all conversation or eating.  No kissing in public for me.

I have been out of the hobby for some time, so my comments apply to earlier times…

In my experience, most independent providers have been quite generous with their off-clock times, just as I have been generous with my donations and gifts. Repeat appointments have almost always resulted in even more generosity on both of our parts.  After all, one would assume that repeat appointments wouldn’t happen unless the first one was satisfying on more than just the physical level. So, my conclusion is that if a session goes well, one doesn’t need to be worried about getting some “off-the-clock” play time and conversely, if the session doesn’t go well, one wouldn’t want to linger for longer than what you paid for (and possibly didn’t get)!  Of course, if the provider has an appointment booked right after yours, the above comments don’t apply.  I generally try not to book ladies who find the need to book at such frequency.

Just my 2 cents.

As an indie gal I feel that if you book an hour that time should be dedicated 100% to you!  Now some of my friends keep updated on my life and they may ask a few questions, if it is done in that way I go by the actual time. ( I always try to avoid any interuptions including my phone, so if you the client bring it up I take it as a need for a breather on your part, after all our time gets real intense) However if they ask at the end of the appt we are likely to just chat off the clock! When invited to join a friend for lunch after an appt I consider that just friends hanging out!

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This is an excellent post.  When I click with a provider, I genuinely enjoy talking with them and learning about their lives, especially hobby related stuff. If you're hitting it off, conversation can be a huge part of the experience.

I have been with a few SPs that have spent an inordinate amount of an appt talking about their own "stuff" - and missing (or ignoring) polite, non-verbal cues to start (or restart) the action.

If I need to remind the provider why I am there in the middle of an appointment, or feel like I need to persuade the girl to do what I am already paying to do, it destroys the illusion and is a major turn-off. Plus, we all want our mileage to vary on the "distance" side of the equation, right? Ain't gonna happen if you have to act like a jerk just to get things moving.

A simple touch, kiss, or verbal hint should be enough to break the ice and get things moving if time is a factor.  But if you have to bluntly interrupt someone just to be like "hey, we gonna do it or what??", it completely ruins the mood. Sometimes it's hard to know where the line is between being nice, polite, and patient, and when you are being taken advantage of, even if it's not necessarily intentional.

In my experience there's a higher likelihood of this happening with a less experienced, younger provider, who may be nervous or on the fence about whether or not providing is for them.

Nice post, DL.

I don't know what the difficulty is. If you can count and tell time it's easy. You pay a set amount for a set amount of time, let's say $300/hr or $5.00/min. there are rules and within them, you get to do what you want for 1 hr. I like to cuddle & small talk with most of the women I see in between pop #1 and second attempt (some successful & some not. If you stay over by not allowing time to shower and taking a 15 minute one overstaying 10 minutes and don't at least pay $50, you're ripping off the lady unless she says she doesn't have another appointment and invites you. Same with the ladies. If they jump up, get dressed and ignore you. The date is effectively over and you got ripped off. If you tell the girl that you have to leave, it's the reciprocal of being invited to stay longer and you should not expect a refund etc. If you're laying with a girl and talking about subjects that she chooses, you're on the clock! If you ask for another bj or something and she refuses while you have time, she's ripping you off. See the pattern? I think these are the basic rules. Guys, don't overstay the paid time and ladies, provide the full time!

The interesting thing here is that we expect the provider to be both GFE (not a clock watcher, interested in what you think, wants to make a connection) and a professional (knows what time it is, gives you value for money, anticipates your needs).  Given that there is an inherent contradiction here, I find it's best to be responsible for my own session.

I don't want the escort to be a clock watcher, but I am (as discreetly as possible).  I typically have 90 min or 2 hour appointments because that's how long it takes for me to enjoy her and get off, without feeling pressured.  I never plan to push beyond our agreed time, but I also want to make the most of the time we have.  

That means that if we start late due to my lateness, I assume I am only getting the remainder, for full price.  If we start late due to her lateness (let's not talk about providers being late checking in, having trouble with the maids, asking you to confirm on the day of the appointment but then not picking up their phone when you get there, etc.), I always ask, "Do we still have (the agreed time)?" at the beginning.

It also means that I like to get into it pretty quickly, then rest and talk, and then have another round.  It's not terribly scripted, but there is a flow.  There is ample time for talking and cuddling, and I get off.  If she is seriously messing with my enjoyment and ability to get off, I would probably be as upset as you were.  

She was being unprofessional because she didn't anticipate your needs, it's as simple as that. Not a terrible crime, but whether I saw her again would be a function of how hot the sex was, that's all.  There are some women I don't click with and once is enough.  There are some I will make allowances for.

In the end, I agree with you that it's always the best course to be polite and gracious, even in disappointing circumstances.  Nothing is guaranteed and there is always another day (until there isn't).


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Re: On the subject of Time

i haven't read through all of the posts, but i usually just assume an extra 20-30 mins just for my guest showering before and/or after, or maybe a lingering conversation at the door at the end.  it doesn't reflect in what is given for time and companionship.  it's such a small amount of time yet it can completely change the tone of the appointment by making everything feel less rushed.

whether taking the extra time before my guest arrives to do hair/makeup/moisturizing/etc... or taking that extra time to make them feel special while there, it's definitely worth it for the overall experience.