You could ask one of the ladies you have seen to whitelist you. You could join date-check or RS2K

I hope this helps

And #1 is:

This is dangerous shit.

Meeting strangers for sex through the internet (sex for money, no less) is dangerous.

Providers risk their health, general well-being and very lives every single time they open the door for the purpose of meeting a man for the exchange of sex for money.

Married men risk their family lives, professional lives and compromise the privacy & comfort of everyone in their lives each time they choose to seek personal pleasure & gratification outside of the "sanctity of marriage."

There is NO WAY TO MITIGATE THESE RISKS OR DIMINISH THE IMPACT THAT THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR BEHAVIOR MAY HAVE ON YOUR LIFE AND THE LIVES OF OTHERS SHOULD SOMETHING UNFORTUNATE BEFALL YOU.

Can you handle this?  If so - hobby on.
If you can't ... get a civilian girlfriend OR a 9-5 desk job.

With that being said: MidAtlantic the only thing that keeps most clients who clamor for discretion content are references.  However, given the fact that so many bad boys have become hip to the fact that they need only treat one woman well to abuse a dozen these are worth virtually nothing for many providers.

There is no middle ground.  We draw our boundaries and either find ourselves compromising (and compromised) OR with more time on our hands that we would like.  The only option is to find providers/hobbyists who are similarly inclined.

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There are limits on both sides....

I completlely sympathize with you Mid-atlantic and also with Jill and Ciara.  

There is no universal rule.  

Certain providers/agencies have requirements that will never suit some of us (such as work phone numbers or insistence upon showing a drivers licence opon arrival) -which are reasonable, but simply just a no-go for some individuals.

Others are happy with direct personal references from easily contactable other providers.

It does mean that we all have to live within our limits of risk tolerance.  This also means that there are some highly desirable providers that I will never have the pleasure of meeting and some times when I seek to hobby but "draw a blank/strike out"....but c'est la vie!

Nobody is wrong, nobody is right, we just have to operate within our own comfort zone.

I might be the nicest guy on the planet (actually that IS true!) but I not passed screening requirements for some providers on the one hand, but have met some truly amazing and sensational companions on the other hand.

I say find your comfort level and enjoy your hobby within your own tolerance limits!

George

but the verification sites have worked well for me. Date-Check and Preferred 411 are both very good, and you can have your references right there for the ladies to see.