fits my circumstances to a T  !   Many thanks to all the saviours out there !! Fine women past, present, and future !!

Count me as skeptical. I suspect there are New Jersey husbands, Oregon husbands, Denver husbands and husbands in whichever city she's getting paid. It's a better line than "I should be paying YOU!" at least.

Did she know that you were a "New England Husband" before she said it?

... I am in DC, and most of my gentlemen callers have terrific marriages, professions, and children.  Their life behind closed doors may not be perfect, but they do not want to lose their sense of "family", scandal their firm/company/constituents, or lose half their fortune.  Just my .02

Hugs and Kisses

There's as many stories as people in the naked city

as there are providers and hobbyiests.  Everyone has a story to tell.  Well, almost everyone.  
People are people.  I don't think of myself as saving marriages but providing a necessary service.  

And no, I never would say, "you should be paying me."  That sounds a bit disingenous.  I truly love what I do.  I am passionate, fun and love to kiss, and am honest enough to admit that, I like the other perks, too.  

New England is an intensely materially oriented place. In most marriages, the men and women both work.

The problem is that with the woman also doing what used to be strictly the man's job of providing family income, the allocation of tasks at home didn't change, and if there are children, the woman still does most of the pickup/dropoff/packing lunches, laundry sort of stuff.

As a result of this mis-allocation of labor, the woman is not in the mood for sex. This becomes even more of an issue if the woman's need for financial stability and status appearance is not met.

Men and women have a different hierarchy of needs, and for women generally the desire for sex won't materialize if she is feeling taken for granted, put upon, treated unfairly, resentful, etc. Basically, all her other needs have to be met first, whereas for men, the sexual need has to be met as a prerequisite for the man to be interested in meeting other needs. Because this hierarchy of needs in a relationship is inverted with the man's prerequisites being the woman's optional and vice versa, once the woman stops wanting sex, the man stops trying to fulfill her prerequisite needs and a vicious cycle is entered.

It only takes one partner to break the cycle in many cases, though usually neither partner has the knowledge or insight to do so, feels the other partner to be totally at fault, and believes the other partner needs to "fix things" when really the problem is mutual.

So things go unfixed and will likely remain that way. I have no doubt that both parties are to some extent loyal to the marriage and simply seek to have some of their needs met elsewhere without endangering the marriage as a whole; but anyone who has ever seen guys listed with their full names on the NBL simply because they had a flat tire realizes that hobbying is just as dangerous as an affair depending a great deal on the luck of the draw.