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rodins 21 Reviews 987 reads
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to everybody who responded...  much appreciated.

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Hey fellow bostonians (and visitors, as well of course) - I recently ran into a situation which resulted in missing time with a lady I had wanted to see for quite some time, and wanted to see what other folks thought about it -- and the manner in which I dealt with it --

Received a text from a lady I have corresponded with but never met that she was going to be in town and asking if I wanted to get together -- that in itself was a little odd, because I generally don't communicate via text since I am concerned about potential for indiscretion -- one never knows when a text will pop up, so to speak...  In any event, we arranged a get together via text, and including an admonition that I not cancel, since I had had to cancel on a previous visit due to work obligations - All was set, and I arrived at the hotel at the appointed time, and texted her that I had arrived...  No response...  Took a walk, and about 8 minutes later than my appointment time, got a text w/ room.  I returned to the hotel, and went to elevator, only to discover that this particular hotel requires a room key to operate the elevator  -- no mention of this had been made before..  Got off the elevator, texted that I could not come up without assistance --

Then received a text back -- now it is 15 mins past the appointment time -- suggesting I try to piggyback on a hotel guest to get upstairs...

At this point, I just gave up & decided the better thing to do was to leave, rather than get involved in a potentially embarrassing interaction with a guest or hotel staff about why I was trying to go upstairs but didn't have a key...

I texted her my concerns about punctuality and the elevator situation, and declined the appointment without further contact...

I have seen other ladies in hotels where the elevator/key arrangement is the same, and always been apprised in advance, and arrangements made to meet discretely in a public space..

Did I overreact?  I'm interested to hear what folks think...

Thanks.

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suckpump1552 reads

if the woman is staying at the hotel it was a suprise to her that you would need a key card to go upstairs, she had to use it to get upstairs her self.  so why not give you the heads up and let you know about key card. she probably thougth you would cancel.

also i see ads where they tell you to text them not to call them and for what it is worth i just move on. if a provider is too busy to talk to me but not text well she is not for me. also when i am seeing someone new i like to hear their voice to get a sense of the person.

just my 2 cents

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czcodger1114 reads

and careless.

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mrfisher1284 reads

When the elevator requires a key, she ought to come down to the lobby and escort you up with her.

Better still is to avoid hotels that require keys to operate the elevator.

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KatieKuada988 reads

Posted By: czcodger
and careless.
Most provider review boards and provider pals recommend hotels without card access.

The whole situation is odd. I think you saved yourself a major headache. Always go with your gut.

I've never stayed at a hotel with card access but, at times in NYC, before a certain times I have to go downstairs to get my early morning visitors. Gentlemen who come at 6:30 or 7 often need me to come down. Nonetheless, I know and plan for that in advance. I wear a black trench coat, corset, garters, thigh highs, and a nightie.

Also, I don't text.

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Charlie1011192 reads

Some providers will and should come down to meet you.

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impposter1885 reads

Fortunately, the few times I've had elevator issues while hobbying they were properly handled (she came down).

I used to have no problem innocently piggy backing (non-hobby visits; convention badge but no hotel key) but some places are getting a lot tougher. Once you are stopped or questioned about using the elevator you are on their radar as a serial murderer trying to gain access to their secure areas and they do not take their eyes or cameras off of you ... so it seems.  

In a hobby situation, that does not help her, either.  A bunch of guys trying to sneak upstairs get stopped and are now being watched closely and subsequently the same hotel guest comes to bring them upstairs, like clockwork. And an hour later, the smiling guy comes down alone.

I think you did the right thing.

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DT_lover1153 reads

In fact the majority of hotels in the Copley area have this "security" feature.  

One of many reasons I prefer the suburbs.

As for your situation, the girl may not want to see you again.  Be prepared to move on.

I'm sure a lot of ladies don't even know about the elvator issue until they are checked in and it's too late to get another hotel.  No easy solution to this problem.

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Kat_RT1339 reads

Hotels with elevators requiring key cards are just a no win situation for a provider offering incalls. Clients attempting to sneak up will eventually attract the attention of the hotel staff. A provider coming down to bring up clients every hour or so will attract even more attention much quicker.

xoxo Kat oxox

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burned-once1247 reads

agree that e-keys are buzz kills and the eye in the sky is a problem.  however, with some advance research these hotels can be avoided (duh, a phone call with a "my aging aunt can't handle the complexity" will ID e-key hotels.  just book around them.

don't agree:  most back bay hotels have e-keys.  won't list those that do or don't....but as far as I know, there is one in BB and two in the theater district.

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rodins988 reads

to everybody who responded...  much appreciated.

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lisa03021240 reads

Question, did you ask her to come down, or just leave. It doesn't sound like you gave her any options

Maybe she would come down stairs to get you. I hate key cards, especially when doing outcalls to a gentlemen hotel. Its awkward.

She could have been a bit more prepared and told you ahead time when texting you prior to you even showing up. That is just common courtesy. Not every guy likes the whole key card situation.

-- Modified on 1/25/2012 12:16:24 PM

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gagauhlala1199 reads

He mentioned that he texted her about the elevator and said that she suggested he try piggyback with another person in order to get on the elevator. She could have right then and there (especially since she already knew about the card since she had to use it in order to get into her room).

My feeling is that with the "delay" (by her) about the appointment and then the nonsense about the elevator is that she had gotten a better deal and was simply blowing him off.

Quite frankly she knew about about the card requirement and should have simply come down in the elevator and gone back up with him. Simple. Asking him to piggy back with someone else is ridiculous and she should know that he could have very easily raised not only eyebrows with the employees but also could have put her at risk if they noticed what room he went to and then watched for an unusual amount of traffic to that room. Don't think it happens then you are wrong. I've seen it happen where a lady was asked to leave a particular hotel because of the high number of visitors she was having.

Of course the other thing that comes to mind is her basic lack of intelligence. :-)

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