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MaxyNiceGuy 18 Reviews 1352 reads
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Im sure I am not the only one here (Client) who is very concerned and careful with how much and to whom I give out my information to. We have had this conversation many times before and its proven that the comfort level of clients vary greatly!

As far as I am concerned I will not even bother to contact a girl, no matter how hot she is or how much I would love to see her if she asks for anything more then my name and my Ph#! I am very willing to give her my handles on a couple well known sites that I am active on where she can see that I am certainly a "good guy" by simply reviewing a few of my posts. In my eyes that should be more then enough proof that I am not a freak, murderer or LE.

After what happened up in Maine I would never provide a working girl anything more then what I have stated above. Now if you want to provide exactly the same information you are requesting of me then maybe I would re-consider....you see, how do we "Clients" know you are cool???

Anyways, you are 100% correct, its your business and YOU choose how you wish to run it, thats the great thing about this country we still do have some rights left to make choices..Best wishes and stay safe!

sweetnicole11412 reads

Well its not in my book.
It carries very little weight. By itself it carries none.
Here's my example
A guy wanted to see me and planned on using his 2 white list providers as refs.
Well one was from 6yrs ago and the other 2yrs ago.
Nothing recent.
Oh did I leave out he didn't want to give me his name...yah that too.
There's no right and wrong here as are as refs and verification goes its preferences.
Its what each of us are comfortable with.
A 6 and 2 yr old refs means nothing to me they are too old to be valid in my book.
I do not like making arrangements via pm email me, and when I ask you to call call me.
And when I was not satisfied with is refs he gave me shit telling me it should be good enough....well to me its not and I don't appreciate anyone trying to tell me how to run my business and where to draw the line on my comfort level.
I see many great Gentlemen and screen many guys for myself and others and none has an issue with my screening

I have no intentions of bending my rules it just ain't happening.

Well that's my bitch for the week...

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GraceShepherd866 reads

I have a tendency to view each screening method available to me as another resource tool in my screening toolbox. Some are better than others and you've got to use them all. I don't like it either when someone waves whitelisting status as if it's something to bow to. I still need those references and their name. So I understand your frustration.

He may not realize how he came across in his moment of being heated and steamy wanting to meet you and maybe feeling his sails got deflated a bit. Sometimes in the process of trying to both get what you want communication can fall apart and go awry because of tone, inflection, word choice etc. Who knows maybe the winds shifted?
Have a better night!

:-)

Grace

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Nyx_GG815 reads

Whitelists are a nice addition to other screening information, but alone they're worthless. Especially when they're that old.

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MaxyNiceGuy1353 reads

Im sure I am not the only one here (Client) who is very concerned and careful with how much and to whom I give out my information to. We have had this conversation many times before and its proven that the comfort level of clients vary greatly!

As far as I am concerned I will not even bother to contact a girl, no matter how hot she is or how much I would love to see her if she asks for anything more then my name and my Ph#! I am very willing to give her my handles on a couple well known sites that I am active on where she can see that I am certainly a "good guy" by simply reviewing a few of my posts. In my eyes that should be more then enough proof that I am not a freak, murderer or LE.

After what happened up in Maine I would never provide a working girl anything more then what I have stated above. Now if you want to provide exactly the same information you are requesting of me then maybe I would re-consider....you see, how do we "Clients" know you are cool???

Anyways, you are 100% correct, its your business and YOU choose how you wish to run it, thats the great thing about this country we still do have some rights left to make choices..Best wishes and stay safe!

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yajtsenre870 reads

If my screening can not be done with my name, home phone, cell phone, by reading my reviews or a PM from this site, I may be able to bug someone for a reference but it's such a pain in the ass….why bother when there is so much talent out there. I have been with some providers who have screened me without even knowing I had been screened and refused only by two or three. If any of you ladies can work with the info I have please feel free to PM me, all of you are on my to do list.
How about a whales tale theme this week Nicole?

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sweetnicole11066 reads

no name just his Ter handle
only refs were to lod to be valid to me.
he was not willing to give me any other info.
Its widely misunderstood in my opinion that whitelisting is golden.
It all depends who whitelists you and from how long ago.
he was not offering any recent refs.

I agree each to their own but theres no need for an additude when you and I disagree on a comfort level just move on as you said theres a lot of talent out there.

sure we can do a whales tale.
I keep hoping some of our local hotties will hop on board and start a theme post...come on ladies...

xo
Nic

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LovetoDaty695 reads

A new client if he has no recent provider references at the very least should be willing to provide his name and work number/place of employment. Simple matter to google him, check linkedin, etc. Safety first, fun second.

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TrulyMsMocha592 reads

.... their board/post history too. Because if he's "known" he can't be bad right? lol

-- Modified on 1/24/2013 1:22:57 PM

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sweetnicole1776 reads

A well known hobbyist beat the living day lights out of one of our regular local gals.
He had seen many local ladies and was well known...then he snapped and kicked the shit out of this girl.
She had his real name so she pressed charges
if she didn't know who she was he could have had a better chance of getting away with it.
Everything we d is for safety.
Believe me I don't care about your info in the end just as long as the girls are safe after that I have n need for it.
But everyone we see is not a nice guy we need to be ready and prepared if need be to take it to another level.  Bad things do happen.
But again if you don't agree with see someone else there's a ton of hot ass out there waiting to play with you.

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MaxyNiceGuy638 reads

I understand fully the need for your and others verifications, no arguement with that...All I am saying is that it is too evasive for my comfort level so I would never attempt to book a visit with anyone who requires that sort of personal information...You have a choice who you see and we (clients) also have that same choice.

Your in a business that can be potentially dangerous, but also we clients take very similar risks, how many reports have you heard of where a client has been beat up, scammed, robbed or pushed around by a pimp, bf of the girl and such.....we take much the same risks as you but we have no way of verifying you??? The scales are most definitely weighted in favor of the smart provider...but again i do agree and understand with your need to verify, my choice for my safety is not to see a provider who demands too much of my info....I have seen some that have more questions then a mortgage application...come on!!! Theres gotta be a middle ground here!

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sweetnicole1701 reads

you are not taking the same risks no matter how you slice it.
we risk arrest and prosecution more than you do.
Possible jail time absolute embarrassment for our families.
Most of our clients out weigh us are stronger than we are and could easily hurt us.

we are taking risk with every new client.
you see a local woman well reviewed she has a following shes back channeled about good and bad.
If you do your homework and you are careful you should never have a problem.

I have been in this business for 7 plus yrs now and I screen but I also go on instinct as well.
This is what keeps everyone safe.

If a girl is a fruitloop it will get around fast shes nuts
so if you did your homework you would know this

Its not the same with clients some are new to this with no prior history so yes they need to fork over their name business info its what we need to feel safe.

We casn argue one side verses the other all day long but the bottom line is we need to agree to disagree is all.

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AbbyStClaire803 reads

we can learn that you are a 'good guy' and 'not 'a freak, murderer or LE'. WOW. Oh yes, I am getting really good vibes, warm and fuzzy, emanating from they screen over your post!

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MickyDeal818 reads

See I differ from you....for my part, I have no problem providing references but real names or non-hobby phone numbers are a complete no- no in my book.  References cannot bite you in the but, whereas real names truly can!  It just requires the right twist of circumstances and then the shit hits the fan!

But I completely agree, in this hobby, just like life in general, there is somebody for everybody!  No hard feelings, just move along peacefully and we will all find some perfect matches!

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BigNation799 reads

I'm a little surprised to hear that more people don't use verification services like D-C or P411.

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BigNation639 reads

I guess I meant the dudes. I'm surprised to hear about so many guys who don't use a verification service like P411 or D-C. I suppose there's an argument against everything,but I've not encountered any reason not to trust those services with the necessary details so they can then, in turn, assure the provider that I'm ok.

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MassGuy791000 reads

Valid points on both sides of the argument.  There has to be a level of comfort for both the client and the provider.  Sadly for the client there is no shield for their personal info and there is no guarantee for the provider that even having that info will keep them safe.  The P411 and Date Check have their advantages and disadvantages.  As long as there are variations in the screening processes that various providers use there is always gonna be disagreements.  I have had providers ask to see my ID when I show up.  I have had providers want to know my make and model and license plate on my car.  It sucks that this hobby has come to this that both providers and clients have to worry about their safety

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